An astrological report prepared for

Person 1, born November 20, 1971 and person 2, Born July 27, 1978:

Me and My Ex - What Went Wrong

Reveal the Hidden Forces Behind Why it Didn't Last

DESPITE YOUR HOPES, YOUR RELATIONSHIP JUST DIDN'T WORK OUT. 

WAS IT THEM, OR WAS IT YOU? 

WAS IT CIRCUMSTANCE, OR WERE YOU TWO JUST A COMPLETE MISMATCH FROM THE START? 

THE SHORT ANSWER IS, ALL OF THE ABOVE.
Each of you contributed at least a few less-than-desirable qualities to this relationship that made it difficult for you to get along.

While you were probably able to outline your lover's failings complete with bulleted points and subheadings, you may not have realized that some of your character traits brought out the worst in them.

That's not to say that all your relationship problems were your fault, any more than they were all theirs.

No two people are a perfect match; every couple has areas that need work.

But some relationships function better than others, and the stars are a good place to look for answers regarding the issues you had as a couple.

Forewarned might have been forearmed.

Friction, Differences, and Karma Meters

The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?

Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.

What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?

The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.

Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.

Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.

This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.

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Friction
= 10

7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter

4-6: You both knew which buttons to push

0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.

Differences
= 3

7-10: You never got each other from day one.

4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!

0-3: You could still be friends

Karma
= 3

7-10: It was doomed from the start.

4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.

0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.

Person 1, here is your Me and My Ex - What Went Wrong report

Sun

illustrates your basic commonalities
tells your basic differences
indicates how well you get along with one another
shows what each of you brings to the relationship

Mercury

shows how you communicate with each other
reveals who is the thinker & who is the feeler
helps you understand each other’s communication style

Venus

reveals your connection to each other
indicates how each other prefers to receive love
highlights how both of you express love

Mars

represents the physical bond you share
reveals each other’s desires and impulses
shows how each person expresses frustration

Jupiter

highlights the non-negotiable values held by each of you
shows what is important to each person
indicates whether the relationship will grow

Saturn

challenges the relationship
unveils each other's shortcomings
demonstrates where extra effort is needed in the relationship

Uranus

uncovers each other’s rebellious side
points out the unique qualities each person brings to the relationship
shows how the two of you have fun

Neptune

rules the psychic connection you have to each other
reveals how you help each other grow
indicates if a relationship is a spiritual one

Pluto

reveals each person’s greatest fears
indicates opportunities for change
demonstrates the self-transformation the relationship brings to both of you
Read below to find out where each planet was on the day of your birth and how it has shaped your personality and guided your decisions so far

The War Zone

Venus square Venus

You Annoyed Each Other

Your relationship looked so good on paper! You both had a relaxed, sensual way about you, a zest for life, an appealing joie de vivre. But on the other hand, your values were dissonant, as were your tastes. One of you went for the quiet and elegant, the other for the raucous and brash, a difference that was particularly acute around the expression of public affection -- which one of you was all over the other in public? It felt like you couldn't relax together; all the while little bursts of friction keep bubbling up and disturbing the peace. You viewed your lover as impossibly vain -- and surprise, that was the exact same complaint you heard back! And it was a small thing, but you really couldn't abide the way it took your sweetie hours and hours to get ready to go to just about any social event. But all did not have to be lost. These problems were really fairly unimportant in the grand scheme of things. You two liked each other, right? So you could have stopped rubbing each other the wrong way. You needed to make like a second grader and cooperate. Share more. Not do the stuff that drove your lover mad. There was a lot there to love, and love makes the world go 'round.

Venus square Mars

Was It Hot Enough?

The two of you were hot, hot, hot. Mmm, everyone wanted some of what you had between you: sweaty, sticky, lovely lust. Your connection got physical fast, simply because neither of you could resist each other. Opposites attract, so they say, and in your case they were absolutely right, with the one's receptive energy meeting the other's force with explosive results. But there was (or should have been) life outside the bedroom, and you two didn't have very much of it. It could have been that one of you was using the other merely to slake a physical urge -- not a problem if both of you were in on the agreement, but nasty and painful if one of you was looking for love and the other just lust. One of you may also have been very jealous and possessive of the other as well. Had you extended your compatibility beyond the bedroom, things might have gone differently. Did you share interests in common? If not, you needed to develop some. You had to talk about your values, your hopes, your dreams. Being close on one level does not an emotional connection make; you needed to spend more time bonding and less time smooching. You've lots of love to give; in the future make sure it's on more than the physical plane.

Mercury square Venus

Where Was the Truce?

You certainly chose a partner who was a match for you, and that would have been a good thing, ultimately -- it just drove you nuts is all. It felt like you and your lover had difficulty understanding each other, particularly around emotional issues. And it was funny how a lot of things -- dishes, who was buying dinner, where you were going on vacation -- turned into an emotional issue with the pair of you. You yourself plowed through life with acumen and logic, determined to make sense of the world in front of you. Your partner, on the other hand, was more of a feeler than a thinker, and tended to overindulge your moods and notions. The result? You sometimes viewed your partner with something more akin to contempt than adoration, and neither one of you felt an easy connection with each other. The cure would have been better communication, and since you were the Great Communicator, you were well-placed for the task. If you wanted to stay in this relationship, it was up to you to bridge the gap. You could have stopped finding fault with your partner; instead, finding things to love and admire. Had you given more, you would have received much more.

Jupiter square Venus

Failure of Appreciation

You can be a real pain in the butt, and we couldn't blame your sweetie for booting you right out the door. You pushed your luck too far. The fact of the matter was that you chose a lover who didn't harmonize with you naturally. They tended towards the indulgent: fine food, good wine (and plenty of it!), and abundant socializing while your more discerning, intellectual nature cried out for weightier stimulation. You craved a lover who could talk and argue and analyze as well as experience and enjoy. So, feeling stifled in your relationship, you took it out on the one person who loved you more than any other, which just wasn't fair.Had you squashed your desire to lecture and hector, you could have made it past the rough period. Though you refused to see it, you two actually brought out the best in each other -- you were drawn out of your ivory tower, while your lover's self-indulgent tendencies were curbed in your presence, whether you realized it or not. You should have tried to give your lover a break; stopped trying to control, to change them. Ultimately, the love you wanted was already in your hands. Next time, remember to appreciate what you've got when you've got it.

Mercury square Mars

Couple of Hotheads

You and your sweetie had a problem: You were both hotheaded. Easy to insult and quick to criticize, you fought over the silliest things, and pursued each battle to the death. Afterwards you turned the cold shoulder to your partner. The problem dynamics were at the very root of your pairing. Though your connection was passionate and intense, it was also inclined to tumult, since both of you tended to view a difference of opinion as a threat to your egos. In addition, you may have found yourself cursed with a curious compulsion to blurt out the most inappropriate things -- or a habit of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. You both needed to work at it if you wanted this one to be a go. You never melded together smoothly because you didn't put the time in. You should have scheduled regular appointments to sit down calmly and work on your issues. If the urge struck to have a rager, it would have been better to table the issue until your next meeting instead. If you could have gotten a little distance, gained a little perspective, you both could have learned to appreciate what the other had to give.

Sun square Mercury

Lack of Understanding

How often did you stare at your sweetie with a gaping jaw, wondering what on earth they were thinking? Misunderstandings haunted your pairing. Both of you meant well, but at times it seemed you were speaking different languages. And you, with your galloping ego, got all huffy puffy, fueling the friction that was always simmering between the pair of you. You raged. Your lover clammed up. A roaring silence stretched between you, both of you too stubborn to break the tension.But the power to fix this relationship was in your hands, had you wanted to. You picked yourself a mercurial, restless, enigmatic lover for a reason -- you found the challenge intriguing and sexy. You could have gone with it, learned to be comfortable with a bit of mystery. You were never going to wallow in perfect, contented understanding with your sweetie; instead you had an exciting lover who stirred you up. Argue and debate could have been a prelude to passion instead of letting your quibbles drive a wedge between you. You could have had something very, very hot, if only you were willing to forego serenity. Everything has its cost.

Mars square Neptune

Insubstantial

Hmm, now this was an odd pairing. An assertive force linked with the watery dreamer. Opposites attracted, huh? It was likely you were befuddled and bewitched by your lover's mysteries. You couldn't see clearly where the two of you were, and it tweaked both your ego and your intellect. That was all fine and good, but there was a dark side to your pairing. One or both of you was repeating unhealthy patterns, bringing leftovers from the past into your relationship. There may have been issues around addictions -- to drugs, to alcohol, to unwholesome behavior of many kinds. And worst of all, your relationship was insubstantial, misty, a thing composed of passionate nights that crumbled to dust under day-to-day stresses.To make this work, you needed to let some sunlight into your relationship. Stop subsisting on passion alone, and start actually getting to know the lover you chose. Talked about your dreams, make plans. Make sure you were both moving in the same direction. This relationship could have brought good in you, but you had to be willing to put in some work instead of just drifting along like two balloons buffeted by every wind. Next time, you might prefer a more grounded pairing.

Sun square Saturn

Could Of, Would Of, Should Of

On paper you and your lover didn't work at all. You were directed, goal-oriented, a little impetuous, a lot dramatic. Your lover, on the other hand, was solid and, to your mindset, a little stodgy. You came up with grandiose dreams, your sweetie stomped on them by pointing out all the flaws. You expressed dreams and your lover let in all that bothersome reality. Sometimes it felt like you were a big balloon all inflated with hope, and your mate was a big ol' pin just waiting to puncture you. No wonder you experienced some friction over the course of your relationship; fights little and big. But look more deeply at the problems you had. Was your mate trying to bring you down, or give you a hand by helping ensure you turn big ideas into actual plans? You got so wound up with what you viewed as criticisms that you stopped listening to the sense behind what your lover said. Were you playing the part of a rebellious adolescent, agitating against Mummy and Daddy? You needed to act your age and try listening like an adult instead. Your lover had much to teach you if you had only been willing to let go and learn.

Saturn square Mercury

Different Viewpoints

The two of you had some difficulty making a go of it. You were suspicious of each other. You didn't see eye-to-eye. You, in particular, viewed your mate with a kind of contempt. That slippery, glib sweetie of yours could be a lot of fun, but seemed awfully insubstantial. You couldn't get the kind of security you craved; it felt as if your lover wouldn't commit. Worse, they had an awful tendency to blurt out the wrong thing in the wrong moment, and let loose some uncomfortable, unvarnished truths that lingered in your mind long after the moment had passed.The key to your problems lay in your past, both distant and recent. Problems you faced long ago left their mark. You were closed where you should have been open, secretive and distant where you should have been accepting and warm. Your path was leading nowhere, so why did you hold on so tightly to old, negative patterns? Some work on yourself would have resulted in a sweet thaw between you two. Your lover was waiting for a cue to let loose a torrent of love; all you needed do was open up and let it in.

Saturn square Saturn

Parent and Child

Whether you believe in karma or not, it came back to bite you in this relationship. You were getting the same treatment you doled out to someone else in the past, and you didn't like it one bit. There was an age difference between you and your partner, one that likely hovered around 7 years, and it caused a schism between you. The older of your pairing treated the younger one more like a wayward teenager than an equal partner: Rules were set down, deviations were criticized, dreams were crushed. The younger partner was left to play the part of a naughty child, rebelling in secret while submitting outwardly. And both of you thought you knew better than your mate, a problem that contributed to your not listening to each other.The solution to your problems would have been to lighten up a little while still holding on to what worked in your relationship. You helped keep each other stay focused and achieve your goals. But you didn't have a lot of fun together. You needed to make time for activities you both enjoyed, and not neglect the sweet side of your pairing. If you could have worked through your issues, you had a pairing in which much work and accomplishment was possible.

You Didn't See Eye to Eye

Mars opposite Venus

What Made You Run?

You moved through this relationship like a lumbering bear, rather than a graceful lover. You viewed your partner as oversensitive, but the truth was that there was something behind your partner's pleas for gentleness. You acted too quickly, often choosing to do what was expedient rather than what was right. You ignored the emotional component of your life, preferring to bury your emotions in actions. You slapped Band-Aids on problems rather than working for a true solution. At least you were sensitive enough to see the truth. You genuinely didn't mean harm; it's just that your lover seemed more concerned with good living than getting ahead, and that bugged you. You may also have felt jealous of the many who fell under your sexy partner's spell -- you needed to beware your jealousy, because it gave your partner a weapon to use against you. Instead, the key was to talk before you acted, and think before you talked. You needed to slow down a little. What's the good in driving through life so quickly that you don't have time to stop along the way and enjoy yourself? There is so much here to savor if you only let yourself.

Mars opposite Mercury

Frustration Station

You loved your sweetie. That was the first disclaimer you made when discussing your many relationship problems with your friends. But ooh, you just got so irritated! Your lover was apt to yak and yak, at inappropriate times -- you couldn't read a newspaper or watch a movie without being interrupted by a flood of chatter. Even more annoying, much of the babble concerned your lover's big plans and soaring dreams. At first it was cute, but then it wasn't. You got fed up with hearing about goals that would never be realized, dreams that would never come to fruition. Your lover was all talk and no action, and you were all about energy, movement and force. All the inactivity made you feel stultified and angry. If you were going to get along, you needed to take things slowly. Your partner viewed you as aggressive and kinda mean, and there was a reason for that. Take a good hard look at yourself. Were you a partner or a parent? You were often impatient and inconsiderate. You needed to think of your lover's feelings before you spoke and acted. Instead you let your annoyance color your dealings. You spoiled what could have been so very good. Remember what they say: Patience is a virtue. You'll be more virtuous in your next relationships, won't you?

Mars opposite Saturn

Out of Sync

Boy, were you two out-of-sync. You were that annoying couple at the party who couldn't stop bickering over every little thing. You accused your partner of being too pessimistic, too serious, too stuck in the mud. Your lover, on the other hand, found you bossy and overbearing. You disagreed over money. You didn't approve of each other's career choices. And worst of all, your pairing brought out the greedy, grasping side of both of you, making it possible that one or both of you remained in the relationship merely to gain or hold on to money or status instead of true love. But there's always an other hand, and yours was one with promise. You had the wisdom to choose a partner who was, as you accuse, serious -- but in the best possible way. Your lover was solid and and down-to-earth, and very very worthwhile, had you only found a way to cool off the antagonism that drove you two apart. Suggestion for next time? Stop finding fault in others. Focus on the qualities and dreams you share, rather than your differences. This will give you a relationship that will be a challenge, but the rewards will be more than worth the work.

This Was Not Your Destiny

Mars quincunx Sun

A Tightly Wound Spring

Your lover was one spicy meatball. Others envied your relationship, and they should have, because what you had was something pretty hot. You were equally attuned towards the pleasures of the flesh: sensual, lusty, sexy idylls could occur in the morning, noon, or night. Just being next to your lover was a delicious dream, and as you snuggled and drowsed you were in heaven. Out of the bedroom, though, things weren't as rosy. You may have shared many goals and interests, but you just weren't as comfortable as you should have been at that point of your relationship. You couldn't relax and let go. Your partner was reluctant to commit. Relaxation was the key to keeping this commitment. Though your personal tendency was to move, to do, to go, your love relationship was a fruit on the vine that just needed a bit of ripening. Did you always have to be in such a hurry? You should have kept a lid on your rampaging ambition for once, and just enjoyed what you had. You needed to be in the moment. Not plan ahead; instead, just think about the moment you were in. The friction between you would have evaporated if you could have started a chain reaction: The answer was to love, to bask, to laugh, and to delight in what you had instead of chafing. It's a good thing to keep in mind for your next love affair.

Venus quincunx Jupiter

Promising But Too Challenging

Both of you were such warm and loving people -- so why was there such a distance between you? As hard as you tried, you weren't able to get close and comfy with your lover. You admired your sweetie's wide-open mind and earthy sense of humor, while in return you were admired for your easy way with people and your vast capacity to love. Yet somehow things didn't hang together. You still got nervous around your sweetie. Conversation didn't flow. You tended to show each other your social smiles rather than melding together easily. Time and attention could have melted the frost between you, had both of you cared enough to weather your difficulties. You shared many things in common, including a passion for the arts and a desire to improve yourselves. If you'd have learned to travel together down life's path, you would have brought out the best in each other and gone further than either of you could alone. And it could have been done -- two people with such generous spirits should certainly have been able to find it in themselves to bend enough to accommodate the needs and desires of each other. You'll know better next time.

Mercury quincunx Jupiter

Three -- or More -- Was Company

You were feeling very lonely, weren't you? You were surrounded by people and noise, your hand held by another, yet inside, in the places that really mattered, you felt utterly alone. One problem was that the people who surrounded you weren't those of your choosing. Your lover had a habit of picking up strays and making new friends easily, and really, in theory you found it charming. How sweet that your sweetie was warm to so many. But you preferred not to be constantly crowded. You would have liked more quiet evenings at home, more dinners spent talking over the news and working out your problems, not endless rounds of small talk with folks you didn't plan to befriend.So how could you have addressed your issues with your true love? Because address you needed to; this one couldn't have worked out on its own. You should have found a quiet, calm place to sit down and just talk. Asking for what you wanted. Being specific. Did you want to spend two nights together a week, or four? You shouldn't have been afraid to open the lines of communication; you were deeply cared for and your lover would have worked to find a way to your heart. You just had to be willing to accept a compromise when you were offered one.

Maybe You Were Too Similar (or Not)

No conjunctions

Not Enough Glue

There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.

Next Steps

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