The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Mercury square Mars
You and your sweetie had a problem: You were both hotheaded. Easy to insult and quick to criticize, you fought over the silliest things, and pursued each battle to the death. Afterwards you turned the cold shoulder to your partner. The problem dynamics were at the very root of your pairing. Though your connection was passionate and intense, it was also inclined to tumult, since both of you tended to view a difference of opinion as a threat to your egos. In addition, you may have found yourself cursed with a curious compulsion to blurt out the most inappropriate things -- or a habit of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. You both needed to work at it if you wanted this one to be a go. You never melded together smoothly because you didn't put the time in. You should have scheduled regular appointments to sit down calmly and work on your issues. If the urge struck to have a rager, it would have been better to table the issue until your next meeting instead. If you could have gotten a little distance, gained a little perspective, you both could have learned to appreciate what the other had to give.
Mercury square Jupiter
It's not that you didn't love and adore your precious one with every ounce of your being. It's just that if you had to listen to that superior tone of voice for one more second, you were going to put your fist through a wall. Your matchups had a way of turning into mismatches -- with your expansive, confident partner running roughshod over playful little you. It's possible that your lover was significantly older than you, or in some way more worldly -- better educated? more advanced careerwise? Certainly you felt at a disadvantage next to your sweetie, more like a student listening to a teacher's discourse, or a kid being lectured by a parent than a true partner. On the other hand, there was a lot your lover could have taught you if you were able to walk the fine line between willing acolyte and bullied wretch. If you had wanted to make this work, you needed to demand respect from your partner. A polite tone of voice was a must, and snide remarks would not be tolerated by you. Once you began standing up for yourself, the balance of power in the relationship would have shifted, and you could have both start enjoying the pleasant buzz of your stimulating love relationship.
Saturn square Mercury
The two of you had some difficulty making a go of it. You were suspicious of each other. You didn't see eye-to-eye. You, in particular, viewed your mate with a kind of contempt. That slippery, glib sweetie of yours could be a lot of fun, but seemed awfully insubstantial. You couldn't get the kind of security you craved; it felt as if your lover wouldn't commit. Worse, they had an awful tendency to blurt out the wrong thing in the wrong moment, and let loose some uncomfortable, unvarnished truths that lingered in your mind long after the moment had passed.The key to your problems lay in your past, both distant and recent. Problems you faced long ago left their mark. You were closed where you should have been open, secretive and distant where you should have been accepting and warm. Your path was leading nowhere, so why did you hold on so tightly to old, negative patterns? Some work on yourself would have resulted in a sweet thaw between you two. Your lover was waiting for a cue to let loose a torrent of love; all you needed do was open up and let it in.
Saturn square Uranus
You grabbed a live wire when you found this lover, and you felt the effects the entire time you were together; you were electrified, yet stunned. You worried that you couldn't trust your sweetie. You wondered what they were up to when you were not there to watch. You may even have caught yourself doing a little more snooping than you felt really comfortable with. The problem, of course, lay in the time when you were together, not when you were apart. If things were really great between you, you'd have had nothing to worry about. So...were they? Or was your jealousy and insecurity tearing you apart? Did you demand to hear 'I love you' when your mate wasn't in the mood to say it? Did you ask for promises that, unwillingly given, could never be given?You could have buckled yourself in and enjoyed the ride. Your lover was always going to shake things up. You could never have had the calm security that you thought you wanted. But another name for security is boredom, and you didn't want that either. This lover didn't settle for anything less than passion and zing, and if you had chosen to hang around, that's just what you'd have gotten. Sometimes you have to make hard choices.
No oppositions
Did you two have trouble walking a mile in each other's moccasins? Was it difficult for either of you to view things from your partner's perspective? In arguments as well as in day-to-day life, were you both so attached to your own points of view that you just couldn't comprehend where your sweetie was coming from? If you answered 'yes' to any of the above questions, it may be because the two of you lacked any oppositions between you. An opposition is a somewhat stressful planetary connection, but it does something very important: It provides a wider perspective than just your own. Oppositions bring awareness of The Other and the ability to see things from your partner's point of view. Not being 'in opposition' to your lover might sound like a good thing, but look at it this way: It's like you're each going in your own direction, but your paths don't align. They don't cross, and they don't run parallel. You're each simply moving along on your own track, one that's noticeably unrelated to your partner's. You each thought you knew the other, but if you had taken a test on each other's likes and dislikes, you probably wouldn't have done as well as you thought. There was a basic inability for either of you to look across the table at the other and see the person who was actually sitting there; you both had a strong tendency to view the other through your own looking glass, which distorted the picture. Finding the balance between you required a lot of awareness and honesty on both your parts -- difficult, but not impossible if you had wanted this to work out.
Jupiter quincunx Mercury
Mismatched beliefs lay at the core of your first troubles, and things only got worse from there. It is likely that you spent the quite a bit of time on some type of quest -- travel? Something spiritual? Advanced education? Your experiences changed you, broadened your perspectives. And suddenly your lover didn't seem to measure up. You felt like you could do better. And that secret thought seemed to add a negative energy to your pairing, playing a part in misunderstandings. Your lover, made nervous by these unconscious shifts, was apt to make big, startling decisions and say just the wrong thing to set you off. You needed to realize that though you made big changes, your lover was still the same person you met and adored. You should have left room in your personal growth curve for your sweetie. You couldn't expect your mate to keep up with the new you without coaching. Instead, you could have channeled your natural generosity and slowly, gently, ushered your mate into loving -- and living with -- the new you. One problem was that you didn't invite your lover into your life. The adjustment period would have yielded great rewards; if you'd only given it a try.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
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