Romantic Compatibility Guide

Venus trine Neptune

An overwhelming love

The emotional attraction between you two is so powerful! You both feel incredibly affectionate toward each other, even after all this time, as if you just can't get enough of being close -- of hugging, holding hands and stroking each other's hair back as you gaze into each other's eyes. But your physical closeness is just the outer expression of a very inner affinity. Needless to say, this aspect supports true love growing constantly stronger between you, especially if other aspects have helped bring you close. You two are swept along by the power of your love, and you find it easy to follow love's lead. Every idea you've ever had about true love has probably become real in this relationship; this could really be a dream come true, especially for your partner, who tends to get carried away by romance and affection. They go out of their way to make you feel great, even subverting their own needs and desires in order to meet and satisfy yours. You're very grateful for this luxurious, tender treatment, and you in turn go out of your way to return the favor. This romantic connection will only continue to get better with time.

Mercury trine Mercury

Familiar territory

You two think about things in similar ways, which is a great basis on which to develop a relationship. Even if you have different opinions on the movie you just saw, on the politics of the moment or whatever else, you have a great time debating the sides of the issue. You love picking each other's brains from the very beginning, and, you have come to depend on your lover's perspective. Everything that happens to you, you want to talk about it with them first, find out what they think, tell them what your impressions are and so on. Even when your thinking is different, you complement one another well. You both feel as if you're on the same intellectual plane, or at least complementary ones. You don't worry about your lover's ability to understand something that you want to discuss, or that they're smarter than you. You both know that you're both intelligent individuals with your own mental strengths, and you love the way your minds work together. So don't stay on the superficial level. Go ahead and bring up controversial subjects; dig deeply into each other's minds, because that's a major strength between you and a point of connection.

Saturn trine Uranus

A creative approach

Two such opposite people shouldn't get along as well as you two do! But you do get along. In fact, each of you derives a lot of benefits from the other's way of doing things. If there's any tension generated by your differences, it's most likely a creative tension that actually furthers your purposes. Your partner brings their spontaneous, high-flying creativity to the table and you bring your sensible, levelheaded approach to any problem, and then you two blend your strengths into one. Your partner is actually a really good influence on you in this regard; you tend to get a little too worked up at times about security and making plans, but they're able to jostle you out of this rigidity with their spontaneity and enthusiasm for life. They show you that it's okay to take risks from time to time. In return, you ground their sometimes off-the-wall ideas. You help them to see what's a good, calculated risk and what's just way too risky.

Saturn sextile Mercury

A studious approach

You have a serious effect on your lover, literally. When you two get together, you focus on serious matters. You're thorough in your thought processes together; if you have an issue to talk out, you do so with serious intentions to get past the obstacle and never let it happen again. This is a lot of pressure for a romance, but if your relationship is a long-term one, you're both glad for this influence, because it helps to ensure that you two always communicate well and carefully, and that you're considerate of each other whenever problems arise. You don't just help each other with problems in your relationship; you also help your partner deal with outside issues in their life, offering advice on anything from their career to their friendships to their family relationships. Other more difficult aspects to your relationship are aided by this generally positive one, because of the good communication it fosters. Any issues that arise find real solutions; any ideas either of you has is either grounded in a stable reality, or discarded quickly as unusable. You work well together; this aspect supports a business or creative relationship as well as a romantic one. Practical experience, knowledge and advice are a focus between you, and you both try hard to put your best effort forward in this relationship.

No Relationship Glue

Conjunctions between two people create a feeling of togetherness. Think of this planetary aspect as a powerful point of connection: For better or worse, the couple who has at least one or two conjunctions between them feels bonded, as if they've found a kindred spirit -- even if that bond is through a personality quirk that they don't even like about themselves! But you two don't have any conjunctions between you at all, positive or negative ones. In real terms, while you might get along like a house afire, at the end of the day, there's not a whole lot that's pulling you together. Sometimes you might even question why you're together at all; it's easy for both of you to forget the source of your attraction or the importance of your bond. That means you'll both have to work a little harder at reaffirming your connection, regularly reminding each other and yourselves why you're a couple. On a more positive note, having no conjunctions can mean that you won't hold each other back from taking the paths you want to take in life. You can let each other be who you are, without placing unreasonable demands on each other out of a sense of need or obligation.

Venus opposite Pluto

The urge to possess

If you haven't been careful to keep things cool and casual between you, issues of jealousy, emotional manipulation, possessiveness and control may have become major problems in this relationship. Your partner provokes an intense response in you, which felt amazing at first. Your sexual attraction to them is overwhelming, and you feel transformed by your intimate experiences together, as if you've finally found The One. But after a while, you began to affect each other's moods too much; when one of you is down, you both feel out of sorts. If you need some alone time, for whatever reason, your partner feels intensely insecure and abandoned, and they respond by trying to keep you with them by any emotional means necessary -- manipulation and passive-aggression are definitely possibilities. If I can just control my lover into sticking around, your partner thinks, and meeting all my needs whenever I want them to, I'll feel so much better! This is rarely true, though. Dominating another person never brings real satisfaction for either partner. Your individual needs for connection and love could keep you locked into this pattern for quite some time, unless you can find a way to communicate about all these big, overwhelming needs -- and figure out how to meet your own needs so you can come to each other free and clear of emotional baggage.

Venus opposite Saturn

An unequal partnership

When it comes to relating naturally as a romantic couple, this aspect could make it difficult or even impossible. This person may try to control your behavior, both in private and in public. For example, you probably don't feel free to just lean over and give them a kiss, because they'll give you a look to let you know they're not okay with public displays of affection. When you're together, you feel restricted, sober, rigid and overly self-controlled, as if there are outside forces pushing in on you, making you behave in a certain way. And their romantic expression toward you is definitely cool. The problem is that they want to stay in control at all times, which, of course, is both impossible and no fun, especially when you're fooling around together. Why would they want to maintain such control? The answer probably lies in some past relationships that set up a dynamic for them that they're now living out through you. And the other question is, why do you put up with it? Again, the answer lies in your own past relationships, what you've experienced before and what you're living out again through this one. You automatically set up a dynamic that sets them as the superior and you as the inferior partner. But you're equals, and you should exist as such in your romantic relationship. Where's the romance in trying to control each other and yourselves all the time? It's important to face this problem and deal with it, so it doesn't continue to block the complete development of your relationship.

Mars square Sun

A turbulent connection

Any relationship between you might not last long. Instead, it might erupt in a blaze of passion -- and then die out along with the fires of your emotions. The problem between you is one of mismatched temperaments. You start out disagreeing on many subjects, and the better you get to know each other, the higher your irritation, especially, climbs. And instead of being calm and honest about the situation -- looking clearly at your lover and at yourself and admitting that this may not be the best relationship for you -- you just jump into the fray, and your partner follows suit. Arguments are frequent, and often are based on the fact that your lover doesn't feel seen or supported by you. Annoyance is almost unavoidable for you; you start to see this person as thoughtless or inconsiderate, and you store up resentment as a result. Okay, this is all sounding rather dire -- so remember that it doesn't have to be this way. If you can both access your most patient, forgiving selves when you're together, you'll be able to find a compromise for any problems that arise. But most people aren't that saintly! We're all driven to some extent by our egos, and our own needs are most important to us. Thus, it's difficult to set our egos aside when confronted with an aggressive energy such as the one that is created by this relationship. Much compromise is needed to make this last.

Sun opposite Jupiter

Growth of awareness

Your bond has been very strong from the start, which likely gave you a sense of fatedness -- as if you're somehow supposed to be in this relationship, as if it's larger than either of you as individuals could possibly be. That feeling has arisen not from any actual karmic destiny, however, but from some basic differences between you that create awareness on a variety of levels. You each will remain focused on your personal growth throughout the course of this relationship, and may pursue that growth to the detriment of your bond as a couple. Either of you may end up feeling ignored or overlooked as a result, as if your individuality isn't as important as your lover's quest for soul-growth. And the truth might be that at any given moment, the individual growth of either of you could be more important than your bond as a couple. Though this doesn't have to be a negative thing, it is likely that you're both threatened by its influence, and you both respond in one of a few ways. You might try to assert your own vision of where the relationship should go, which will result in ego clashes. Or you might identify this urge to grow in yourself and your partner, and end up having overly high expectations of one another. The best response, of course, would be to try your hardest to support one another mutually in your personal growth arcs, and honor your relationship as well as your individuality.

Mars square Pluto

A power struggle

There is a strong sexual pull between you, which can be quite compelling -- and it could make you think there's more between you that's worth holding on to than there really is. This aspect is a really difficult one for either of you to handle, as it brings up so much anger, resistance, rebellion and aggression between you. Even if you're ordinarily quite placid, you know you're provoked more than you would have ever thought possible in this relationship! Unless other aspects between you help create a feeling of understanding and commonality, you two just have a really hard time getting along together -- except when you're being physically intimate, of course, and even that could take on a dimension of control and aggression that you should try to avoid. It's not that feeling angry or expressing it is wrong; that's natural. There's an element of aggression that can be exciting and appropriate in our sex lives. But the ways that you express your anger at your partner can be extreme; somehow, they bring up the deepest, strongest feelings of rage and resentment that you have hidden in the depths of your soul. You have to work hard to learn the lesson that this influence offers -- how to calm yourself in the face of rage; how to love someone right and treat them well, even when you're feeling as if you can't stand them. To a certain extent, you two just have to expect and accept that there will always be major battles and intense power struggles.

Jupiter opposite Jupiter

Opposite yet complementary

Your mismatched morals are hard for either of you to take in stride. Especially if other aspects between you point to an argumentative bent, you probably have a hard time staying calm when you're faced with a major difference in the way that you think about life in general. You might stubbornly insist that yours is the best or even only way to look at an issue; if so, your stubbornness might actually be a mask that covers the fact that you know you're not necessarily correct in your thinking, but you're just not willing to admit it. This aspect poses a chance for each of you to grow immensely in your view of the world -- if you can convince yourselves to listen to each other and respect your individual viewpoints instead of shutting each other out. That is the way to get the most out of this relationship. When education, spirituality, traveling and so on start to become major points of contention between you, take it as a sign that you should listen closely to what your partner's saying, and consider their beliefs. You can definitely learn something, and you could even find that your opposing viewpoints are actually complementary. You may even decide that this is part of what brought you together in the first place -- instinctively, you knew that each of you had something the other lacked!

Mars square Saturn

Learn to live and let live

This aspect likely produces negative feelings that fester under the surface of what could otherwise be a very good relationship. The problem is that you don't treat each other as equals when it comes to sex or work or anything else you try to accomplish, either as a team or on your own. Your partner usually tries to take the leadership position, telling you what to do and how to do it, and that can inspire rebellion at the least, or even anger. Haven't they learned yet that you like to be in the lead? Your sexual expression is similarly stilted; you rarely want the same thing at the same time, but you're both insistent about having your own needs met. Guilt and repression could become a part of your routine as a couple; you get excited about something and your partner tries to repress that enthusiasm like water dousing a flame. You two focus too much on respectability versus rebellion, outrageous behavior versus decorous comportment. And you always seem to be on opposite sides of the fence. The friction and tension mounts until you're both able to abandon any pretense or hope that you have about controlling the other's behavior, or directing them in how they use their time. Otherwise, you find yourselves being rather passive-aggressive, or even openly aggressive. Arguments and cutting remarks set the tone between you two unless you both make the effort to treat each other with respect.

Mercury opposite Uranus

Mental intolerance

You try to see things your partner's way and to get along as a couple should, but they just annoy you after a while, unless you can find things to do together that don't rely too much on conversation or agreement. You have completely different ways of thinking about things. You prefer to be more logical, using your mind as the precision tool that it is to seek out logical inconsistencies. You arrive at your conclusions after a lot of consideration. But that thoughtful approach seems limited or even dull to your partner, who is a lot more comfortable with suppositions and leaps of faith. You may find yourselves arguing, and if either of you tends toward stubbornness, watch out. Nothing can get resolved, because how can emotion or intuition win out over logic, or vice versa? Neither is inherently more correct or reliable than the other, but you both spend plenty of time trying to prove that your point of view is, in fact, the more valid one. Your lover, with their more creative point of view, might make fun of you for being a stick-in-the-mud, just because you like to think things through in a logical way -- which is false, and probably hurts your feelings, and definitely annoys you. But it also annoys them when you treat them as being out-there, unstable and even crazy! Some respect and acceptance is necessary to smooth over this difficult influence.

Saturn square Pluto

Disruptive transformations

This aspect doesn't make things easy between you, and can actually make it really hard to get along. Overtly, it feels to your lover as if you're a restrictive influence on the way that they would normally, naturally grow in their life; but subconsciously, it could be quite the opposite. Whether consciously or not, you each know just what the other needs to do to transform in life. Some big, deep-rooted need for change exists in each of you, and your partner, especially, can ferret that out, perhaps without even meaning to. Do you still have a little growing up to do? Get a firmer grip on your emotions or your path in life? Whatever it is that you need to do to get to the next level of personhood, your partner can zero in on it and press those buttons again and again. The problem is, having your buttons pushed can be really frustrating and annoying! When you're together, you never feel like you can just relax, have a good time and trust that things are fine as they are. There is always be a feeling between you that things are not fine -- far from it -- and that you'd better fix it fast, or else! But it's hard to know how to fix it. How can you fix something that's so deeply rooted, even unconscious? One thing is certain -- you won't be able to figure anything out until you abandon the idea that it's all the other person's fault, and none of your own!

Saturn square Saturn

Tension will mount

You don't see eye to eye when it comes to duties and responsibility in general. This is frustrating enough in realms that exist outside your relationship; if you have very different work ethics, for example, or senses of familial duty, or convictions about money and how much to save, how much to spend and on what, you find yourselves arguing your points again and again. Within the realm of your romance, any disagreement in this area is a real and immediate problem. If you have very different ideas about how much emotional security you need, how much work should go into the relationship and so on, you both start to feel angry and even depressed, fast. What if one of you wants a serious commitment and the other doesn't? What if one of you wants to go to couples counseling and the other thinks that's the worst idea in the world? You come to a major standoff, at the very least. Arguments and bad feelings only increase if you can't find common ground in these areas, because the stakes are so high -- or at least, they feel extremely high. This doesn't have to mean the end of the relationship, but it does mean lots of communication and compromise are necessary. But who knows? Through your struggles with each other, you might just push each other and yourselves to come to an agreement or a commitment.

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