The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Mercury square Uranus
There's an old Chinese proverb that goes like this: 'May you live in interesting times.' On the surface it seems like a blessing. But you of all people could confirm that it can also be a curse. This partner who claimed your heart was exciting all right -- and completely unpredictable. You would come home at night to find that your lover changed the curtains in the living room or, oh, changed careers and made plans to move to Antarctica. You like excitement as much as the next person, but that was ridiculous. You two had a lot of trouble managing the day-to-day problems, because who had time to figure out what day to visit Uncle Fred in the hospital when you were arguing over giant life-changing issues?But you needed to roll with it if you wanted to make this thing work. You couldn't ask for stability from a live wire. Instead, you could have just enjoyed the passion and intensity that was the silver lining of the rather dramatic life you chose. You may not have had quiet nights snuggling on the sofa, but you would have had the kind of love relationship that made for great stories -- and great highs.
Jupiter square Uranus
What was the old Chinese proverb? May you live in exciting times, or something like that? What can you tell of exciting times, what with that great, frantic, scary sweetie you had grabbed hold of? The passion was something else, yes, oh yes, but the side-effects were brutal. You couldn't find your footing here, you were too well-aware of your lover's propensity for sudden upheaval. Life-changing decisions were made in an instant, and you were along for the ride, for good or for bad. It all left you feeling pretty insecure -- and perhaps even fearful that your lover may have had eyes for another. It could have been that you already had fidelity issues, and promises to do better next time didn't help you when your lover was so darn unpredictable.You had a wild ride with this one, but it was not without its pleasures. You were never bored, always wide awake and present for whatever you were handed. Trust in one thing: Your lover was never there merely for duty's sake. If you were getting plenty of attention, there was a reason why. You shouldn't have questioned or worried. You should have just laid back and enjoyed the goodies; this was one time it would have been better to feel than to think.
Saturn square Neptune
Romantic success seemed so tantalizingly close for you and your lover. But were you looking at things as they really were, or as you wished they were? There was something insubstantial in your pairing, something secret or unexpressed lurking right beneath the surface. Did one of you have issues from the past you'd never admitted or worked through? Was one of you up to something secretive and unhealthy? Whatever the issue was, it caused problems between you, problems you couldn't solve without owning up to exactly what was wrong.So you should have sat down together. Talked about your feelings. What were each of you looking for in your relationship? What was it you needed that you were not getting? And, most painfully, what parts of you did you fear were unlovable? It could have turned out that your fears and anxieties were not grounded in reality. And in any case, you would have had to let the real you be known if you were going to be loved and accepted. You didn't let your true self be seen. You feared that when you opened up you would be rejected. Your lover had tender regard for you; letting that love in to your private, bruised parts would have started a glorious healing process.
Mars opposite Neptune
Pity your poor lover, because you could be awfully hard to live with. You were constantly annoyed with your sweetie, viewing your lover's dreamy, drifting nature as lazy and unmotivated. You demanded changes, effective yesterday. But what you asked for was both unreasonable and unkind. You simply didn't chose a lover who would have been able to keep up with you intellectually and physically. Your lover wasn't the mover and shaker type. Instead, you chose yourself a sweet, well-meaning, lovable person who just happened to be a little spacey and emotional. The shame was that you chose with your eyes open, and then you demanded things be different.Papering over the problems you created would have been a lot easier if you had accepted reality and stopped wishing for something else. Your lover would always be a little out-there -- and that was part of the charm of your pairing, because it gave you permission to slow down a little. So why didn't you? You needed to just relax and allow yourself an idyll. Your lover had much to teach you if you could have stopped blustering and demanding what you thought you wanted. They key was to embrace the calm, the dreaminess. Just let go; there was a sweet release awaiting you.
Sun quincunx Venus
It's not that you didn't admire your lover. On the contrary, you recognized the qualities that drew you hither: beauty, kindness, a sweet-natured desire to connect deeply with others. But along with those good points came some bad ones, and that's what had you all riled up. You were annoyed, even contemptuous, over what you viewed as laziness. Your lover was a gentle dreamer, while you're a mover and a shaker. And that bugged you. Must you do everything yourself to get things done right? What would light a fire under your sweetie's tail to get them moving?Sorry to let you in on this, but almost no one can measure up to your high standards. And though you didn't realize it, your lover's relaxed nature was exactly what a striver like you really needs. You could have been getting the nurturing and affection that provided the healing yin to your raging yang, if you had just relaxed enough to enjoy it. You needed to cut your lover some slack. Even though their way of doing things may not have been your way, that didn't make it the wrong way. Had you focused more on your lover's more admirable qualities instead of concentrating on what was missing, you might have found that the climate of your relationship improved. Keep that in mind for the next time.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
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