The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Sun square Venus
Few could resist your magnetic, magnificent lover, and certainly you were not immune to their many, many charms. So why did you find yourself chafing under the bonds of your link? You were annoyed and irritated by things large and small; you picked fights when your sweetie would rather have been snuggling on the sofa or making a hand-in-hand grand entrance at some glam party. Why was it you couldn't seem to relax and enjoy a relationship that looked so good on paper? Your relationship showed exceeding promise, if you could only have made it past rough spots you experienced. You and your mate shared a certain generosity of spirit, enlivened by a love of good living and a desire to connect deeply with others. Yes, your pairing was challenging -- because you demanded the best from yourself and from others, and neither one of you let the other one slack off. You needed to learn to live up to each other's expectations. If you could have risen to the challenge, you might have crafted the kind of remarkable relationship that would make others envy what you had.
Venus square Sun
Mmmm, yummy. Your relationship was the kind of warm place puppies like to curl up in. Both you and your sweetie were kindhearted and loving, sensual and sexy. Other people envied what you had. But at the same time, there were cracks on the inside of your cocoon that didn't show from the outside. You were a bit of a stomper and a door-slammer -- and you were never known for your fidelity. Think about it: if you actually had to set up rules for what's cheating and what's not, you were skirting close to a dangerous line. Your lover, on the other hand, could be self-righteous, vain, and impulsive. In a lot of ways, you rubbed each other the wrong way, picking stupid fights with each other, viewing each other's flaws with contempt. To make this work, the answer was in good old-fashioned hard work; things like rolling up your sleeves and scheduling some time to work on your issues. Actual changes in your habits and behaviors were needed, not just a lot of hot air and empty promises. The reward for the work would have been a deepened connection that could have grown with time. The penalty for doing nothing was a crash and burn. You won't do that again, will you?
Mars square Mars
You met your match, a lover as brilliant and magnetic as you are. So why did you get so pissed off? It seemed like your lover was always trying to steal your thunder. If you had big news, your mate found a way to top it; if you were getting attention, your mate stepped all over it. You both tended to boss each other around; there were constant arguments over how to do every little thing. You picked fights over the stupidest things, and other people may have told you that your simmering anger made you difficult to be around.This kind of conflict dimmed your light. When you were constantly using your powers to block your partner, you shifted your energies away from your own goals. That was a mistake. What might you have done differently? Been the bigger person. If you had freely given your lover more attention and credit, they would have stopped agitating so fiercely. The ego flare-ups would have died down and you would have felt that 'us against the world, honey' feeling again. If your dueling energies were conserved, even joined, the pair of you could have accomplished great things together. It would have taken energy to get the ball rolling -- but the payoff could have been splendid. Keep that in mind for next time.
Venus square Mercury
You like to think of yourself as tremendously accepting of other people's foibles, but in reality your tolerance is more of a cop-out -- you just don't want to deal with the nasty business of confronting someone else and sharing your feelings. You'd rather indulge yourself, in food, drink, fun, and sometimes more illicit pleasures. Your lover was always trying to get you to open up. You viewed it as invasive and annoying, and felt like you'd had too many heart-to-hearts at 3:00 a.m. Your sweetie, on the other hand, found you rather selfish and closed off. How could you have met in the middle? You would have had to find a way to communicate your feelings to each other. Your lover wanted to talk talk talk you to death, but you were not a big fan. You could have tried another way instead. Emails? Scheduled meetings? Love Rx through limericks? There absolutely, positively was a way that you and your sweetie could have formulated the compromises you needed to get you through the next thousand years or so -- it just required you to get off your butt and start. If your sweetie really meant as much to you as you claimed, you'd have been wise to get going.
Sun square Jupiter
It was lucky for you that you and your mate could laugh, both at each other and at yourselves. That was a strong plus in a relationship that was sometimes challenging. You were impressed with your mate, and rightly so. They were generous to a fault, stately, wise, and larger than life. You tended to be just a bit egotistic, and your sweetie helped keep you grounded and sane, even as you encouraged each other to dream big and go after what you wanted. But it seemed at times that you were at cross purposes. Fate threw obstacles in your way, or each of you made choices that created chaos and friction. You got annoyed with each other too easily, each accusing the other of being self-centered, overconfident, so driven to meet the goals you'd set that you lost sight of the big picture. And you know what? You both had a point. You two could have been bringing out the best in each other, but instead you wasted your energy on silly disagreements. If you'd wanted to make this work, you should have stopped the fighting and started throwing your attention towards what you loved about each other. And laughed a little more. Because if you two had started laughing together, you could have survived anything. Humor is, after all, the best medicine.
Mars square Uranus
Did you bother to look before you leapt into your lover's arms? Or did you just follow your heart and your foolish, fierce emotions? There was a lot that drew you to your lover, including the incendiary passion you felt in each other's arms. But you were equally repulsed by your lover's unpredictable behavior. You were unable to get the commitment you sought. Heck, you're still not even sure if you ever truly knew your lover. Sometimes you sensed an unfathomable distance between you. Was that love you were feeling, or simply an infatuation that couldn't last?This was not one of those loves that was cozy and sweet, like a cat curled up by a fireplace. Rather, you grasped on to a live wire. You were faced with a choice -- you could keep holding on, enjoying all that was electric and exciting and thrilling about your pairing; or you could let go and relax into a quieter, easier existence. If you had chosen the former, you would have had to learn to ask fewer questions, to demand less, to ride out changes and tumult rather than expecting or asking for security. It might have been an amazing ride -- if you'd had the stomach for all those ups and downs.
Mercury opposite Uranus
In the mornin', in the evenin', didn't you have fun? Yes indeedy you did, but it was not pushing you to meet your goals one little bit. You and your lover had lots in common -- friends, interests, a great sense of humor. And thus you had a great time together. It was all fun and games. On the other hand, it was all fun and games. Together you were more likely to just hang out than get anything done. The laundry languished, the dishes stacked up, and more importantly, worked stalled on a much higher level. Your career was stagnant, and how long had it been since you'd done anything creative?In a very real way, you and your lover were such a potent pairing that you allowed yourself to just get lazy and enjoy yourself. To make it work, the solution might have been to team up. Search for some projects you could have tackled together. Were there classes you could have taken? New interests you could have immersed yourself in together? Surely you had ambitions in common. You needed to allow your stimulating lover to stoke your fires in another realm of your life besides the physical. Together the two of you had potential to accomplish much, and could have had a great time doing it.
Jupiter quincunx Mars
Your lover's hotheadedness really ticked you off. But you knew what you were getting -- so why did you then develop buyer's remorse? You picked yourself a sweetie who was compellingly intense, but rather hard to take. There was too much drama for your taste: arguments, fights, scenes. Other people may have told you they didn't like being around the pair of you, because your rivalry made them uncomfortable. You may have felt that you didn't have a lot in common, or that you had difficulty finding common ground. On the other hand, you and your lover proved the old saying: opposites do attract. When you weren't bickering and quibbling, the pair of you had a great time being involved together in intellectual, social, and charitable pursuits. You traveled well together, and enjoyed taking on projects with each other. So that's where you should have put your focus if you wanted this to work out -- on what you shared rather than what you lacked. You needed to get involved in something that interested both of you, and given it your all. Your differences would have evaporated if you could have stopped putting so much energy into noticing them. If you really couldn't get past the differences, then you are probably better off apart.
Mars quincunx Saturn
It's not that you didn't love your sweetie, it's just that you found your dearest one to be a pain in the butt. While you were courageous and fearless, wanting only to go and do and strive, your lover was like a big bucket of cold water on your hot impatience. You were reminded of unpleasant realities, and not diplomatically, either. You were often made to feel like a silly child, rather than a competent adult. And inside you felt like a rebellious teenager, wanting to stand up to the strictures your sweetie placed on you, and break out of the box you were enclosed in. If you were really in love with your lover and determined to continue, you both had to be willing to pay the price. You had to cool off a bit, become more of a listener and thinker and less of an impulsive doer. Your lover, on the other hand, should have stopped squelching your ideas wholesale, and learned to be more supportive and loving. Together you could have created a great big beautiful grownup relationship, but only if you stopped wasting your energy on strife and started channeling it into positive directions.
Jupiter quincunx Saturn
You stumbled into the family den of relationships: What you had was solid, dependable, salt-of-the-earth -- and not a whole lot of fun. The problem lay in your mismatch of aims. Though you were ambitious in your own way, driven to travel, study, communicate with others, you didn't have the same 9-to-5 mentality that your sweetie did. You bagged yourself a hard worker, and while that's great for stuff like paying the bills, it didn't leave a whole lot of room to throw everything up in the air and trot off to Paris for the weekend. You craved more excitement. You wanted more fun, more spontaneity. You complained to your friends that your lover was so sweet, but such a drag.But there were sides to the situation you weren't considering. What you had was stable and real, something that could have been lasting. You had the type of relationship that could have been a wonderful foundation to build a family upon. Whoever said one person should meet all of your needs? You could have kept your fun friends and your serious sweetie; there are many facets to you, and your lover helped you polish one of the most important. Take your newly faceted self and head back out into the dating field. You've got plenty to offer.
Saturn quincunx Uranus
The tension between you and your lover could be thick enough to cut with a knife, painful enough to make you want to scream. The problems you experienced could be laid handily at the doors of your very different natures. You wanted structure and stability -- you wanted to know where your relationship was going, you wanted to know you could count on a date for the movies and quiet dinners at home. But the mate you chose was anything but the stay-by-the-fire type. Instead, your sweetie wanted to socialize eight days a week. You lacked substantive time alone enjoying your pairing, and were either dragged along to events you'd rather not have patronized or left at home, wondering what was going on when you were not around to supervise. You had very different needs. But if you had really wanted this relationship to survive, the answer was to let go a little. What's that old saying about if you love something, set it free? Love is not a puppy you can squeeze or a document you can pore over. Instead it is unpredictable and fierce, by turns sweet and biting. You need to savor both sides of your love relationship. Don't ask for more than your lover can give, and ironically, you'll find that you got a lot more. Good advice for next time!
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
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