The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
Venus square Mars
Is it hot in here? No, it's just you two. Mmm, everyone's wanting some of what you have between you: sweaty, sticky, lovely lust. Your connection got physical fast, simply because neither of you could resist each other. Opposites attract, so they say, and in your case they're absolutely right, with one's receptive energy meeting the other's force with explosive results. But there is (or should be) life outside the bedroom, and you two haven't had very much of it. It could be that one of you is using the other merely to slake a physical urge -- not a problem if both of you are in on the agreement, but nasty and painful if one of you is looking for love and the other just lust. One of you may also be very jealous and possessive of the other as well. The solution lies in extending your compatibility beyond the bedroom. Do you share interests in common? If not, better develop some soon. Talk about your values, your hopes, your dreams. Being close on one level does not an emotional connection make; you need to spend more time bonding and less time smooching.
Mars square Mars
You've finally met your match, a lover as brilliant and magnetic as you are. So why are you so pissed off? It seems like your lover's always trying to steal your thunder. If you have big news, your mate finds a way to top it; if you're getting attention, your mate steps all over it. You both tend to boss each other around; there are constant arguments over how to do every little thing. You pick fights over the stupidest things, and other people may have told you that your simmering anger makes you difficult to be around.This kind of conflict dims your light. When you're constantly using your powers to block your partner, you're shifting your energies away from your own goals. That's a mistake. What to do? Be the bigger person. If you freely give your lover more attention and credit, your mate will stop agitating so fiercely. The ego flare-ups will die down and you'll feel that 'us against the world, honey' feeling again. When your dueling energies are conserved, even joined, the pair of you can accomplish great things together. It'll take energy to get the ball rolling -- but what exactly do you think it takes to keep the eternal battle between you going?
Venus square Saturn
It's pitiful to see poor you in such a state, literally starved for love. Your so-called sweetie has really been holding out on you, huh? Few people can resist your luscious siren charms, and thus you've gotten a bit spoiled with all the attention. So your contained, precise partner happened by, you figured that a little cool breeze might make for a refreshing change of pace, not to mention a challenge. So you got what you asked for -- one heck of a challenge. And you're breaking under the strain. You're doing things you wouldn't do if you were in your right mind; trying to get the stroking you deserve. But don't be so quick to throw this one on the ash heap. For once you've chosen a lover who is not as shiny on the surface but is solid to the core. You're not having as much fun in this relationship as you have had in others, but you're on the road to a love relationship that demands the best from you even while it gives you the kind of satisfaction that can endure for a lifetime. You've found the oatmeal of lovers, hardly glamorous but undeniably down-to-earth, dependable, and good for you.
Mars square Saturn
First things first. Who's holding out in the love department? Signs point to your partner, who's stingy with affection in the best of times. But certain developments have practically shut the store down, and you're starving for physical contact. It's almost pathetic how far you'll go to try to woo your stubborn sweetie. But it's to no avail. Your partner's better than you at playing mind games. You're outmatched. And though you'd like this one to be The One, you're going to have to iron out your problems if you'd like to move along. One thing you should know: Much of the reason why you're off your game is that you're enacting old dramas from your past. Just who can you think of who withheld love from you in your childhood? And how did you behave, given your high hopes of evening the score? Now do you recognize why you've become what you are? You've got to start unloading your baggage, one piece at a time, before you can unwind the Gordian knot of your woes. If you change your behavior your partner will change as well. But first you have some deep thinking to do.
Saturn square Sun
You bagged yourself one great big trophy of a lover, but it doesn't mean your mate's easy to live with. Intense and compelling, magnetic and driven, your sweetie's a star but requires special handling. The two of you are often at odds. There's tension between you. Frictio. Fights. You want things defined and taped down; your lover's more of a 'If it feels good, do it' type. And that makes you feel insecure. So you say too much, demand reassurance, embarrass yourself. Here's a tip: When you ask if you're loved or adored, you suddenly become a lot less lovable and adorable.Much of the problem is related to your past. Think carefully -- are you unconsciously repeating patterns? Are you treating your lover more like a parent than a partner? If so, you'll find your attitude causes problems galore, not the least because a lover's supposed to be a friend and an equal, not an authority figure to rebel against. Examine your actions in light of your childhood. Seeing some familiar patterns now? It's time to move forward. What's done is done, and you can't mar your future in futile attempts to change history.
Jupiter square Jupiter
Both of you view the other as rather pompous and arrogant. The irony? You see your lover's delusions of grandeur but don't recognize your own. You're every bit as stuck on yourself as your lover is on him/herself. You can't see that you despise the parts of your lover that mirror you? Is it too painful to face? Or do you simply believe your way is the right way and anyone who disagrees must be a fool? It is likely that you and your lover have widely disparate views on moral issues and ethics, and that you're both somewhat foolish with money. Credit card debt may plague you, as may a certain lack of motivation. You both mean well. But instead of pushing each other to perform, you egg each on in unrealistic dreams.But underneath all the bickering, you two are well-matched. If you can muster a little tolerance (instead of demanding your lover toe your line), you could learn a lot from each other. By accepting each other, you can expand your world view and get along better with people in general. It requires flexibility, sacrifice, and patience/ But the work you put in will pay off, and darned soon, too.
Saturn square Mercury
The two of you just can't seem to make a go of it. You're suspicious of each other. You don't see eye-to-eye. You, in particular, view your mate with a kind of contempt. That slippery, glib sweetie of yours can be a lot of fun, but seems awfully insubstantial. You can't get the kind of security you crave. It feels as if your lover won't commit. Worse, they have an awful tendency to blurt out the wrong thing in the wrong moment, and let loose some uncomfortable, unvarnished truths that linger in your mind long after the moment has passed.The key to your problems lies in your past, both distant and recent. Problems you faced long ago have left their marks. You're closed where you should be open, secretive and distant where you should be accepting and warm. You're not going to get anywhere on your current path -- why do you hold on so tightly to old, negative patterns? Some work on yourself will result in a sweet thaw between you two. Your lover is waiting for a cue to let loose a torrent of love; all you need do is open up and let it in.
Venus opposite Pluto
Acid burning in your stomach, your thoughts racing, your heart beating its way out of your chest -- does this sound familiar to you? Your lover has you entertaining a certain green-eyed monster, and it's awfully unsexy. Would you want to come home to a lover who demands that you account for your time? Hardly. But as much as you want to play it cool, your possessive attachment to your partner seems to make it impossible. You view everyone your partner comes near with suspicion -- and you've even been making embarrassing scenes in front of others. Not to mention how miserable you've been making things at home. So what's the key to smoothing this path? Both of you need to recommit to each other. Are you where you want to be? Are you headed in a direction that both of you favor? Why are you with each other? Once you answer these questions, you can start to formulate a plan for taking on your problems. Don't be afraid to start. After all, what you've been doing hasn't been working. Time to try something new, break out of your patterns, and create a passionate and equal future together.
Mars opposite Pluto
Hey, jealous lover! You've assumed the role of a punitive first-grade teacher: standing over your lover, shaking your finger at naughty behavior, hectoring and blustering. Unfortunately, in order to avoid your lectures, your lover has turned off. You're not being heard, so why are you bothering to express yourself so forcefully and frequently? You're at odds, bickering over small things to avoid talking about the Great Big Thing neither of you wants to face. But hiding your head in the sand will get you exactly nowhere. It's time facts were faced, and obstacles looked at truthfully.You and your lover aren't particularly well-matched, this is true. While you are all speed and action and energy, your lover is dark, secretive, maybe even a bit cruel. But something in you craves the abuse and invites the ill-treatment. What you need to find is balance. You need to be getting as much as you give -- so if you find you're not receiving as much affection and attention, resolve to put your energies elsewhere. It's not game-playing -- it's just that you need to dial down your emotions a bit. Your lover will appreciate the break, and you'll get back into balance.
Jupiter opposite NeptuneYour needle's stuck in a groove, and it's driving you crazy. You have the same conversations over and over with your lover; the same fights, the same problems. Why can't you solve your issues and just move forward? The answer lies within your past, and that of your lover. One or both of you may have a history of struggling with addictions or other unhealthy behavior patterns; in fact, you may still be struggling. Whatever it is that haunted your past is intruding in your present. Is it your tendency to choose partners and friends who are bad for you? Is there a failing in your lover's past you need to forgive?There's something unhealthy at work here, and you don't feel entirely in control. The very aspects of your mate that you once admired and enjoyed are driving you away. You've lost tolerance for your sweetie. You're impatient. You're stuck in a rut. What's needed between you is compromise. You'll never agree on everything, nor will the ghosts of your past ever be put to rest. But if you can stop living life while looking in your rear view mirror, you are well placed to advance together.
Sun quincunx Pluto
Your love isn't always pretty. What was once a delicious attachment has collapsed in on itself. What happened? One of you forgot the old maxim about the need to let the things you love roam free. Insecurity leads to jealousy, jealousy into attempts to control each other. Intense arguments flare, marked by middle-of-the-night discussions, slammed doors, raised voices. Remember when you used to have fun together? It seems but a distant memory now. But take heart, all is not lost. What's needed is a little balance and flexibility. You didn't choose a lover you could wrap up in a tidy little box. No, your lover is passionate and powerful; someone you can admire but not someone who's easy to live with. So don't expect every aspect of your lives together to go just exactly as you'd like all the time. Your lover surprises you, and though that can be disconcerting, with the right mindset it's exhilarating. You're never bored, and that counts for a lot. Enjoy your intense connection, because without it your life would be a lot more gray.
Sun quincunx Neptune
Why, oh, why do you and your lover keep finding yourself in this place? You seem stuck on a dissatisfying treadmill. The pair of you pull apart, come together, drift away, circle back. Aren't you tired of repeating the same patterns? The chief problem you're having with your sweetie is that you can't seem to find common ground. And it's true, you don't have a lot in common -- you are driven while your lover is dreamy, you want to stride through the world making big changes, while your lover is more apt to dawdle and drift.But why should you expect any different when you're the architect of this awkwardness? You're attracted to your lover simply because of your differences, not in spite of them. Your amour forces you to slow down a little, to appreciate the subtle and magical rather than just the here and now. In your arrogance you want to force your sweetie to see things from your perspective, but that's shortsighted. Bend a little. Listen to someone else for a change. You may find you have a lot to learn about life, not to mention your lover.
Mercury quincunx Neptune
If your love were a dining table, it'd be one of those long mahogany jobbies you see in the movies about awkward rich people. You're at one end, your lover's at the other, and between you stretches a vast, unnavigable distance. You don't meld. Conversation lags. You don't understand each other, and sometimes it's difficult to see why you're bothering with each other to all. You'd walk -- if it weren't for the great, overwhelming attraction you feel for your partner. What a charmer! Dreamy and optimistic, compassionate and mysterious; to spend time with your lover is to be enthralled, not turned off by the chasm between you. So why bother agitating over the differences between you? Yes, yes, you lack commonality in many areas, but who said that one person had to be everything to their lover? Seek out simpatico pals for the activities your lover would rather skip. Don't demand your gentle sweetie keep up with you socially; instead, spend plenty of time alone, just experiencing your love as it comes instead of dissecting it with your fierce intellect.
Saturn quincunx Jupiter
You've always been the kind of lover your mates have bragged about to their moms -- reliable, sensible, stable, loyal. But something about your current amour has turned your usual style upside down. You feel burdened by what you view as your obligation to your mate. You also carry guilt from bad choices you've made in the past, and that guilt carries over into your current relationship, causing you to take on more responsibility and commitment than you really feel ready for.But why are you blaming your mate for your own bad choices? Obligations aren't placed upon you. You take them on yourself. If you don't want to be burdened, just learn how to say 'no.' Seek the advice of friends, who can help you clarify what you want and what you should reject. Then pick and choose what you want to say yes or no to. Give in to your lover on some matters, but insist on your own way in others. It's not comfortable for you, speaking your mind. It may bring on a difficult transitional period, but at the end of it your lover will know -- and adore -- the real you.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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