The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
Nag, nag, nag. You can hardly blame your lover for turning off -- your needle's stuck in a groove, and you're running over the same script once again. Was it by design that you fell into being the bad-guy parent, the scolding teacher? Or did it just somehow happen, with you viewing your restless, hard-to-pin-down lover as a great big blank canvas for you to paint on? You bagged yourself a remarkable sweetie, and a good match for you. You enjoy the crackling energy between you -- you spar with words and never get tired of being in each other's company.Yet your desire to mold your lover into someone else causes friction. And when your lover is challenged, there is a tendency to blurt out the wrong thing at the wrong moment. Then you are wounded and hold a grudge. Can't you see that the whole cycle starts with you? If you'd relax a bit, live and let live, things would cool down. Your lover wouldn't need to rebel if you weren't always putting on the screws. Channel the generous, kind side of your nature and give your lover a break, willya?
Both of you view the other as rather pompous and arrogant. The irony? You see your lover's delusions of grandeur but don't recognize your own. You're every bit as stuck on yourself as your lover is on him/herself. You can't see that you despise the parts of your lover that mirror you? Is it too painful to face? Or do you simply believe your way is the right way and anyone who disagrees must be a fool? It is likely that you and your lover have widely disparate views on moral issues and ethics, and that you're both somewhat foolish with money. Credit card debt may plague you, as may a certain lack of motivation. You both mean well. But instead of pushing each other to perform, you egg each on in unrealistic dreams.But underneath all the bickering, you two are well-matched. If you can muster a little tolerance (instead of demanding your lover toe your line), you could learn a lot from each other. By accepting each other, you can expand your world view and get along better with people in general. It requires flexibility, sacrifice, and patience/ But the work you put in will pay off, and darned soon, too.
When your relationship is on, it's so on. You're passionate and intense, attracted to each other beyond all reason, which is probably why you've been acting like one possessed. But on the other hand, when your pairing's gone sour, it's very, very nasty. Arguments erupt over things large and small: paying the bills, where to go to dinner, where your relationship is headed. You whine and sulk; your partner regards you with unsympathetic distaste. You've never been one to carry on emotionally, but something about this partnership brings out your weak, cringing, easily-wounded side. It feels as if your mate has all the power, and all you can do is cause irritation like a small stinging insect.If this partnership is to last you simply must learn to give yourself the same respect you give your partner. Stop seeing yourself as unimportant and useless. Demand equal time, and equal rights. You may think you're throwing everything away by standing up to your lover, but paradoxically you'll win the love and respect you crave, the love and respect you never could and never will win by begging.
When you first met your lover you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. Here was a lover who would let you steer the ship, deciding where you went and with whom. Here was someone who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams. You love all that, but somehow it's not enough. Your partner's loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You feel like you can't trust your sweetie to always be there for you -- your lover means well but finds it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You feel like you need something more solid and stable.It is true you will face many challenges in this relationship, but if your love is strong enough you can conquer your difficulties. You must tackle your issues squarely. Learn the art of compromise. If your lover can bend to meet you halfway, bend likewise. Decide how you will keep your patterns from repeating. It will take discipline on both your parts, but with some time and practice these new patterns will come more naturally.
What was the old Chinese proverb? May you live in exciting times, or something like that? What can you tell of exciting times, what with that great, frantic, scary sweetie you've grabbed hold of? The passion is something else, yes, oh yes, but the side-effects are brutal. You can't find your footing here, you're too well-aware of your lover's propensity for sudden upheaval. Life-changing decisions are made in an instant, and you're along for the ride, for good or for bad. It has all left you feeling pretty insecure -- and perhaps even fearful that your lover may have eyes for another. It could be that you've already had fidelity issues, and promises to do better next time don't help you when your lover's so darn unpredictable.You're in for a wild ride with this one, but it's not without its pleasures. You're never bored, always wide awake and present for whatever you're handed. Trust in one thing: Your lover's never anywhere merely for duty's sake. If you're getting plenty of attention, there's a reason why. Don't question. Don't worry. Just lay back and enjoy the goodies; this is one time it's better to feel than to think.
You move through this relationship like a lumbering bear, rather than a graceful lover. You view your partner as oversensitive, but the truth is that there's something behind your partner's pleas for gentleness. You act too quickly, often choosing to do what's expedient rather than what's right. You ignore the emotional component of your life, preferring to bury your emotions in actions. You slap Band-Aids on problems rather than working for a true solution. At least you're sensitive enough to see the truth. You genuinely don't mean harm; it's just that your lover seems more concerned with good living than getting ahead, and that bugs you. You may also feel jealous of the many who fall under your sexy partner's spell -- beware your jealousy, because it gives your partner a weapon to use against you. Instead, try to talk before you act, and think before you talk. Slow down a little. What's the good in driving through life so quickly you don't have time to stop along the way and enjoy yourself? There could be so much here to savor if you just let yourself.
Powerful, intense, lusty, hot -- if these words don't remind you of your connection to your partner, something's gone seriously wrong. You're quite a pair, you two, both strong and sensual, fearless and compelling. You admire your lover's fierce ideals and honesty, but what keeps you coming back for more is the incredible physical attraction between you. It's so hot it's scorching, and you can scarcely believe how much pleasure you've found in your lover's arms. On the other hand, it seems you're constantly drawn into power struggles. Your lover demands too much, and battles with you over small things. Decisions both large and small are fraught with inappropriate emotions. At worst, you both make decisions based on what will give you the upper hand over your partner, rather than considering what's right for you as a couple. The key to successfully managing your connection is calming down the competition between you. You'll never sing in sweet harmony, but you must learn to work together rather than tearing each other apart. Only then will your love transform from blistering and painful to deliciously warm.
You and your partner have a lot of fun together. Both intelligent, expansive, cheerful, you have many interests in common, and that's a good thing. Together you are a warm, dynamic couple that other people want to be around, just so they can bask on your glow. However, what outsiders don't see is the somewhat hollow middle beneath your gleaming exterior. You're so busy having fun together, so immersed in enjoying yourselves, that you haven't bothered to dig deep. Have you even discussed what each of you wants from this relationship? What direction you hope to go in, and when? Have you thought about potential conflicts in the way you deal with money, family, faith?You and your sweetie are well placed to move ahead into a fulfilling and lasting relationship. But in order to get there, you're going to have to do some work. Talk about what you want, and listen to what your lover is looking for. Do not ignore what you hear in order to gloss over any potential conflicts; instead, seek compromises. The longevity you seek can be yours provided you are willing to bend just a little.
You chose yourself such a sweet-natured lover, didn't you? Kindhearted, loving, lovable. Your family approves, your friends are big fans, everyone tells you how lucky you are to have landed this fine fish. So why can't you just relax and enjoy yourself? The unease you feel is so beneath the surface, almost unconscious, that you can't put your finger on it. Everything looks great on paper. You share so many qualities, including a certain integrity, a desire to be genuinely good and helpful to others. Why is it you can't seem to connect? Your relationship feels forced, strained. You struggle to make conversation. You just can't relax. What you fear in your heart of hearts is, unfortunately, the case -- this is not a love that will ever run smoothly. You can never relax into easy contentment. The fundamental problems you've already glimpsed will not dissipate. But there is much to draw you together. Remember what originally attracted you to your lover, including that expansive sense of humor. If it's worth enough to you, you'll find a way to work around the rough spots. You both mean well, and that counts for a lot.
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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