The Inner War Zone, Projections and Relationship Karma Meters:
You want the nitty-gritty, right?
You're ready to know the real deal when it comes to your own true nature and psychological issues... the ones that prevent you from finding and holding on to that ideal love you dream of.
Reading your Relationship Remedy report will give you that in-depth picture, but these three meters show an at-a-glance view of the lessons you have yet to learn.
Remember, whether your scores on the meters are high or low, you're in good company: We ALL have plenty of emotional baggage that comes from past relationships, our childhoods, and even past lives.
And we ALL have a lot of room for improvement when it comes to changing our lives for the better and improving our relationships, including our love connections.
7-10 Repressed anger, defensiveness and a seriously short fuse can turn your love affairs into an all-out war.
4-6 You've got some issues and inner conflicts to work through, but who doesn't?
0-3 You're so laid back in your relationships it could actually be a problem.
7-10 Seeing all sides of every issue is actually a detriment. You don't know what to believe!
4-6 You know your own mind, but you can see their point too. That's a good thing.
0-3 You see your sweetie as they really are...but do you understand them?
7-10 It's beyond time to work through your baggage from past relationships, or even past lives. Try moving forward!
4-6 Some of your relationship issues have been around for a while. It's time to sort them out now.
0-3 Good news: It's not just a new affair with the same old story. But can you compromise?
Your relationship history is not unlike your house: It's littered with things you've started but not properly finished. Your little black book is full of names and numbers of people you've dated only once, because by the time they call you for a second date, you've moved on to the latest attractive 'thang.' It's only all the negative feedback you've received over time that prevents you from hurling yourself headlong toward anyone you find at all appealing. When you walk toward a group of people gathered together, they scatter like a school of fish evading a shark. You make the short leap to 'There's got to be a better way.'There is, Aries. In small quantities, many of your qualities are delightful. You're spontaneous, energetic, and can be counted on to be straightforward. Crank it up a notch and all of a sudden you're erratic, over-the-top and brutally honest. So, stop while you're ahead. Difficult as it is, keep an eyeball on the faces of those around you, for hints that you're going overboard. Moderate yourself. OK, OK -- it's true that you can't change your fundamental nature, but at least you can direct it toward sweat-inducing exercise instead of damaging current and potential hookups.
As everyone knows, communication is a key element to any successful relationship. Good communication entails two functions: speaking and listening. No doubt it's difficult for you to see this, but both of these areas have contributed to problems in your past relationships. For one thing, you interrupt people. It's not that you're trying to be rude; it's just that your mind works so fast, and you don't want to lose any of the million ideas flooding your brain, so the words come tumbling out of your mouth whether or not you're holding the microphone. Not that anyone can keep up with your machine-gun style of speech, but at least they give it a try.Not so when others try to speak. You see, in order to listen to someone else, you have to shut up. And that's not easy for you. Let's say someone does manage to get a word in edgewise. What do you do? Leap to conclusions before they've even finished speaking! No wonder they throw their hands up in despair and walk away muttering about finding someone else who understands them. Your formula for more successful relationships? Simple. You've got two ears and one mouth. Use them in that proportion.
No one needed to teach you that the best escape from real life was love. Or what you call love, anyway: the intense fantasies, the constant daydreaming, the spinning mental wheel of romantic illusions. Your faraway gaze could only leave others guessing. And when you had an actual lover, it was even worse! Oh, the endless hours spent cuddling, gazing into your beloved's eyes, or walking slowly, hand-in-hand, along the beach. How disappointed you were when real life intruded! But you've learned somewhere along the line that often, the fantasy of love is better than the reality. Other people can disappoint you when they don't live up to your starry-eyed ideals. They jilt you for work. They just can't see all the wonderful possibilities that every relationship entails. Realists! You'd be most pleased with a lover rather like yourself: someone sensual, peace-loving and sentimental. You long for a tender, intuitive connection. Go on, indulge your fantasies a little more. Real life will be waiting for you when you wake up.
What did your past lovers have a problem with? Well, for starters, you couldn't sit still for more than five minutes. That made dinner-and-a-movie dates quite a challenge. Then there was your short little span of attention, the one that made it impossible for you to really listen and hear when they were pouring their hearts out to you. Finally, they got annoyed with the way you'd just blurt anything out, anytime, anywhere. It got so they couldn't take you out into public for fear of what you'd say.Is there hope for you? Certainly there is. Not that we're blaming your previous partners, but can't you find someone a little more lighthearted, someone who can bring out your playful side and focus on the fast-thinking, quick-talking person instead of on your deficits? Doing any type of physical activity together is good, so keep the jogging shoes or bike close at hand. Intellectual pursuits work, too, since they keep your mind busy. Your key to more successful relationships is to bring the lighter side to the fore.
You have a wonderful capacity to see the divine in every person you meet. It's too bad that this ability has so often led you astray, causing you to select lovers who never were able to live up to your idealistic fantasies about them. When you two broke up, you were crushed with disappointment. What you may not realize is that your lover felt like they could never be good enough for you, so after a while, they stopped trying.You can do better. You're highly sensitive and emotional, and although you don't like looking for faults in anyone, it must become a survival skill if you're to have successful future relationships. It all hinges on your ability to choose potential partners more carefully. Use your intuitive ability to hone out the bad apples, and follow your hunches toward the better ones. Choosing carefully is crucial, since once you are in a relationship, you will usually place your lover before yourself, and will go out of your way to serve them and take care of them. A partner who returns the favor is essential if you don't want to feel resentful sooner or later. You deserve the best; let your heart help you find it.
If you're one of the rare people who received unconditional love from both parents at an early age, your relationships are probably in fairly good shape, despite your reticence at expressing your true feelings. But if you're like most of us and suffered through an imperfect childhood, it's those experiences that have affected your relationships thus far in your life. Your feelings are wounded very easily, but rather than confront the person who has hurt you, you nurse your wounds in private and add the experience as the latest in a long line of examples of the reality of the cold, cruel world. You trust few, or maybe even no one. Your fear of connection is palpable, not because you're afraid of love, but because you're afraid of losing it. At this rate, sooner or later, you might get out of touch with your feelings altogether.You may always hunger for the emotional stability you lacked as a child, but that doesn't mean you can't find it as an adult. The big news is, there's more than one person out there in the world who can provide it for you. But to find them, you've got to believe it's possible. Let this be your mantra: 'I deserve love.' Cast out the disbelief inside you, and have faith that you'll find what you seek.
You and your generation are upsetting the apple cart when it comes to relationships: You're forging a whole new way of engaging with others on a romantic level. You've grown up to witness a huge surge in the divorce rate, and you resolved early on to do things differently from your parents. You may decline to participate in long-term relationships altogether, or you may completely rewrite the rules of marriage, factoring in the need for freedom within a relationship. Open marriages, having multiple partners at a time or having different partners for different personal needs are all ways of revolutionizing the world of partnership and romance. Your own relationship history will reflect the changes in the world around you. You and those born around the same time as you will leave a mark on the world that will last for many decades.
You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?
You and your peers will revolutionize the arena of relationships and romances. As a child, you watched partnerships crumble all around you, if not your own parents', then the relationships of your friends' parents; and you decided early on that you wouldn't repeat the same pattern. You take relationships very, very seriously, and for this reason may wait to start dating or getting serious about anyone. You're not in any hurry, which provides you with enough time to understand yourself and your relationship needs. Don't delay too long, though! Fear of relationship can be just as harmful as hooking up too early. Your challenge will be in finding the right balance of independence and partnership, and in knowing how much of your personal energy to expend toward each.
You keep landing in fairy-tale relationships, but not in the good way. You bought the myth of Love at First Sight hook, line and sinker, but there's no room for reality in your dream world. You were in love with love, not with your lovers at all. In fact, you never even really had an idea of who they were at all. You projected your dreams and fantasies onto a blank surface; what you thought you loved was only your own false vision. Somewhere in the back of your mind you knew that you were living in a fantasy, but you kept your eyes closed and just kept on dancing, hoping the music would never stop. Sorry, but it's not that easy. True love requires true vision and the occasional reality check. Next time, keep one hand firmly on the wheel of your relationship. Double check that you see what's there and not what you want to be there. You've got a lot of love to give. You can find someone who is actually a beautiful match for you, with much potential for growth in the relationship and as individuals. It's just going to take a lot more work before you hit the promised land.
Green has never really suited you. You couldn't help but be so jealous of your past sweeties -- you demanded every bit of their free time, you didn't approve of your their friends. And around the edges of your consciousness lurked the suspicion that you weren't the only one your lover had on a string. It's only natural that you felt that way. You kept choosing lovers with strength: powerful and intense, willful and secretive. Even when there wasn't something unsavory going on, they were apt to withhold information, affection, reassurance. You were left dangling on a string, wondering if you were the only one madly in love.Buck up. Part of the reason you picked those lovers is because you're turned on by the challenge. While other lovers may fall under your spell and allow themselves to be wrapped around your little finger, you prefer a lover who's a much harder nut to crack. You won't be able to control the situation -- but that burning, passionate intensity is what you crave. Tone down your jealous streak. Be a little more savvy when revealing your emotions. An ability to keep your cool is what's going to keep your ideal love relationship on track -- and you're a lot more attractive with a little mystery around you, anyway.
Let's be honest: You chose your past lovers because you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. You wanted lovers who would let you steer the ship, who permitted you to decide where you went and with whom. Partners who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams. You loved all that, but somehow it was never enough. Your partners were loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You felt like you couldn't trust them to always be there for you. Oh, they meant well enough, but they always found it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You began to feel like you needed something more solid and stable in a partner.It is true you will face many challenges in your relationships, but your love is strong and you can conquer your difficulties. You must tackle your issues squarely. Learn the art of compromise. Select a lover who can bend to meet you halfway; then bend likewise. Decide how you will keep your patterns from repeating. It will take discipline on your part, but with some time and practice these new patterns will come more naturally.
When your past relationships were on, they were so on. You felt passionate and intense, attracted to your lovers beyond all reason -- which is probably why you acted like one possessed. On the other hand, when your pairings went south, things got very, very nasty. Arguments erupted over things large and small: paying the bills, where to go to dinner, where your relationship was headed. You whined and sulked; your partner regarded you with unsympathetic distaste. You're not one to carry on emotionally, but something about those relationships brought out your weak, cringing, easily wounded side. It felt as if your lovers had all the power, and all you could do was cause irritation like a small stinging insect.If your partnerships are going to last, you simply must learn to give yourself the same respect you give your partner. Stop seeing yourself as unimportant and useless. Demand equal time and equal rights. You may think you're throwing everything away by standing up to your ideal lover, but paradoxically you'll win the love and respect you crave, which you never could and never will win by begging.
Let's start with the bad news, shall we? Although it may seem that you want more from your relationships than your lovers do, the problem does not lie with them. You're always so very attracted at first blush, it's true; you choose lovers who possess an original point of view and a stylish way of doing things that never ceases to impresses you. Every single time, you're charmed, dazzled, turned on your head. Passion sweeps you off your feet, and yet you rarely make it to the commitment stage. If they don't run away, you do. No matter how dazzling the connection, you choke at the idea of permanence, of fidelity, of restrictions to your precious freedom. Of course, if it was your ex who cut the ties, you think they were weak. You can't win for losing.If you want your partnerships to work, you simply have to adjust your ideas about freedom in relationships. It is possible, you know. You'd be bored in a conventional relationship, so don't expect your lover to be the cuddle-by-the-fire type. Instead, choose someone who is as unusual as you are and revel in a connection that's less constant, but more passionate. After all, who needs to snooze on a sofa when you can have long, hot sleepless nights instead?
There have been times in your past relations when you felt like a lab rat. Was it your imagination, or did your partners kinda enjoy pushing your buttons? Your limits were tested, your reactions gravely noted. And when you finally fell into a towering rage, they turned off, cutting off the interaction as swiftly as a knife blow. It's all left you feeling confused and tender. But don't try seeking soft comfort in the arms of a lover who'll despise you for what they view as your weaknesses. It's time to stand up for yourself.If it's any comfort, the problems you experienced in your past couplings weren't your imagination. Your lovers really did have a rather cruel and secretive side, controlling and withholding. The thing you have to accept is that there's a huge -- if unrealized -- part of you that digs the semi-abuse. You like the challenge of trying to tame a powerful lover. You like having a partner who won't let you walk all over them. And the very fact that affection is doled out in such small doses makes it so heady that you get addicted. Don't fight it. Submit. Go along, get along. Speak for yourself and you'll find that your ideal partner treats you more like the intelligent human that you are instead of a science experiment.
Things aren't always what they seem, particularly not in your tricky, difficult love history. On the surface it seemed as if your sweeties all had the upper hand. Your lovers were stingy with affection and attention, leaving you begging for whatever meager amount you got. Meanwhile, you sat and stewed over what you imagined your mate was up to when you weren't around to watchdog. But if you could have looked into your lovers' souls, you'd have seen a far different picture. In reality, it was you who was in control and held the reins, you who had your lover bewitched. It's just that your lovers were better than you at playing it cool.The key to moving past this rough spot in your relationship M.O.? Stop demanding what you feel is your due, and treat your next date as you'd like to be treated yourself -- with kindness and generosity of spirit. Stop expecting attention and affection; start giving it instead. Given a boost of confidence, your ideal partner won't feel as if control is slipping away, and therefore won't feel the need to grasp you in an emotional headlock. Your vicious circle will be transformed into a tender and sweet clinch. And isn't that what you want, in the end?
I hope you have enjoyed the valuable insight, wisdom and guidance of this astrology report. You might be a little curious about astrology and perhaps wondering how an astrologer can know so much about you!
Astrology is a mathematical system. It's all about applying meaning to numbers, or more specifically, finding meaning in the movements of the planets around the Sun, as viewed from our perspective here on earth. These planetary movements are easily captured and recorded with measurements, calculations, angles and so on.
That's why astrology works so well with computers, whose programs are also based on numbers and formulas. In 'the old days' -- thousands of years ago, when astrology was first recorded -- those early astrologers had to painstakingly observe the heavens and catalog their observations for the next generation of astrologers to build upon. Thank goodness for the computer age! Now we can simply use computers to make those calculations quickly and pull just the applicable pieces of information. Now, astrology is instant, based upon thousands of years of observations obtained through careful methodology.
Interpretations of planetary positions are based in part on ancient Greek and Roman mythology, but your astrological report is unique, describing you and you only. Even in the case of twin siblings, their birth charts differ from each other's in at least a few ways. And besides, no one amounts to just a simple interpretation of their birth chart; everyone's personality is complex. Your astrological report leaves plenty of room for variations based on your free will, personal growth and transformation over a lifetime.
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