The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
The two of you were hot, hot, hot. Mmm, everyone wanted some of what you had between you: sweaty, sticky, lovely lust. Your connection got physical fast, simply because neither of you could resist each other. Opposites attract, so they say, and in your case they were absolutely right, with the one's receptive energy meeting the other's force with explosive results. But there was (or should have been) life outside the bedroom, and you two didn't have very much of it. It could have been that one of you was using the other merely to slake a physical urge -- not a problem if both of you were in on the agreement, but nasty and painful if one of you was looking for love and the other just lust. One of you may also have been very jealous and possessive of the other as well. Had you extended your compatibility beyond the bedroom, things might have gone differently. Did you share interests in common? If not, you needed to develop some. You had to talk about your values, your hopes, your dreams. Being close on one level does not an emotional connection make; you needed to spend more time bonding and less time smooching. You've lots of love to give; in the future make sure it's on more than the physical plane.
There was so much you admired about your lover. There was a studiousness to your sweetie, a certain drive and appreciation for hard work that the scholar in you responded to. But you longed for more lightness, more fun. Everything was a slog. Each detail had to be nailed down, and planned. Nothing was spontaneous or romantic or breathless; it was all work and no play. It's not that you didn't appreciate finding a solid, stable love-mate after all the losers you'd been through. Just that you'd have appreciated a little more levity. There may also have been family problems -- one of you was on the outs with a father, or another male relative? The problem threw more bad energy in the mix. Action was the key to smoothing the path for you two. Your relationship stagnated because you didn't put real work into it. You needed to arrange for more productive time together -- take a class? Get involved with a sport? Less time spent in serious discussions, and more time spent just enjoying each other's company, could have started some good habits. But it was up to you to get the ball rolling. After all, you were the one who wanted change.
You grabbed a live wire when you found this lover, and you felt the effects the entire time you were together; you were electrified, yet stunned. You worried that you couldn't trust your sweetie. You wondered what they were up to when you were not there to watch. You may even have caught yourself doing a little more snooping than you felt really comfortable with. The problem, of course, lay in the time when you were together, not when you were apart. If things were really great between you, you'd have had nothing to worry about. So...were they? Or was your jealousy and insecurity tearing you apart? Did you demand to hear 'I love you' when your mate wasn't in the mood to say it? Did you ask for promises that, unwillingly given, could never be given?You could have buckled yourself in and enjoyed the ride. Your lover was always going to shake things up. You could never have had the calm security that you thought you wanted. But another name for security is boredom, and you didn't want that either. This lover didn't settle for anything less than passion and zing, and if you had chosen to hang around, that's just what you'd have gotten. Sometimes you have to make hard choices.
How does the old song go? One is the loneliest number but two can be as bad as one? This love relationship was sometimes a lonely place. The two of you didn't always see eye to eye. There was friction. Fighting. Uncomfortable silences, and a big space between you in bed. The problem lay in your disparate natures. Your partner was passionate, aggressive, forceful; you were more thoughtful and optimistic. You were alarmed and annoyed with what you viewed as your lover's pushiness and bossiness -- you may even have been concerned about a certain tendency towards physical aggression. It was scary, huh? Particularly to one like you, who could see the forces at work so clearly but couldn't make the jump to understanding what your lover was so worked up over. If you had really wanted this relationship to survive, you could have been the soothing balm that calmed your lover's rattled soul. You needed to stop pointing out problems and poking at weak spots. Instead, you needed to treat your lover with kindness, as you would like to be treated. You couldn't expect a mirror of yourself. Your lover had a unique personality and outlook; you couldn't just paper over your differences. Some flexibility and understanding would have gone far, so when your next lover suggests it, keep that in mind.
Everybody liked your lover. Your parents. Your friends. Your coworkers. Everything seemed so right: You always had a great time whenever you were together. In fact, things went so smoothly between you that you were able to ignore the gaps for a while. But you woke up. The fact was that on the surface you were congenial and gracious, but underneath there were some serious disparities in your goals and values. You were more attuned to the intellectual side of things, politics and ideas and art, while your lover was the more the sensual hedonist type. Think about it: Didn't you make conversation more often than your lover, talking about humdrum matters to mask the realization that you didn't have an awful lot in common?Developing common interests was key to the survival of your relationship, if that was what you wanted. Taking up a hobby together. Dance lessons? A foreign language? A sport? Whatever it was, you needed something that would have consumed you both. With a little attention, you could have gotten things moving in the right direction again. This was one love relationship that needed a little nudging to run smoothly.
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
I hope you have enjoyed the valuable insight, wisdom and guidance of this astrology report. You might be a little curious about astrology and perhaps wondering how an astrologer can know so much about you!
Astrology is a mathematical system. It's all about applying meaning to numbers, or more specifically, finding meaning in the movements of the planets around the Sun, as viewed from our perspective here on earth. These planetary movements are easily captured and recorded with measurements, calculations, angles and so on.
That's why astrology works so well with computers, whose programs are also based on numbers and formulas. In 'the old days' -- thousands of years ago, when astrology was first recorded -- those early astrologers had to painstakingly observe the heavens and catalog their observations for the next generation of astrologers to build upon. Thank goodness for the computer age! Now we can simply use computers to make those calculations quickly and pull just the applicable pieces of information. Now, astrology is instant, based upon thousands of years of observations obtained through careful methodology.
Interpretations of planetary positions are based in part on ancient Greek and Roman mythology, but your astrological report is unique, describing you and you only. Even in the case of twin siblings, their birth charts differ from each other's in at least a few ways. And besides, no one amounts to just a simple interpretation of their birth chart; everyone's personality is complex. Your astrological report leaves plenty of room for variations based on your free will, personal growth and transformation over a lifetime.
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