Relationship Remedy

Sun in Aries

Headstrong and Headlong

Your relationship history is not unlike your house: It's littered with things you've started but not properly finished. Your little black book is full of names and numbers of people you've dated only once, because by the time they call you for a second date, you've moved on to the latest attractive 'thang.' It's only all the negative feedback you've received over time that prevents you from hurling yourself headlong toward anyone you find at all appealing. When you walk toward a group of people gathered together, they scatter like a school of fish evading a shark. You make the short leap to 'There's got to be a better way.'There is, Aries. In small quantities, many of your qualities are delightful. You're spontaneous, energetic, and can be counted on to be straightforward. Crank it up a notch and all of a sudden you're erratic, over-the-top and brutally honest. So, stop while you're ahead. Difficult as it is, keep an eyeball on the faces of those around you, for hints that you're going overboard. Moderate yourself. OK, OK -- it's true that you can't change your fundamental nature, but at least you can direct it toward sweat-inducing exercise instead of damaging current and potential hookups.

Mercury in Aries

Flying Thoughts, Fast Words

As everyone knows, communication is a key element to any successful relationship. Good communication entails two functions: speaking and listening. No doubt it's difficult for you to see this, but both of these areas have contributed to problems in your past relationships. For one thing, you interrupt people. It's not that you're trying to be rude; it's just that your mind works so fast, and you don't want to lose any of the million ideas flooding your brain, so the words come tumbling out of your mouth whether or not you're holding the microphone. Not that anyone can keep up with your machine-gun style of speech, but at least they give it a try.Not so when others try to speak. You see, in order to listen to someone else, you have to shut up. And that's not easy for you. Let's say someone does manage to get a word in edgewise. What do you do? Leap to conclusions before they've even finished speaking! No wonder they throw their hands up in despair and walk away muttering about finding someone else who understands them. Your formula for more successful relationships? Simple. You've got two ears and one mouth. Use them in that proportion.

Venus in Aries

Love Like a Comet

You know what you want when you see it, and you're certainly not shy about going after the object of your desire in love. Your audacity attracts some and frightens others off, but you are undaunted. The thrill of the chase is a big factor in your romantic process, so you carry on the pursuit despite their protestations. The more they resist, the harder you try. And the funny thing is that once you get them, you immediately get bored and start up with the wandering eye once again! Like a comet, your love light burns bright and fast, and just as quickly dies out.What you need is someone like yourself, someone as impulsive and impetuous as you are, who needs the same level of freedom within relationships as you do. Fair is fair, after all. You want your own way in your partnerships, and therefore must be willing to grant your lover the same courtesy. Sure, this will result in disagreements and even outright fights from time to time. Tempers flare, and then they fade. Next comes the best part: the kissing and making up.

Mars in Cancer

Holding It In

Here's a fact: Everyone gets angry from time to time. So it's not so important that you get angry; what's important is how you express it. Your tendency is to not express anger, but to sit on it. Why is it so difficult for you to confront and explain when someone has offended you? Instead, you hold it in, chew on it, swallow it and add it to the growing heap of similar situations. Has this behavior affected your past relationships? That's a resounding yes! You see, other people can feel your anger, even if you're not expressing it. It shows in your eyes, your body language, your behavior. A few angry words, which are over in just a few moments, are far preferable to the cold shoulder, which can last for weeks -- or worse, the passive-aggressive behavior you're known to indulge in. Don't expect others to figure out what's bugging you. Just say it. You'll find that your partner appreciates this direct method, and that the whole thing will blow over quickly instead of dragging on for ages.

Jupiter in Gemini

Head Games

Remember when you were in grade school, how you used to love to play not-very-nice jokes on that fussy, sensitive little girl in your class, and she would run out of the room, crying? And how you would laugh and make everyone else laugh, too? The question is, have you outgrown this questionable practice yet? In the past year or two, have you embarrassed your lover at a party or in a public place? And when they complained, did you shrug your shoulders and say, 'Hey, lighten up, it was only a joke!'? If so, here's a hint for you: Grownups don't behave that way.Here's your problem: You live in your head. You're so busy analyzing (or, more likely, overanalyzing) everything that you forget your own feelings, much less other people's emotions. And romantic relationships cannot go far without some sense of mutual feeling and attraction, and a hint of similar heart vibrations. When your mind is full of grandiose ideas and overarching principles, it's difficult to make room in your heart for the many emotions that relationships can bring up. Don't treat your lover like a dummy, either; explaining everything to them as if they were a child is sure to offend them, and doesn't give them the credit they're due. They can teach you a thing or two as well, mostly about understanding and appreciating your underdeveloped emotional nature.

Saturn in Leo

You're Better than You Think

Your difficulties in love come not from without, but from within yourself. Instead of feeling confident in yourself, building a strong ego or developing your obvious capacity for leadership, you flog yourself constantly for not being good enough. When others compliment you, you don't believe them. When someone indicates interest in you, you may not even notice it. Oddly enough, you may act as though you are quite superior to others, thus appearing stuck up and aloof. This mask of superiority is merely a defense mechanism, designed to throw others off the track. You're sure that they'll discover at any moment that you're a fraud.But you're not! Stop being so hard on yourself. Relax those elevated expectations and give yourself a break. In fact, you have an amazing amount to offer your ideal partner. If you will but open your heart a little for someone to love you, you'll immediately feel better. Bit by bit, love will flow stronger and stronger. You have an amazing capacity for love, commitment and loyalty. All you have to do is believe that it's possible.

Uranus in Scorpio

Exposing Taboos

Have you noticed that it's all the rage now to be bisexual? The world has you and your generation to thank for that; you are opening doors on new ways of being, particularly in the sexual arena. Experiences and orientations that have been taboo since forever are coming up for review. You and your peers open these areas confidently, seeking to find out what's going on behind the closed doors. You let the full light fall on subjects that were previously off-limits. In fact, you accept no limits on your sexuality; it's obvious to you that everyone should be free to love whom they want, when they want and how they want. This new way of viewing sexuality is only part of what your generation is called upon to open up; the human psyche is no less a target for your revolutionary ways. Your job is to shine the light on all areas that have been taboo up until now. The effects of the changes started by you and your peers will be long-lasting, indeed.

Neptune in Sagittarius

The Road to Learning

You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?

Pluto in Libra

Serious Relationships

You and your peers will revolutionize the arena of relationships and romances. As a child, you watched partnerships crumble all around you, if not your own parents', then the relationships of your friends' parents; and you decided early on that you wouldn't repeat the same pattern. You take relationships very, very seriously, and for this reason may wait to start dating or getting serious about anyone. You're not in any hurry, which provides you with enough time to understand yourself and your relationship needs. Don't delay too long, though! Fear of relationship can be just as harmful as hooking up too early. Your challenge will be in finding the right balance of independence and partnership, and in knowing how much of your personal energy to expend toward each.

Sun square Jupiter

Bigger than Life

It's lucky for you that you can laugh at yourself. That's a handy quality to have when you find yourself in those inevitable relational difficulties, which often take you completely by surprise. After all, you're generous to a fault, stately, wise and larger than life. It's hard to believe such a wonderful person could ever have problems with partners! You can't see that you appear just a bit egotistic, or that there seems to be an ulterior motive as you charm your way into getting what you want. At other times, you work at cross purposes with yourself. Fate throws obstacles in your way, and you make choices that create chaos and friction. Your exuberance overcomes good sense and commandeers everyone's attention. You get annoyed too easily, impatient with anyone who doesn't see it your way. You can be self-centered, overconfident and so driven to meet the goals you've set that you lose sight of the big picture. And you know what? That big picture is important, because it helps you keep your perspective clear and your priorities straight. Experiences teach you to enjoy others as much as you enjoy yourself.

Mercury square Mars

Curtailing the Curmudgeon

You have a basic relationship problem: You're a hothead. Easy to insult and quick to criticize, you get in fights over the silliest things, and pursue each battle to the death. These problems are at the very root of the failure of your past pairings. Though you make connections that are passionate and intense, they're also inclined to tumult, since you tend to view any difference of opinion as a threat to your ego. Not only that, but you also find yourself cursed with a curious compulsion to talk incessantly, or to blurt out the most inappropriate things, or a habit of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. You're going to have to work on your communication skills if you want future romances to be more successful. You'll never meld together smoothly with others if you don't put some time in. Schedule regular time to sit down calmly with a disinterested third party and work out your issues. If you feel yourself moving toward a rager, resolve to table the issue until your next session instead. If you can get a little distance, gain a little perspective, you can learn to appreciate what others have to give, and how to avoid alienating them.

Venus square Mars

Love and Lust

Mmm, everyone wants some of what you've had with your lovers: sweaty, sticky, lovely lust. Your connections have tended to get physical fast, simply because when you're really feelin' it, you can't keep your hands to yourself. Internally, you've got the receptive female energy meeting the masculine force with explosive and heady results. Lust tends to intervene in your relationships before love can develop, resulting in a series of hookups based on sex when there could have been true partnerships based on something deeper. It could be that one of you was using the other merely to slake a physical urge -- not a problem if both of you were on the same page, but nasty and painful if one of you was looking for love and the other just lust.The solution lies in extending your search for compatibility beyond the bedroom. Look for someone whose heart and mind appeal to you as much as their body. Talk about your values, your hopes, your dreams. Being close on the physical level does not an emotional connection make; you need to spend more time bonding and less time smooching. When you approach your relationships this way, good sex gets even better.

Mercury opposite Pluto

Love in the Lab

There have been times in your past relations when you felt like a lab rat. Was it your imagination, or did your partners kinda enjoy pushing your buttons? Your limits were tested, your reactions gravely noted. And when you finally fell into a towering rage, they turned off, cutting off the interaction as swiftly as a knife blow. It's all left you feeling confused and tender. But don't try seeking soft comfort in the arms of a lover who'll despise you for what they view as your weaknesses. It's time to stand up for yourself.If it's any comfort, the problems you experienced in your past couplings weren't your imagination. Your lovers really did have a rather cruel and secretive side, controlling and withholding. The thing you have to accept is that there's a huge -- if unrealized -- part of you that digs the semi-abuse. You like the challenge of trying to tame a powerful lover. You like having a partner who won't let you walk all over them. And the very fact that affection is doled out in such small doses makes it so heady that you get addicted. Don't fight it. Submit. Go along, get along. Speak for yourself and you'll find that your ideal partner treats you more like the intelligent human that you are instead of a science experiment.

Venus opposite Pluto

The Green-Eyed Monster

Acid burning in your stomach, your thoughts racing, your heart nearly beating its way out of your chest -- does this sound all too familiar? Your taste in the past has been for hot, steamy, simmering lovers -- lovers who then kept you entertaining a certain green-eyed monster. It was awfully unsexy. No wonder they didn't stick around: Would you want to come home to a lover who demands that you account for your time? Hardly. But as much as you wanted to play it cool, your possessive attachment to your partners seemed to make it impossible. You viewed everyone near them with suspicion -- and you even made some embarrassing scenes in front of others. So what's the key to smoothing this path? First, own your issues. Have you strayed from past lovers? Could this be the root of your worry that others won't stay true to you? Take an honest look in the mirror without projecting all your fidelity issues onto your ideal partner. You'll then be free to attract an ideal lover who is both powerful and faithful. Once you do this, you can start to formulate a plan for taking on your problems. Don't be afraid to start. Time to try something new, break out of your patterns, and create a passionate and equal future.

Jupiter opposite Neptune

Ghosts From the Past

Your needle's stuck in a groove, and it's been driving you crazy. You have the same conversations over and over with your lovers; the same fights, the same problems. Why can't you solve your personal issues and just move forward? The answer lies within your past, and how it feeds into all of your relationships. Either you, or your past partners, or both, have struggled with addictions or other unhealthy behavior patterns; in fact, you may still be struggling. Whatever it is that haunted your past has intruded upon your relationships. Is it your tendency to choose partners and friends who are bad for you? There's something unhealthy at work here, and you don't feel entirely in control. The very aspects of your past partners that you once admired and enjoyed were the same ones that drove you away. You lost tolerance for them. You became impatient. You felt you were stuck in a rut. For future success, you need to work on the art of compromise. No matter how perfect your ideal partner, you'll never agree on everything, nor will the ghosts of your past ever be put to rest. But if you can stop living life while looking in your rearview mirror, you are well-placed to drive down the road of love more effectively.

Venus quincunx Uranus

Caged, or Flying Free?

You're one who likes to handle your affairs with a light, sure touch. Others may swoon or weep in your wake, but you're the one on top, confident, smiling. That is, when you're not with a lover who flips your switch but good. Much as you hate to admit it, you keep getting lovers who do not return your amorous intentions. You were intensely drawn to these types right from the start. You ignored your good sense and went too far, too fast. Sometimes you felt helpless in the grip of a towering passion. Yet your lover wasn't similarly enthralled. Did you suspect infidelity? Did strangers call your house and hang up when you answered? Was your lover absent for unusual lengths of time?You fear all is lost in love, but this is not so. However, if you wish to hook up with a new and improved lover, you're going to have to work harder than you ever have before. You will not be able to make your ideal partner dance to your tune; instead, you will have to learn how to play it cool and not reveal how affected you are by them. Find a bird who will not sing in your cage -- and let it fly free. It will surely come back to you.

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