The Inner War Zone, Projections and Relationship Karma Meters:
You want the nitty-gritty, right?
You're ready to know the real deal when it comes to your own true nature and psychological issues... the ones that prevent you from finding and holding on to that ideal love you dream of.
Reading your Love Life Remedy report will give you that in-depth picture, but these three meters show an at-a-glance view of the lessons you have yet to learn.
Remember, whether your scores on the meters are high or low, you're in good company: We ALL have plenty of emotional baggage that comes from past relationships, our childhoods, and even past lives.
And we ALL have a lot of room for improvement when it comes to changing our lives for the better and improving our relationships, including our love connections.
7-10 Repressed anger, defensiveness and a seriously short fuse can turn your love affairs into an all-out war.
4-6 You've got some issues and inner conflicts to work through, but who doesn't?
0-3 You're so laid back in your relationships it could actually be a problem.
7-10 Seeing all sides of every issue is actually a detriment. You don't know what to believe!
4-6 You know your own mind, but you can see their point too. That's a good thing.
0-3 You see your sweetie as they really are...but do you understand them?
7-10 It's beyond time to work through your baggage from past relationships, or even past lives. Try moving forward!
4-6 Some of your relationship issues have been around for a while. It's time to sort them out now.
0-3 Good news: It's not just a new affair with the same old story. But can you compromise?
Yoo hoo! Pisces! Time to come back to Planet Earth now! It's hard to drag yourself away from your own little world, where you prefer to hang out, but life is passing you by and you're missing out. In fact, this tendency of yours to disappear into your own fantasyland, to space out, to miss things altogether, is a major contributing factor to the relationship failures in your past. 'Gee,' you say. 'I didn't know they were a serial killer. They were always nice to me.'Pay a little more attention to the people you hook up with, and your luck in love will improve. You're gentle, sweet, nurturing and affectionate. You're willing to overlook a lot, and your self-image isn't as vigorous as it could be, so often you get stuck with people who don't deserve someone as special as you are. Pretend you're a Virgo for a little while. Make a (realistic!) list of qualities you'd like in your ideal lover. Then use it! If someone doesn't measure up, move on quickly. There are plenty of good fish out in your sea, Pisces. Find the best one, and hook 'em.
Let's be honest. You're a lot smarter than everyone else. You've left a lot of people, past partners included, choking on the dust of your warp-speed, far-reaching thought processes. If anyone dared challenge your ideas, you silenced them with a withering glare and a very funny yet pointed joke. While other people were stuck in 'what's always been,' your radical mind was reaching forward to the most unusual, unconventional theories. The further out, the better, as far as you were concerned. And you'd talk about them anywhere; at the dinner table, at a party, in bed. No wonder your lovers felt like stuffing a sock in your mouth.There's a time and a place for everything. Sooner or later you'll find an ideal partner who is as intelligent and articulate as you are, which may find you stumbling over your words. What's more, their ideas may not all agree with yours. So you'll have a choice: develop a little mental flexibility, entertain some new concepts and possibly adjust your own; or spend even more time isolated in your ivory tower of thoughts, all alone.
No one needed to teach you that the best escape from real life was love. Or what you call love, anyway: the intense fantasies, the constant daydreaming, the spinning mental wheel of romantic illusions. Your faraway gaze could only leave others guessing. And when you had an actual lover, it was even worse! Oh, the endless hours spent cuddling, gazing into your beloved's eyes, or walking slowly, hand-in-hand, along the beach. How disappointed you were when real life intruded! But you've learned somewhere along the line that often, the fantasy of love is better than the reality. Other people can disappoint you when they don't live up to your starry-eyed ideals. They jilt you for work. They just can't see all the wonderful possibilities that every relationship entails. Realists! You'd be most pleased with a lover rather like yourself: someone sensual, peace-loving and sentimental. You long for a tender, intuitive connection. Go on, indulge your fantasies a little more. Real life will be waiting for you when you wake up.
You're one hot tamale. Or maybe more like a roman candle, which sparks and sizzles and glows until it suddenly goes out. When you've got your eye on someone you're virtually unstoppable. You'll pursue, chase, follow. You're bold enough to ask someone for a date who's way out of your league, and you don't get discouraged when they slap you upside the head. If you get knocked down, you get up again, brush yourself off and get right back on that horse.How does all this affect your love life? For better and for worse, as it turns out. For better because, well, bold is beautiful. Your very directness often gets you what you want, because such chutzpah is hard to resist. For worse, because you've blown plenty of people right out of the water with your head-on approach. Not only did you sizzle, you burned. Not everyone is wired to handle that kind of passion! The good thing about you is, you don't let that affect your game. Carry on undaunted till you find the perfect match for your fiery passion.
Are you sitting down? Don't be shocked, but the emotional intimacy you crave can't come from sex alone. Oh, a wild night might give you a brief glimpse of that intensity of closeness that you seek, but truly profound relationships require an alignment of more than just body parts. If you're honest with yourself, you already know this by now. If you're not, you may still be engaging in short-term hookups, seeking to feed a hunger that will never be satisfied in this way. So stop trying.Now, it's a good thing to want a deeply emotional relationship, and you're willing to sacrifice a lot to find it. You seek connection on the most fundamental, basic level, and when you achieve that, your sex life will become truly legendary, for finally you'll be firing on all cylinders. Your ideal partner will be able to meet you on the emotional level, honoring your need for safety and security and appreciating the vulnerability you risk for the sake of the relationship. And -- we're talking ideals, here -- they'll be in good enough shape physically to keep up with you in the bedroom, where you are more than anxious to express your affection!
You are so sure that there won't be enough (love, money, fill in the blank with anything you value) that you cling tenaciously to what little you do have and refuse to let it go. Funny thing is, both love and money like to flow, so when you've got a death grip on them, instead of flowering for you, they wither, and eventually the very thing you valued so much has evaporated from your life. And you ask yourself wonderingly, 'How on earth did that happen?'Your relationships? Well, since you're so anxious about losing the love you have, however imperfect, you tend to stay in relationships long after they're over, simply out of habit, fear of moving on and a misplaced sense of loyalty. Besides that, if you got out of your current relationship, you'd need to get off your butt and find another one, and you don't particularly care for new things. You prefer the tried and true, the known and familiar, the comfort of established routine. New relationships mean compromise, adaptation, establishing new patterns, and you're not so good at that. So you carry on carrying on, ad nauseum. The solution? Loosen your death grip, and resources of all types will move through your life again, with little effort on your part.
You and your generation are upsetting the apple cart when it comes to relationships: You're forging a whole new way of engaging with others on a romantic level. You've grown up to witness a huge surge in the divorce rate, and you resolved early on to do things differently from your parents. You may decline to participate in long-term relationships altogether, or you may completely rewrite the rules of marriage, factoring in the need for freedom within a relationship. Open marriages, having multiple partners at a time or having different partners for different personal needs are all ways of revolutionizing the world of partnership and romance. Your own relationship history will reflect the changes in the world around you. You and those born around the same time as you will leave a mark on the world that will last for many decades.
You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?
You and your generation were born just before, spent your formative years in or came around just after the revolutionary 1960s, and in many ways, you carry forward this revolutionary energy into the future. You expect a lot from life and from your romantic partners; perfection would suit you just fine! Unfortunately, Real Life rarely delivers perfection, so you may spend your life in fruitless pursuit of it. Yet while you may never find the perfection you seek, you'll make the world a much better place in the meantime. Your relationships should fulfill a practical need as well as romantic ones; your best partnerships will have goals above and beyond your romantic liaison.
Clearly you were taking orders from your heart and not your brain when you hooked up with your previous amours, because you chose folks who were rather ill-suited for you on paper. You're not the clearest thinker on the planet, and your lovers were a bit, well, wishy-washy. Not able to marshal your decision-making functions particularly well, you and your lovers were happier sitting in a quiet corner dreaming the day away. Your dreams never seemed to make it off the drawing board, not to mention your constant spinning-your-wheels M.O., which made you both discouraged and difficult to live with. And this is true of you to this day, not just in relationships.The answer lies in confronting your patterns and in being brutally honest with yourself. Haven't you been having the same conversations, the same tedious thought-loops in your brain, over and over again? Stop repeating yourself, and stop imagining that simply by continuing to live in la-la-land, things will change. The time has come for creative thinking, new ways of tackling the problems you face. Try something new, because what you have been doing certainly isn't working. Look for someone a lot more sensible than you are to keep your feet on the ground.
Acid burning in your stomach, your thoughts racing, your heart nearly beating its way out of your chest -- does this sound all too familiar? Your taste in the past has been for hot, steamy, simmering lovers -- lovers who then kept you entertaining a certain green-eyed monster. It was awfully unsexy. No wonder they didn't stick around: Would you want to come home to a lover who demands that you account for your time? Hardly. But as much as you wanted to play it cool, your possessive attachment to your partners seemed to make it impossible. You viewed everyone near them with suspicion -- and you even made some embarrassing scenes in front of others. So what's the key to smoothing this path? First, own your issues. Have you strayed from past lovers? Could this be the root of your worry that others won't stay true to you? Take an honest look in the mirror without projecting all your fidelity issues onto your ideal partner. You'll then be free to attract an ideal lover who is both powerful and faithful. Once you do this, you can start to formulate a plan for taking on your problems. Don't be afraid to start. Time to try something new, break out of your patterns, and create a passionate and equal future.
Is there such a thing as being too straightforward? Too honest? Expressing your opinion so bluntly that you spare no thought for how it may sound to the person you're talking to? You may well have received such feedback from past partners, who have told you straightforwardly, honestly and so bluntly that it may have hurt your feelings. And this is the nature of your relationships up to now: You egged each other on, drove each other to excess, escalated the situation for good or for ill, no holds barred. Your conversations became a contest to see who can say the most shocking thing -- who could raise the most eyebrows.The energy between you and your ideal partner is best diverted to activities other than competitive verbal-arrow-slinging. Get physical, and not just in the sack. Get out there. Go horseback riding. Take a spin on a bicycle built for two. Sign up for a martial arts class together and find a useful outlet for all the oomph you two will create when you're together. It's a valuable natural resource -- appreciate it and use it wisely! Everyone will benefit if you do.
When you got together with your previous partners, you were seriously attracted to the seriousness you intuited in them. They were your match on an intellectual level, and you felt they could go the long haul with you. And you chose well; indeed, your sweeties were stable and trustworthy. But it didn't seem like you were having a lot of fun. In fact, the more you tried to have fun, the more serious they got! The problem was that you were trying to mold your lover into someone who was, well, just like you. Though you always have big plans, your execution's a little lax. You prefer to dream the day away on the couch rather than actually get up and go. And it bugged you madly that your sweeties were always calling attention to this fact. Notice that they're not around anymore, and you're still spinning days away on that couch.Face it: Even though you don't like to be kicked in the tush, it still sends you in the direction you know you should be going. It just isn't as fun as you'd like. If you want to stay where you are, keep grousing. If you want to improve, buckle down instead. Don't try to sabotage your ideal lover's hardworking nature; instead, allow their industry to spur your industrious side. It'll bring you nothing but good in the long run.
Gotta give you credit: You do mean well. It's just that you generally manage to make a mess out of what you've got. You're never satisfied with what's on your plate; instead you're busy envying others for what they've got going. Not only is your cup half-empty, it's spotted and chipped, too. That being said, your attitude may not be ideal, but your choice of partners usually is. You're able to find yourself someone who's just as dedicated to delicious havoc as you are. You and your lovers have shared a strong and sexy connection. One thing you can say about your relationships is that they are never boring.Nonetheless, you'd like to be a bit more comfortable, and maybe even attached. You have not been able to rely on your past lovers to be there when you need them; that's a skill you've had to develop for yourself. But take it on the chin, darling -- you can get what you want: a relationship that's in flux and exciting, but not completely unstable. Find someone as offbeat as you are and go for it. Indulge your need for drama and variety, and face the fact that it's your very urge for freedom that keeps your relationships interesting.
Whoa, Nelly. Serious jealousy issues plagued your previous relationships. Your powerful, intense lovers turned you on, all right, so much so that you couldn't help wondering who else had hot pants for your One. Where did they go when they were away from you? What were all those numbers programmed into their cell phone, anyway? Who else had their greedy little eyeballs on your special someone? Thus spoke your paranoia, and your secretive lovers didn't give you a whole lot of reassurance, either. When you had the temerity to ask a question, you were made to feel ridiculous. Or worse, your lover split, vowing to return only when you came to your senses. But how could you act rationally in the face of your overwhelming jealousy? This is a tough nut to crack, because your insecurities melded with your tendency to choose secretive lovers who withheld both information and affection. And your own attempts to talk things out didn't work. Instead, try marshaling your independent streak. Play a few head games. Act like you're calm and collected, and soon not only will you feel that way, you'll attract lovers who will behave better, too. It's called faking it till you make it, and you can do it.
There's something a little off in your relationship history, something unhealthy lurking just beneath the surface of each pairing. Were you or your lover dealing with issues of addiction? Was one of you being unfaithful to the other? Did problems from the past make themselves known in the present? There was something fishy going on, but it was insubstantial, difficult to grasp and see. But likely it could have been that you weren't looking honestly at your problems, that you ignored what you saw and just blithely focused on day-to-day issues. You didn't dare look any deeper; in your heart of hearts you knew there was something your lover wasn't telling you. It's always been difficult for you, the straight-ahead communicator, to read signs and vibes, but you're going to have to learn, and fast, if you want your relationships to improve.Your best bet in partnerships is to to face your problems squarely. Bring them out into the light and they won't seem so mysterious and looming. Ask questions. Listen to the answers. It's not that your lover means to withhold information, it's just that you're so intimidating at times. Your relationship problems aren't insurmountable, just difficult -- and figuring out what you have to work with is your first step.
It's no use trying to fit a square peg into a round hole, they say, but that never stopped you from trying to nitpick your lovers into submission. You're full of aggression and energy -- and that's usually a good thing, but in the realm of love, your drive has gone awry. Your irresistible force keeps coming up against immovable objects: your stern, sexy, stubborn lovers. You were convinced you could change them into just the person you wanted to be with. Why couldn't you see that all your demands were getting you nowhere? Rather than comply with your directives, your lovers pulled away. You viewed this retreat as a challenge, and pushed harder. And thus a cycle was set up, where the more you chased the further your lover withdrew.If you want your lovers to stick around, you'd better cool your jets a little. Back off. Give them a break. Your way is not THE way, and you don't know it all. Maybe if you spent a bit more time trying to understand the way your lover does things rather than demanding that everything go your way, you could channel some of that extra energy into fun and passion rather than draining it all away with anger.
Sometimes you feel like throwing in the towel on relationships. They are just too much work. The tensions you've had with past lovers were thick enough to cut with a knife, painful enough to make you scream. The problems you've experienced can be laid handily at the doors of the very different natures you and your partners possessed. You wanted structure and stability; you wanted to know where the relationship was going, and if you could count on a date for the movies and quiet dinners at home. But the lovers you've chosen were not the stay-by-the-fire type. Instead, they wanted to socialize eight days a week. You lacked substantive time alone to enjoy your pairing, being either dragged off to events you didn't want to patronize or left at home, wondering what was going on without you there to supervise.The answer is to let go a little. What was that old saying about if you love something, set it free? Love is not a puppy you can squeeze or a document you can pore over. Instead it is unpredictable and fierce, by turns sweet and biting. Savor both sides of your love relationships. Do not ask for more than your lover can give, and ironically, you may find you get a lot more.
Past indiscretions have a way of coming back to you, and yours have rebounded on you more than once when your partners discovered something you wanted to keep hidden. You felt exposed and insecure. What you feared came to be true -- your lovers thought less of you than before. But what you didn't know was that the shift was due more to your secrecy than to your actions. How can a mate trust you if you keep things hidden? Come on, open up. Reveal all the aspects of the situation. What were you doing and how did you feel at the time? How has this affected your life? How have you changed since then?Opening up like this is quite uncomfortable for you. You would much rather revert to your usual pattern, pretending that nothing's going on while you bury your head in work. You also fear you'll be rejected if your ideal lover learns the whole truth about you. But you must let some air into your dark closet. It's hard to breathe back there! Let your lover know what's up; explain the repercussions of your past choices, and how you're making better choices now, starting with them. It's scary being an open book, but you can only move forward by letting go.
I hope you have enjoyed the valuable insight, wisdom and guidance of this astrology report. You might be a little curious about astrology and perhaps wondering how an astrologer can know so much about you!
Astrology is a mathematical system. It's all about applying meaning to numbers, or more specifically, finding meaning in the movements of the planets around the Sun, as viewed from our perspective here on earth. These planetary movements are easily captured and recorded with measurements, calculations, angles and so on.
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