Relationship Remedy

Sun in Scorpio

A Double-Edged Sword

Your past relationships fall into two categories, Scorpio: the quick, passionate, short-term hookups, and the deep, intense, passionate, you're-mine-forever relationships. Romantic partnerships are a double-edged sword, are they not? On the one hand, you deeply crave that ultimate, intimate connection, the one where you recognize each other immediately and crash into love before a word is spoken. On the other hand, such a partnership requires you to reveal yourself, to be vulnerable, to admit that someone else has something over on you. The dilemma wrecks you.The temptation, once you've thrown out yet another lover with yesterday's trash, is to fold -- to throw in the towel on this whole concept of relationship. You're not the first Scorpio to toy with the idea of hermit-hood. It would be a lot easier, you admit to yourself. But, the things you'd miss! The flutter deep inside when you look into your lover's eyes; the rising passion, the exquisite release. For this, you're willing to put up with a lot. And when you find that ideal love, the one who can meet you halfway, who proves trustworthy with your innermost secrets, whose passion matches yours -- this love is beyond compare, and well worth the wait.

Mercury in Sagittarius

Curbing the Blurting

There's a conveyer belt between your brain and your mouth, and unfortunately it lacks a filter. Consequently, any thought that enters your mind immediately ushers forth from your lips, much to the shock and dismay of those around you. You certainly didn't mean to offend anyone; you were simply stating the obvious truth -- well, obvious to you, anyway. While it's true that honesty is the best policy, it's not necessary to blow others out of the water with it. And thus spoke many of your past lovers, no?There's so much hope for you. You're awfully curious and eager to explore all sorts of subjects, which makes you a delight to talk to. You're well-informed on so many subjects and make weird and wonderful connections between them. This is not the area where your relational communications problems lie. You're so used to checking out the big picture that little details often escape you, and you don't always listen very well, either. Your ideal partner will command your attention, and you'll learn to preview your comments to see in advance how they might go over. This little step will provide big rewards in your love life.

Venus in Sagittarius

Free Spirit

The thing that makes you feel bad about your previous relationships is how many broken hearts you've left in your wake as your feet hit the road once again. You truly felt sorry to leave, but you just can't stay in one place for too long before you need to move on. The siren song of freedom and adventure is irresistible. The prospect of who's ahead down your road is much more exciting than the idea of sticking around with the one you've got in the bag. That would be boring, and you don't do boring.If only everyone else could rise above this whole silly notion of commitment and fidelity, life would be so much less complicated! For you, anyway. But until the rest of the world catches up with you, you're going to have to make do with the concepts of monogamy and faithfulness. Choosing a partner who's as adventurous and freedom-loving as you are would be a good start. That way, you can both come and go as you please and no one will get jealous! That sounds like heaven on earth for you, doesn't it? And it's not that far out of reach. So keep your ears perked for a partner who fits the bill.

Mars in Pisces

Passive Attraction

Your previous lovers have all had the same complaint: They were always the one to initiate sex. If they had waited around for you to do it, they'd still be waiting! It's not that you don't like sex, because you do, a lot. That dreamy, sensual space between time and reality is one of your favorite places to be; why then is it so hard for you to send a signal to your lover that you're ready to hop in the sack with them? Maybe if they weren't so gosh-darned aggressive, they'd give you a chance.Your ideal lover will realize this about you, and won't put any pressure on you to perform when you don't feel like it. You tire easily, so often it's better for you to wait till the morning, or at least until you've had a nap. You, more than most, are not at your best when you're exhausted. Once you find a lover who lets you set the schedule, who provides some sort of stability to your dreaminess and who shares their heart as well as their body, you both will be in happy land. Finally, a relationship with all of the joys and none of the pressures.

Jupiter in Sagittarius

Over the Top and Loving It

Don't you think you're just a bit over the top? If your answer is 'no,' why don't you ask your coworkers and anyone else who often shares your space? They may have a different answer! The next step is to ask yourself, 'How might this have affected my relationships?' The truthful answer (and you, of all people, love getting down to the truth) is that your past lovers got tired of you telling the same jokes in that loud voice of yours at every party you ever went to. They grew weary of your jovial habit of talking to everyone, everywhere. They didn't see the point of taking the 'scenic route' even when you were very late for an appointment (and even now you're probably exclaiming, 'Me? Late? Surely you jest!').Clearly you need a partner who is tolerant of your little foibles, someone who is just as unorthodox as you are and who truly enjoys your humor and sense of adventure. Perhaps they will come from a different country, or from an entirely different background. If you give each other enough freedom, you'll both feel happy, and they can simply excuse themselves from the room when you start telling that joke again.

Saturn in Gemini

Head to Head

Think back on your most recent relationships. How often did you utter the words 'I love you'? If you can count the number of times on the fingers of one hand, you have a big clue as to a major part of your relationship problems. You don't like to express emotions. Your thought processes are geared toward evidence, logic and what can be tangibly perceived with the senses. Feelings frustrate you, because they cannot be measured, calculated or based in historical fact. They are ephemeral, inconstant and by their very nature, impossible to confirm by facts or figures.Not everyone is in the same mental boat as you. Most people like to have the liberty to express their feelings at any given time. After you've required them to quantify their emotions, they don't stick around to tell you how they feel anymore; they move on to greener pastures. You're smarter than you realize; give yourself some credit, and stop expecting all forms of communication to be factual or cerebral. Create a pathway from your heart to your mind and articulate your feelings. You, and your partner, will be glad you did.

Uranus in Libra

Upsetting the Apple Cart

You and your generation are upsetting the apple cart when it comes to relationships: You're forging a whole new way of engaging with others on a romantic level. You've grown up to witness a huge surge in the divorce rate, and you resolved early on to do things differently from your parents. You may decline to participate in long-term relationships altogether, or you may completely rewrite the rules of marriage, factoring in the need for freedom within a relationship. Open marriages, having multiple partners at a time or having different partners for different personal needs are all ways of revolutionizing the world of partnership and romance. Your own relationship history will reflect the changes in the world around you. You and those born around the same time as you will leave a mark on the world that will last for many decades.

Neptune in Sagittarius

The Road to Learning

You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?

Pluto in Libra

Serious Relationships

You and your peers will revolutionize the arena of relationships and romances. As a child, you watched partnerships crumble all around you, if not your own parents', then the relationships of your friends' parents; and you decided early on that you wouldn't repeat the same pattern. You take relationships very, very seriously, and for this reason may wait to start dating or getting serious about anyone. You're not in any hurry, which provides you with enough time to understand yourself and your relationship needs. Don't delay too long, though! Fear of relationship can be just as harmful as hooking up too early. Your challenge will be in finding the right balance of independence and partnership, and in knowing how much of your personal energy to expend toward each.

Mars square Jupiter

Bringing Out the Best

There's something unhealthy about your relationships, and you're just beginning to figure things out. What are the unsavory acts or emotions your past lovers have triggered in you? Your worst side has been emphasized in the presence of your lovers; you became more aggressive, temperamental, egotistical and impatient, while their tendencies toward laziness and excess seemed to swell when you were around. You may still be paying off the accumulated debt you accrued with past partners (perhaps credit card debt, gained from your tendency to spend too much on fripperies), and you may still have difficulty keeping to a budget. Even worse, your sharply dissonant views on matters like beliefs, ethics, politics and education meant that you had difficulty finding common ground with past partners.Nonetheless, opportunities abound for a fine connection. You have a certain drive and passion, and are openhearted and loving. Potential lovers surround you. If you can find a way to compromise, a way to look past the differences you have and create new habits that serve you both rather than creating problems, then you can have a very solid and sweet relationship indeed.

Mars square Saturn

Holding Out on Love

First things first: Who's been holding out in the love department? Signs point to your past partners, who've been stingy with affection at the best of times. But certain developments have practically shut the store down, and whether you're with a partner or not, you're starving for physical contact. You'll go far trying woo any sweetie within reaching distance, but it's to no avail: They're better than you at playing mind games. You're outmatched. You're going to have to iron out your problems if you'd like to move along through this field of broken dreams. One thing you should know: Much of the reason why you're off your game is that you're enacting old dramas from your past. Just who can you think of who withheld love from you in your childhood? And how did you behave, given your high hopes of evening the score? Now do you recognize why you've become what you are? You've got to start unloading your baggage, one piece a time, before you can unwind the Gordian knot of your woes. If you change your behavior, you'll change your relationships, too. But first you have some deep thinking to do.

Mars square Neptune

Passion and Paranoia

Hmm, you've been in some pretty odd pairings. Assertive forces linked with watery dreamers. Opposites attract, don't they? It's likely you've been befuddled and bewitched by your lovers' mysteries. You couldn't see clearly where the two of you were, and it tweaked both your ego and your intellect. That's all fine and good, but there's been a dark side to your relationships. One or both of you repeated unhealthy patterns, bringing leftovers from the past into your present. There may have been issues around addictions -- to substances or to unwholesome behavior of many kinds. But worst of all, your relationships were insubstantial, misty, a thing composed of passionate nights that crumbled to dust under day-to-day stresses.You must learn to let some sunlight into your relationships. Stop subsisting on passion alone, and start actually getting to know the lovers you choose. Talk about your dreams; make plans. Make sure you're both moving in the same direction. Your ideal relationship could bring out the very best in you, but you've got to be willing to put in some work instead of just drifting along like two balloons buffeted by every wind.

Sun opposite Saturn

Don't Blame Them

In your heart of hearts, what you really want is a relationship that will last. You want to grow with someone, to have the freedom to keep changing across the continuum of your life and be assured that you have a partner who will roll with the punches. Yet you keep choosing those who wear you down with constant criticism and demoralizing authority. You'd like your sweetie to be the strong, solid type, a person who can make lasting connections and be loyal for life. Instead you pick distancers, and then blame them for your inability to connect.You don't fight with your lovers: You engage in cold wars. Yet if asked for an explanation of the problems you've had with past partners, you would lay responsibility at their door. Your lovers intentionally prick your sore spots, kicking you when you're down, right? Wrong! Oh, so wrong. The real story is that they won't let you rest on your laurels. The very best, and nothing less, is demanded of you. If you learn how to start delivering instead of whining, you'll find that you and your future special someone will have an easier path.

Jupiter opposite Saturn

A Kick in the Rear

When you got together with your previous partners, you were seriously attracted to the seriousness you intuited in them. They were your match on an intellectual level, and you felt they could go the long haul with you. And you chose well; indeed, your sweeties were stable and trustworthy. But it didn't seem like you were having a lot of fun. In fact, the more you tried to have fun, the more serious they got! The problem was that you were trying to mold your lover into someone who was, well, just like you. Though you always have big plans, your execution's a little lax. You prefer to dream the day away on the couch rather than actually get up and go. And it bugged you madly that your sweeties were always calling attention to this fact. Notice that they're not around anymore, and you're still spinning days away on that couch.Face it: Even though you don't like to be kicked in the tush, it still sends you in the direction you know you should be going. It just isn't as fun as you'd like. If you want to stay where you are, keep grousing. If you want to improve, buckle down instead. Don't try to sabotage your ideal lover's hardworking nature; instead, allow their industry to spur your industrious side. It'll bring you nothing but good in the long run.

Saturn opposite Neptune

Your Reality and Their Illusion

Misunderstandings cropped up frequently between you and past lovers, didn't they? It seemed as if you always ended up bewildered, apologizing for something when you didn't even know what you did wrong. Meanwhile, your lover pouted and sulked, wrapped in suspicion. Much of the problem was in the fact that you didn't communicate very well. You were distanced from your emotions, burying yourself in work and your goals instead. And your lover imagined the worst of you, making up scenarios and then treating you as if you had erred somehow, or as if you'd made promises that you wouldn't keep.You are simply going to have to learn how to see eye-to-eye with someone else, and you won't do it by ignoring your problems. Gather your courage and start talking. Reveal your feelings. It's uncomfortable for you, but you must begin, since your partners tend to invent information to fill the gaps you leave. Though you don't know it, your ideal partner's feelings and desires are much the same as yours and a comfortable familiarity will fill your lives once you break through your block. Go for it -- warmth is a lot more fun than ice.

No Quincunxes

My Way or the Highway

You've never been much for compromise, have you? In past relationships, when issues came up between you and your lover, you used whatever tools you had -- sweetly cajoling, arguing, turning a cold shoulder -- to get your own way. But why was having your own way so important? After all, other people have feelings, needs and agendas, too, just like yours. Who decides which person's need is the most important one in any given moment? That's a perennial question for all relationships, and except in the one between an infant and its caretaker, the answer isn't as simple as 'I decide, and my needs always come first.' Relationships, after all, should be about give and take. Sometimes you get your way; sometimes your lover does. Insisting on always getting your way not only makes you look uncomfortably similar to that aforementioned infant, it could actually lead to loneliness. After all, if it's a choice between getting your way or bailing out of the relationship, well, you'll end up either with a partner who's a pushover or sleeping alone. If you want a well-functioning, long-term relationship, you'll have to learn to choose your battles. The art of compromise is the perfect place to start your lessons, because if you give your lover a little, they'll probably want to give back a lot. You'll feel a lot better once you learn to step back and let someone else take reins from time to time.

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