The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Venus square Mercury
You like to think of yourself as tremendously accepting of other people's foibles, but in reality your tolerance is more of a cop-out -- you just don't want to deal with the nasty business of confronting someone else and sharing your feelings. You'd rather indulge yourself, in food, drink, fun, and sometimes more illicit pleasures. Your lover was always trying to get you to open up. You viewed it as invasive and annoying, and felt like you'd had too many heart-to-hearts at 3:00 a.m. Your sweetie, on the other hand, found you rather selfish and closed off. How could you have met in the middle? You would have had to find a way to communicate your feelings to each other. Your lover wanted to talk talk talk you to death, but you were not a big fan. You could have tried another way instead. Emails? Scheduled meetings? Love Rx through limericks? There absolutely, positively was a way that you and your sweetie could have formulated the compromises you needed to get you through the next thousand years or so -- it just required you to get off your butt and start. If your sweetie really meant as much to you as you claimed, you'd have been wise to get going.
Mercury square Mars
You and your sweetie had a problem: You were both hotheaded. Easy to insult and quick to criticize, you fought over the silliest things, and pursued each battle to the death. Afterwards you turned the cold shoulder to your partner. The problem dynamics were at the very root of your pairing. Though your connection was passionate and intense, it was also inclined to tumult, since both of you tended to view a difference of opinion as a threat to your egos. In addition, you may have found yourself cursed with a curious compulsion to blurt out the most inappropriate things -- or a habit of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. You both needed to work at it if you wanted this one to be a go. You never melded together smoothly because you didn't put the time in. You should have scheduled regular appointments to sit down calmly and work on your issues. If the urge struck to have a rager, it would have been better to table the issue until your next meeting instead. If you could have gotten a little distance, gained a little perspective, you both could have learned to appreciate what the other had to give.
Mars opposite Mars
Opposites attracted. There was never a dull moment with you two. You were on the go, moving, shaking, impressing others with your magnificent, sparkling energy. Individually you were live wires; together you were a force of nature. But in many ways, you didn't bring out the best in each other. You argued passionately, and even the equally passionate make-up sessions that followed didn't make that stress worth it. You two were always blowing hot and cold -- you were together, then you were apart; and all the tumult was confusing and stressful. The secret to turning things around might have been to bring a little calm to your storm. This was one relationship where you shouldn't have spent every minute together. You each needed to get involved in your own projects, maintain your own friendships. You could even have helped each other out when needed, but you each needed to have individual outlets for your prodigious energies. In addition, the two of you were going to have to learn how to compromise. Turning your energies inwards would have helped, but would have been hard to accomplish in this particular hookup. Unless you're keen on competition within a relationship, your next partner should be a little less aggro.
Mars opposite Sun
Powerful, intense, lusty, hot -- if these words don't remind you of your connection to your ex, something went seriously wrong. You were quite a pair, you two, both strong and sensual, fearless and compelling. You admired your lover's fierce ideals and honesty, but what kept you coming back for more was the incredible physical attraction between you. It was so hot it was scorching, and you could scarcely believe how much pleasure you found in your lover's arms. On the other hand, it seemed you were constantly drawn into power struggles. Your lover demanded too much, and battled with you over small things. Decisions both large and small were fraught with inappropriate emotions. At worst, you both make decisions based on what would give you the upper hand over your partner, rather than considering what was right for you as a couple. The key to successfully managing your connection would have been calming down the competition between you. You would never have sung sing in sweet harmony, but you could have learned to work together rather than tearing each other apart. Only then would your love have transformed from blistering and painful to deliciously warm.
Jupiter opposite Pluto
Your love relationship was not always a comfy place to be. Both you and your sweetie seemed more interested in manipulating each other than in being in love. You raged and pouted. Your partner slammed doors and withheld affection and reassurance. You drove each other absolutely crazy. You felt so frustrated that you chucked everything in the garbage -- but you shouldn't have been so quick to discard what you had built so far. Your lover was a challenging mate, to be sure. But that was exactly what kept you on your toes, and kept you coming back for more. Splitting when the going got rough only ensured that you will repeat the same patterns in your next relationship.What was needed was a dispassionate tallying up of the status of your relationship. What was working in your relationship? What was not? The ability to calmly take your connection's temperature was the first step to solving your problems. Did you find some issues that needed a little work? Great! You should have gotten going! Talked about what you both wanted. Made agreements on how you were going to move from here to there. This type of negotiating it was the only way to break out of your relationship rut.
Saturn quincunx Mars
Why did you assign yourself the lowest rung on the ladder? While it was true that your lover was somewhat intimidating, all passion and fire and aggression, you were a star in your own right, albeit a somewhat less showy one. You humbly hoped that others would see your worth, but you hid your own light. You shouldn't have played the part of a shrinking violet, afraid to ask for (or even demand!) what you wanted. Your mate could never have respected quiet submission. Instead, you needed to stand up to your sweetie. Speak your mind. You had a right to an equal say in your lives together, even though you felt somewhat timid when faced with your mate's firm convictions and aggressive ways of getting things done.Being this upfront may have made you uncomfortable for a time, but it's a learning process. If you'd worked through this discomfort, it would only have been temporary. In the meantime, your partner would have gradually grown to respect you more, appreciate your connection more fully. Instead you were viewed as something of a pushover. Wouldn't you rather have been a peer and an equal? You needed to stand up and take your due. There was no reason to feel like second best. Claim your place in the next relationship.
Jupiter quincunx Uranus
Hmm. Yours was a strange relationship, all right. Your lover was sexy for sure; compelling and exciting and quite attractive. Whenever you introduced your friends, you always heard what a hottie you had bagged. But there was something unstable. Something restless. Your lover couldn't seem to settle down and just be into you; there was always a sense that they had a roving eye -- and it may even have landed on a friend of yours, or so you feared. You couldn't get comfortable. You couldn't relax. You felt like you had to be on guard to be in control.But there was no controlling this one. And that was also the fun of it. It was kind of cool to be on your toes, to be forced into being your best self rather than relaxing into your typical self-indulgent laziness. You found just what you wanted -- something exciting, something that brought out your competitive side. You had to chase, which quickened your blood. But you didn't go with it. You couldn't expect to wrestle your love to the ground. If you had wanted this to last, you needed to hang on and enjoy the tumult; yours was the kind of love songs are written about. Next time you'll sing a better song.
Sun conjunct Pluto
Alone, in your most private of moments, you and your lover were quite a match. Your hearts beat as one, your touch made your mate melt, etc. etc. But out of the bedroom things were not so rosy. There was much dissension between you and your mate, likely centered either on your social lives or careers. You were sensual and expansive, attractive to others and often surrounded by a crowd. Your mate, on the other hand, tended to be more reserved and conservative, needed more alone time, and was a bit punishing. Together you had a tendency to play parent-child, with the one playing the parent role switching off from time to time.Both of you had to learn to temper your tendencies towards extremism. You actually could have learned much from each other if you could have stopped fighting each other's influences and instead learned what you could from your differences. You could have stood to be more directed; your sweetie could certainly have lightened up a bit. If you wanted this to work, you needed to call a truce. Let the sweet harmony you felt physically radiate out to the other areas of your relationship as you learned to treat each other with more consideration and kindness.
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