The Inner War Zone, Projections and Relationship Karma Meters:
You want the nitty-gritty, right?
You're ready to know the real deal when it comes to your own true nature and psychological issues... the ones that prevent you from finding and holding on to that ideal love you dream of.
Reading your Love Life Remedy report will give you that in-depth picture, but these three meters show an at-a-glance view of the lessons you have yet to learn.
Remember, whether your scores on the meters are high or low, you're in good company: We ALL have plenty of emotional baggage that comes from past relationships, our childhoods, and even past lives.
And we ALL have a lot of room for improvement when it comes to changing our lives for the better and improving our relationships, including our love connections.
7-10 Repressed anger, defensiveness and a seriously short fuse can turn your love affairs into an all-out war.
4-6 You've got some issues and inner conflicts to work through, but who doesn't?
0-3 You're so laid back in your relationships it could actually be a problem.
7-10 Seeing all sides of every issue is actually a detriment. You don't know what to believe!
4-6 You know your own mind, but you can see their point too. That's a good thing.
0-3 You see your sweetie as they really are...but do you understand them?
7-10 It's beyond time to work through your baggage from past relationships, or even past lives. Try moving forward!
4-6 Some of your relationship issues have been around for a while. It's time to sort them out now.
0-3 Good news: It's not just a new affair with the same old story. But can you compromise?
Once you've committed to a relationship, it takes a real force of nature to unglue you. Even when your connection has long outlived its utility, you will stick around, plodding along in the same old rut, working and earning, taking comfort in routine and sweeping problems under the rug. Your stubborn refusal to change anything about yourself weighs down those around you as much as it prohibits your forward motion, but it usually takes quite a shocking event for you to perceive this. Jolted out of complacency, your dogmatic and rigid tendencies evaporate, leaving a morass of vulnerability and uncertainty.Once you've found your ideal partner, the cycle starts again, but this time you've got a heads up. You can steer problems off at the pass instead of hoping they'll just go away, and you swear to take a different route to work at least once a week. Handling these issues leaves you free to emphasize your most wonderful qualities: your affectionate, physical expressions of love, your grounded sensuality, your stability and love of comfort. Surround yourself and your sweetie with all the earthly pleasures you can afford.
No one can accuse you of speaking before you think. In fact, you ponder so long and hard about things that your response can be delayed for days. You're the type who thinks of twenty smartass replies, but not until the morning after! Witty repartee is certainly not your strong point, but on the other hand, when you say something, you really mean it. For a very long time. It's easier to turn around the Queen Mary than it is for you to change your mind on something, once it's made up. Your plodding thought processes have no doubt caused some frustration for your previous romantic partners, whose mental synapses were a lot more snappy. They just couldn't sustain interest in your molasses-in-winter conversational style.This is simply how you're wired, and you can no more speed up your thought processes than a whale can fly. Your ideal partner will recognize the value in your practical, methodical thinking and your cautious communications; you mean what you say and that's worth a lot! If any advice can help you, it's to be a little less rigid and inflexible in your thinking. The sky won't fall if you change your mind about something!
No one needed to teach you that the best escape from real life was love. Or what you call love, anyway: the intense fantasies, the constant daydreaming, the spinning mental wheel of romantic illusions. Your faraway gaze could only leave others guessing. And when you had an actual lover, it was even worse! Oh, the endless hours spent cuddling, gazing into your beloved's eyes, or walking slowly, hand-in-hand, along the beach. How disappointed you were when real life intruded! But you've learned somewhere along the line that often, the fantasy of love is better than the reality. Other people can disappoint you when they don't live up to your starry-eyed ideals. They jilt you for work. They just can't see all the wonderful possibilities that every relationship entails. Realists! You'd be most pleased with a lover rather like yourself: someone sensual, peace-loving and sentimental. You long for a tender, intuitive connection. Go on, indulge your fantasies a little more. Real life will be waiting for you when you wake up.
Here's a fact: Everyone gets angry from time to time. So it's not so important that you get angry; what's important is how you express it. Your tendency is to not express anger, but to sit on it. Why is it so difficult for you to confront and explain when someone has offended you? Instead, you hold it in, chew on it, swallow it and add it to the growing heap of similar situations. Has this behavior affected your past relationships? That's a resounding yes! You see, other people can feel your anger, even if you're not expressing it. It shows in your eyes, your body language, your behavior. A few angry words, which are over in just a few moments, are far preferable to the cold shoulder, which can last for weeks -- or worse, the passive-aggressive behavior you're known to indulge in. Don't expect others to figure out what's bugging you. Just say it. You'll find that your partner appreciates this direct method, and that the whole thing will blow over quickly instead of dragging on for ages.
You have a wonderful capacity to see the divine in every person you meet. It's too bad that this ability has so often led you astray, causing you to select lovers who never were able to live up to your idealistic fantasies about them. When you two broke up, you were crushed with disappointment. What you may not realize is that your lover felt like they could never be good enough for you, so after a while, they stopped trying.You can do better. You're highly sensitive and emotional, and although you don't like looking for faults in anyone, it must become a survival skill if you're to have successful future relationships. It all hinges on your ability to choose potential partners more carefully. Use your intuitive ability to hone out the bad apples, and follow your hunches toward the better ones. Choosing carefully is crucial, since once you are in a relationship, you will usually place your lover before yourself, and will go out of your way to serve them and take care of them. A partner who returns the favor is essential if you don't want to feel resentful sooner or later. You deserve the best; let your heart help you find it.
If you're one of the rare people who received unconditional love from both parents at an early age, your relationships are probably in fairly good shape, despite your reticence at expressing your true feelings. But if you're like most of us and suffered through an imperfect childhood, it's those experiences that have affected your relationships thus far in your life. Your feelings are wounded very easily, but rather than confront the person who has hurt you, you nurse your wounds in private and add the experience as the latest in a long line of examples of the reality of the cold, cruel world. You trust few, or maybe even no one. Your fear of connection is palpable, not because you're afraid of love, but because you're afraid of losing it. At this rate, sooner or later, you might get out of touch with your feelings altogether.You may always hunger for the emotional stability you lacked as a child, but that doesn't mean you can't find it as an adult. The big news is, there's more than one person out there in the world who can provide it for you. But to find them, you've got to believe it's possible. Let this be your mantra: 'I deserve love.' Cast out the disbelief inside you, and have faith that you'll find what you seek.
You and your generation are upsetting the apple cart when it comes to relationships: You're forging a whole new way of engaging with others on a romantic level. You've grown up to witness a huge surge in the divorce rate, and you resolved early on to do things differently from your parents. You may decline to participate in long-term relationships altogether, or you may completely rewrite the rules of marriage, factoring in the need for freedom within a relationship. Open marriages, having multiple partners at a time or having different partners for different personal needs are all ways of revolutionizing the world of partnership and romance. Your own relationship history will reflect the changes in the world around you. You and those born around the same time as you will leave a mark on the world that will last for many decades.
You and your generation idealize freedom and adventure more than the stability of a single long-term relationship. You are much more likely to enjoy a series of relationships, often with people who are radically different from you -- perhaps people from another country or a completely different culture. You appreciate the exposure to habits and beliefs that diverge from your own, because in this way you learn deeply about people from different places on earth. In your eyes, there is no better way to expand your consciousness than to do it through another person's eyes. Relationships are roads to learning for you; and there are many roads to learning, are there not?
You and your peers will revolutionize the arena of relationships and romances. As a child, you watched partnerships crumble all around you, if not your own parents', then the relationships of your friends' parents; and you decided early on that you wouldn't repeat the same pattern. You take relationships very, very seriously, and for this reason may wait to start dating or getting serious about anyone. You're not in any hurry, which provides you with enough time to understand yourself and your relationship needs. Don't delay too long, though! Fear of relationship can be just as harmful as hooking up too early. Your challenge will be in finding the right balance of independence and partnership, and in knowing how much of your personal energy to expend toward each.
It's pitiful to see poor you in such a state, literally starved for love. Your so-called sweeties have really been holding out on you, haven't they? And you seem to be in some kind of terrible loop, where each relationship reinforces the last. You keep choosing contained, precise partners, looking for a challenge. And you've certainly received what you asked for -- one heck of a challenge. Now you've broken under the strain, after doing things you wouldn't do if you were in your right mind, trying to get the stroking you deserve. But don't be so quick to throw your love life on the ash heap. Try choosing a lover who's not shiny on the surface but who is solid to the core. You may not have as much fun in this relationship as you might like, but you'll be on the road to a love relationship that demands the best from you even while it gives you the kind of satisfaction that can endure for a lifetime. Look for the oatmeal of lovers, hardly glamorous but undeniably down-to-earth, dependable and good for you.
Green has never really suited you. You couldn't help but be so jealous of your past sweeties -- you demanded every bit of their free time, you didn't approve of your their friends. And around the edges of your consciousness lurked the suspicion that you weren't the only one your lover had on a string. It's only natural that you felt that way. You kept choosing lovers with strength: powerful and intense, willful and secretive. Even when there wasn't something unsavory going on, they were apt to withhold information, affection, reassurance. You were left dangling on a string, wondering if you were the only one madly in love.Buck up. Part of the reason you picked those lovers is because you're turned on by the challenge. While other lovers may fall under your spell and allow themselves to be wrapped around your little finger, you prefer a lover who's a much harder nut to crack. You won't be able to control the situation -- but that burning, passionate intensity is what you crave. Tone down your jealous streak. Be a little more savvy when revealing your emotions. An ability to keep your cool is what's going to keep your ideal love relationship on track -- and you're a lot more attractive with a little mystery around you, anyway.
Let's be honest: You chose your past lovers because you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. You wanted lovers who would let you steer the ship, who permitted you to decide where you went and with whom. Partners who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams. You loved all that, but somehow it was never enough. Your partners were loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You felt like you couldn't trust them to always be there for you. Oh, they meant well enough, but they always found it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You began to feel like you needed something more solid and stable in a partner.It is true you will face many challenges in your relationships, but your love is strong and you can conquer your difficulties. You must tackle your issues squarely. Learn the art of compromise. Select a lover who can bend to meet you halfway; then bend likewise. Decide how you will keep your patterns from repeating. It will take discipline on your part, but with some time and practice these new patterns will come more naturally.
When your past relationships were on, they were so on. You felt passionate and intense, attracted to your lovers beyond all reason -- which is probably why you acted like one possessed. On the other hand, when your pairings went south, things got very, very nasty. Arguments erupted over things large and small: paying the bills, where to go to dinner, where your relationship was headed. You whined and sulked; your partner regarded you with unsympathetic distaste. You're not one to carry on emotionally, but something about those relationships brought out your weak, cringing, easily wounded side. It felt as if your lovers had all the power, and all you could do was cause irritation like a small stinging insect.If your partnerships are going to last, you simply must learn to give yourself the same respect you give your partner. Stop seeing yourself as unimportant and useless. Demand equal time and equal rights. You may think you're throwing everything away by standing up to your ideal lover, but paradoxically you'll win the love and respect you crave, which you never could and never will win by begging.
You just love to shock people, don't you? You'll take on the role of Devil's Advocate, expressing views you don't even hold, just to stir up trouble. You rock with glee when a lover turns apoplectic as you deliver another bombshell with your deadpan delivery. Fun as your subversive attitude may be, it's hell on your love life. One after another, lovers have come and gone, attracted at first by your genius and novel way of looking at the world, repelled later by the outrageous things you say to anyone at anytime. Just being around you gave them a nervous tick. Who knew what you might say next?In order to succeed at love, you need to pre-qualify new contestants to find one whose thinking is as original as yours. Once you find a suitable candidate, the solution is to team up instead of competing for the 'Most Outrageous' prize. Find some projects you can tackle together. Are there classes you can take? New interests you can immerse yourself in? Surely you have ambitions in common. Allow your stimulating lover to stoke your fires in another realm of your life besides the physical. Together the two of you can accomplish much, and have a great time doing it.
Why, oh, why do you keep finding yourself in this place? You seem stuck on a dissatisfying treadmill. One affair after the next, it's the same old dance with a new partner. You pull apart, come together, drift away, circle back. Aren't you tired of repeating the same patterns? The chief problem you have with your lovers is that you can't seem to find common ground. And it's true, often you don't have a lot in common; one is driven while the other is dreamy, one wants to stride through the world making big changes, while the other is more inclined to dawdle and drift.But why should you expect things to be any different when you're the architect of this awkwardness? You've been choosing lovers because of your differences, not in spite of them. Begin by looking for someone who has more in common with you. Then, be honest instead of expecting your new sweetie to be a mind reader. Force yourself to slow down a little, to appreciate the subtle and magical connection that is possible.
Your romance history isn't pretty. You've had a series of delicious attachments that have all collapsed. What happened? Did you forgot the old maxim about the need to let the things you love roam free? Insecurity lead to jealousy, jealousy into attempts to control your partners, who had no intention of being controlled by you. Intense arguments flared, marked by middle-of-the-night discussions, slammed doors, raised voices. The good times faded to a distant memory. But take heart; all is not lost. What you need is a little balance and flexibility. You don't choose lovers you can wrap up in a tidy little box. No, you want your future partner to be passionate and powerful, someone you can admire but who probably won't be so easy to live with. So don't expect every aspect of your relationship to go just exactly as you'd like all the time. When your lover surprises you, it can be disconcerting, but with the right mindset it's also exhilarating. You'll never be bored, and that counts for a lot. Look for an intense connection, because without it your life will be a lot less interesting.
Whoa, Nelly. Serious jealousy issues plagued your previous relationships. Your powerful, intense lovers turned you on, all right, so much so that you couldn't help wondering who else had hot pants for your One. Where did they go when they were away from you? What were all those numbers programmed into their cell phone, anyway? Who else had their greedy little eyeballs on your special someone? Thus spoke your paranoia, and your secretive lovers didn't give you a whole lot of reassurance, either. When you had the temerity to ask a question, you were made to feel ridiculous. Or worse, your lover split, vowing to return only when you came to your senses. But how could you act rationally in the face of your overwhelming jealousy? This is a tough nut to crack, because your insecurities melded with your tendency to choose secretive lovers who withheld both information and affection. And your own attempts to talk things out didn't work. Instead, try marshaling your independent streak. Play a few head games. Act like you're calm and collected, and soon not only will you feel that way, you'll attract lovers who will behave better, too. It's called faking it till you make it, and you can do it.
You're one who likes to handle your affairs with a light, sure touch. Others may swoon or weep in your wake, but you're the one on top, confident, smiling. That is, when you're not with a lover who flips your switch but good. Much as you hate to admit it, you keep getting lovers who do not return your amorous intentions. You were intensely drawn to these types right from the start. You ignored your good sense and went too far, too fast. Sometimes you felt helpless in the grip of a towering passion. Yet your lover wasn't similarly enthralled. Did you suspect infidelity? Did strangers call your house and hang up when you answered? Was your lover absent for unusual lengths of time?You fear all is lost in love, but this is not so. However, if you wish to hook up with a new and improved lover, you're going to have to work harder than you ever have before. You will not be able to make your ideal partner dance to your tune; instead, you will have to learn how to play it cool and not reveal how affected you are by them. Find a bird who will not sing in your cage -- and let it fly free. It will surely come back to you.
There's something a little off in your relationship history, something unhealthy lurking just beneath the surface of each pairing. Were you or your lover dealing with issues of addiction? Was one of you being unfaithful to the other? Did problems from the past make themselves known in the present? There was something fishy going on, but it was insubstantial, difficult to grasp and see. But likely it could have been that you weren't looking honestly at your problems, that you ignored what you saw and just blithely focused on day-to-day issues. You didn't dare look any deeper; in your heart of hearts you knew there was something your lover wasn't telling you. It's always been difficult for you, the straight-ahead communicator, to read signs and vibes, but you're going to have to learn, and fast, if you want your relationships to improve.Your best bet in partnerships is to to face your problems squarely. Bring them out into the light and they won't seem so mysterious and looming. Ask questions. Listen to the answers. It's not that your lover means to withhold information, it's just that you're so intimidating at times. Your relationship problems aren't insurmountable, just difficult -- and figuring out what you have to work with is your first step.
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