The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
The two of you have an interesting situation. Certain planetary connections between two people, like squares, can cause stress, tension and disagreements in their relationship. The funny thing is, these stressful connections can also be the source of a lot of personal growth, because being faced with a problem can force you to deal with it, once and for all.Except you two don't have any stressful squares between you -- zip, zilch, zero! This is both good and bad news. The good news is, there's probably very little tension between you. Everything's just smooth sailing; you get along great, there's never any disagreement and you feel like the best of friends. But with all that good stuff comes some not-so-good.First of all, with no healthy tension to spice things up, things could get a little dull between you (yawn). Second, you might think everything's just fine, so you'll ignore any red flags that pop up indicating problems. Every couple has issues, but when difficulties arise between you two, you may not know how to cope. And third, and maybe most importantly, neither of you will be particularly challenged to grow in this relationship -- not such a good thing since relationships are usually a major catalyst for personal evolution.Maybe you're looking for a peaceful and, well, predictable connection, one that won't bring strife or disruption to your life -- a relationship where you can just keep on keeping on. If so, then this pairing may be a good one for you. But to find out more about how you interact together, pay particular attention to the chapter called 'Friend or Foe: Finding Balance with Oppositions.'
What a pair you and your lover make -- both vital and driven, passionate and forceful. You impressed each other from the beginning, and as time has gone on you remain no less dazzled by your mate's confidence and boldness. The bad news? All that energy is too often directed at tearing each other down rather than building each other up. You bicker over things large and small, each of you determined to win at any cost. Tempers flare easily -- you may even have heard from friends or loved ones that being around the pair of you makes others nervous, as they never know when sparks will strike. The answer in is accepting the polarities between you. You share many attributes, including a certain daring. But you will never agree on everything. Figure out ways to reduce your exposure to your lover's least-admirable qualities, and offer compromises rather than issuing demands. You'll soon see that you can sing in harmony. Don't think of the compromise as losing the battle that always seems to rage between you -- think of it as winning the ultimate war to keep it together.
It's not that either of you means to be unkind -- it's just that it seems so hard to understand each other at times. You are all logic and reasoning; your sweetie is all sensual good living. It's hard to find a place in the middle, as attracted as you feel to your delicious mate. Your lover may view you as cold and unemotional, while you may be impatient with what you view as your lover's laziness and oversensitivity. You get sick of catering to your sweetie's emotional whims. You feel like you need air. You're tired of intending no harm yet causing offense. And you're sick of being pressured to share in your mate's whirlwind social life.The answer is compromise. Your lover is very different than you, and there's something to learn from that as well as much to gain. Let your lover's sweet, loving nature be a balm on your soul. Learn from your mate how to connect more deeply with others, and try to be more accepting of what you view as their shortcomings. There is much here of value; don't throw it away without deep, deep thought.
You push and your partner pulls, you zig and your lover zags: It seems like balance is hard won in this clash of wills. You may feel as if you're doing all the giving while your so-called sweetie is taking you for all you're worth, sucking up the dinners you cook and the lovin' you dole out with nary a thought to reciprocation. Or you could be on the other end entirely, getting more than you give, which gratifies your ego but can never result in a serene and long-lasting love.On the other hand, all this turmoil is probably winning you some pretty hot canoodling. Opposites attract, they say, and you're living it. You may find yourself angry and passionate by turn, each emotion inflaming the other. So what's the secret to hanging on to the good stuff while eliminating the vicious battle of wills? Mutual respect is key. You each have to be prepared to give a little -- remember, compromise isn't giving in, it's granting your relationship the oxygen it needs to survive. What's worth more to you, getting your way or keeping your squeeze around? Yeah...thought so. Try to remember that in the heat of battle.
What a pair of cranks you are! Picky, combative, aggro: If it weren't for fighting, you wouldn't talk at all. OK, OK, that's not strictly true, but there is an awful lot of friction in your pairing. You see your lover as aggressive and too hair-trigger; your partner sees you as grandiose and yappy, like a little dog with a big bark. It's likely that when fights occur, your partner wants to just come up with an easy solution and then move on, while you want to belabor the point. All-night bitch sessions are your specialty, are they not? And getting all silent and stonefaced is your lover's, right? Neither one of you has any patience, and when you get started on one of your fighting jags, they're liable to last for days -- or weeks! But hey, on the good side, you picked yourself an equal. No wilting lily for you; you chose a lover who can keep up with you in every way. And ultimately, the challenge will be worth it. The key to calming your emotional storms is patience. If you can learn to slow down, calm down, listen to each other, and form compromises instead of issuing orders, you're in for one hell of a ride.
Ouch, must you be so callous? You've turned your confident lover into a whipped puppy with your here-today, gone-tomorrow affections. One minute you're passionately connected, the next you're itching to get out there and flirt, always with one question tickling your brain: Could I do better? Sure you could, you could always do better, but how many relationships are you going to chew through with your noncommittal attitude? It's fun to fall in love all right, but if you keep whipping through partners every time you get a little bored, you're going to find you've been feeding yourself junk food of the heart.What's needed is some frank and honest communication. Just what is it you're looking for in this relationship? How much time are you willing to dedicate to your mate? What level of fidelity do you expect, and are you willing to give? These are the kinds of issues that need to be faced squarely if you are to move on. Just hoping that things will work out on their own won't cut it anymore if you ever hope to iron out the disparity between your desires and your lover's expectations.
This one's knocked you off your pins. You're usually the confident one who breezes through life and love with admirable ease. But this time you've chosen a lover who excites you so wildly, who sets your nerve endings aflame -- but who can't be trusted even as far as you can throw them. What's your lover so darned secretive about? Who are the people who call and leave messages? Where is your lover when you're not about? The questions tickle your brain, and, embarrassingly, spill out of your mouth. You get no reassurance, only detachment. So you want to hold on tighter and thus the cycle continues.Part of the problem could lie in the way you're pushing to have everything all nailed down and tied up. You want to know your lover's intentions. But your lover isn't even sure of those intentions. So why push? You must know by now that it's getting you nowhere. Why not ride instead on your self-assured side? Be a little more mysterious and sufficient yourself. Your lover will come hither if you can ease off on the pressure, and you can start a whole new positive cycle instead of continuing your negative one.
A day late and a dollar short. Does that about cover it? There are so many good things about your relationship, but for whatever reason you can't quite seem to make it all hang together. You find your lover intriguing, oh yes, indeed, but you can't seem to get comfortable. There are awkward pauses in your conversation. You don't get each other's jokes. You can't make that comfortable connection that makes staying together seem more natural and easy than splitting up.It may seem as if inevitable doom is in your forecast, but that's not necessarily so. Individuals can triumph over the obstacles that make the path of their true love rocky, and you and your sweetie could be star-crossed lovers who persevere. What spells success? A connection so strong that it makes working a little harder worth it. Do you view your lover with an admiration that almost borders on awe? Do you feel you couldn't live without the love you share? If so, learn to be flexible. Take an interest in your sweetie's passions, play down the things you don't share, and you'll find that things will run more smoothly in time.
That old story about the tortoise and the hare is borne out in your pairing. You are the stolid tortoise, steadfastly working away on your ambitions, while your partner is the nervous hare, always hopping from one thing to another. Not only is that lack of focus annoying, it's distracting. You're not able to get as much done with your mate around, and it bothers you that your sweetie seems to hold you back from reaching your potential, rather than bringing out the best in you. It always seems like you have to be the parent, the one to to take care of business while your partner flits around socializing and having fun. You like the control, but the responsibility is a drag. You keep doing it, however, because if you don't, it doesn't get done.It's time to let loose of the reins of responsibility. Your partner's never going to step up to the plate if you don't start backing off a little. Start with small things -- where are you going to go to dinner? What's the vacation spot for this year? Then move up to more major decisions. It may be a slow process, but it won't move forward at all if you don't start the ball rolling.
Alone, in your most private of moments, you and your lover are quite a match. Your hearts beat as one, your touch makes your mate melt, etc. etc. But out of the bedroom things are not so rosy. There is much dissension between you and your mate, likely centered either on your social lives or careers. You are sensual and expansive, attractive to others and often surrounded by a crowd. Your mate, on the other hand, tends to be more reserved and conservative, needs more alone time, and is a bit punishing. Together you have a tendency to play parent-child, with the one playing the parent switching off from time to time.Both of you must learn to temper your tendencies towards extremism. You actually have much to learn from each other if you can stop fighting each other's influences and instead learn what you can from your differences. You could stand to be more directed; your sweetie could certainly lighten up a bit. Why not call a truce? Let the sweet harmony you feel physically radiate out to the other areas of your relationship as you learn to treat each other with more consideration and kindness.
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