The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
Venus square Venus
Your relationship looks so good on paper! You both have a relaxed, sensual way about you, a zest for life, an appealing joie de vivre. But on the other hand, your values are dissonant, as are your tastes. One of you goes for the quiet and elegant, the other for the raucous and brash, a difference that's particularly acute around the expression of public affection -- which one of you is all over the other in public? It feels like you can't relax together; all the while little bursts of friction keep bubbling up and disturbing the peace. You view your lover as impossibly vain -- and surprise, that's the exact same complaint you hear back! And it's a small thing, but you really can't abide the way it takes your sweetie hours and hours to get ready to go to just about any social event. Luckily, all is not lost. These problems are really fairly unimportant in the grand scheme of things. You two like each other, right? So stop rubbing each other the wrong way. Make like a second grader and cooperate. Share more. Don't do the stuff that drives your lover mad. There's a lot here to love.
Mars square Venus
At its worst, your relationship is the emotional equivalent of junk food: good for some jollies, but with very little real meat to it. It is possible that one of you is in the relationship primarily because of your physical connection, while the other wants more of an emotional connection. If this describes your pairing, watch out, because such a mismatch of desires can lead to disaster. Jealousy is another area of trouble for the two of you, with both of you insecure that the other has a wandering eye. You may find yourself behaving in uncharacteristic ways: checking up on your partner, asking too many questions. In a weird way, the sexual heat of your relationship masks a rather cold center, and it can leave you feeling emotionally malnourished. Nonetheless, you are well-placed for growth if both of you are willing to work on the relationship. You need to shore up your confidence and learn to trust. Rather than demanding, learn to calm down and wait for what you want. You like action, but calm is what's needed here instead. Be kinder to each other and your love will grow in fertile soil.
Mercury square Mars
You and your sweetie have a problem: You're both hotheaded. Easy to insult and quick to criticize, you fight over the silliest things, and pursue each battle to the death. Have you been turning the cold shoulder to your partner? These problems are at the very root of your pairing. Though your connection is passionate and intense, it's also inclined to tumult, since both of you tend to view a difference of opinion as a threat to your egos. In addition, you may find yourself cursed with a curious compulsion to blurt out the most inappropriate things -- or a habit of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. You're going to have to work at it if you want this one to be a go. You'll never meld together smoothly if you don't put some time in. Schedule regular time to sit down calmly and work on your issues. If the urge strikes to have a rager, resolve to table the issue until your next meeting instead. If you can get a little distance and gain a little perspective, you both can learn to appreciate what the other has to give.
Jupiter square Sun
What a couple of strutting peacocks you and your lover are! And like peacocks, you are magnificent, impressive, admired -- and rather disagreeable at times. Both you and your lover tend towards the big and bold. More is more for the pair of you, as you spend exorbitant amounts of money, time, and energy on the good life. The pair of you do everything in a big way, creating a display that's dazzling, but death on your inner lives. You spend too much time trying to impress each other and outsiders, and the result is the Yorkshire pudding of relationships -- all gorgeous and golden on the outside, just hot air on the inside.What will bring balance back to this relationship is more attention paid to life's bread-and-butter. Make sure responsibilities are taken care of before the fun starts. Don't take each other for granted; instead, check in with each other often to make sure everything's on track. Curb your tendencies for extravagance and indulgence, and turn your energies towards what really matters: family, friends, a happy home life, and each other. There's a lot of warmth and energy between you. All you need is time to appreciate it.
Sun square Saturn
On paper you and your lover don't work at all. You're directed, goal-oriented, a little impetuous, a lot dramatic. Your lover, on the other hand, is solid and, to your mindset, a little stodgy. You come up with grandiose dreams, your sweetie stomps on them by pointing out all the flaws. You express dreams and your lover lets in all that bothersome reality. Sometimes it feels like you're a big balloon all inflated with hope, and your mate is a big ol' pin just waiting to puncture you. No wonder you've experienced some friction over the course of your relationship; fights little and big. But look more deeply at the problems you've been having. Is your mate trying to bring you down, or give you a hand by helping ensure you turn big ideas into actual plans? You've gotten so wound up with what you view as criticisms that you've stopped listening to the sense behind what your lover says. Are you playing the part of a rebellious adolescent, agitating against Mummy and Daddy? Act your age, sweetie, and try listening like an adult instead. Your lover has much to teach you when you're willing to let go and learn.
Jupiter square Pluto
Hey, jealous lover! It can't be helped that you chose such an intense and difficult mate, but do you have to reveal your insecurities so nakedly? Have a little pride -- no one likes to be begged. Particularly not your button-pushing significant other, who enjoys your predicament just a little too much. You're over a barrel, wondering where your lover is every second you're not together. Have you been searching for clues? Emails, phone calls, notes in pants pockets? Shame on you. You've let your emotions get the better of you, and it's not a pretty picture.The problem lies in the lover you picked. Your partner is sexy and compelling, magnetic and irresistible. But there are a lot of negatives along for the ride as well. You'll never be able to harness this sweetie. You'll never be the one in complete power. So it's time to muster your inner confidence, and vow to neither control nor be controlled. Be your own person. Make your own choices. Follow your own path. Your sweetie will come around once it's clear that you're no mere worm to be trod upon -- and won't being wooed feel great for a change?
Jupiter square Mercury
Nag, nag, nag. You can hardly blame your lover for turning off -- your needle's stuck in a groove, and you're running over the same script once again. Was it by design that you fell into being the bad-guy parent, the scolding teacher? Or did it just somehow happen, with you viewing your restless, hard-to-pin-down lover as a great big blank canvas for you to paint on? You bagged yourself a remarkable sweetie, and a good match for you. You enjoy the crackling energy between you -- you spar with words and never get tired of being in each other's company.Yet your desire to mold your lover into someone else causes friction. And when your lover is challenged, there is a tendency to blurt out the wrong thing at the wrong moment. Then you are wounded and hold a grudge. Can't you see that the whole cycle starts with you? If you'd relax a bit, live and let live, things would cool down. Your lover wouldn't need to rebel if you weren't always putting on the screws. Channel the generous, kind side of your nature and give your lover a break, willya?
Venus opposite Neptune
What secrets lie behind your lover's dreamy, far-off gaze? You have no idea, really, and the mystery drives you mad. It seems so romantic to be attached to such a compelling, enigmatic sweetie. Someday, you hope, you'll find out all the secrets. But in the meantime, you fill the information void with your fantasies. And therein lies your problem. You're not involved in something solid and real at all; instead you're locked in on a shifting miasma. It's darned sexy, and lots of fun. But it's like mist or fog; when you try to hold on to your lover things slip through your hand and refuse to be captured. Will you ever gain a more solid hold on this relationship? You've simply got to because what you have may start to drift away. You can't get a fix on what your lover's feeling or where you're going -- but to be honest, you've been too busy enjoying the fantasy to try to inject some reality into the setup. Here's your wake-up call: Start examining what you're doing with a more critical eye. There's much yet to come between the two of you and it's time to start facing it like an adult.
Jupiter opposite Mars
How does the old song go? One is the loneliest number but two can be as bad as one? Your love relationship can be a lonely place. The two of you don't always see eye to eye. There's friction, fights, uncomfortable silences and a big space between you in bed. The problem lies in your disparate natures. Your partner is passionate, aggressive, forceful; you are more thoughtful and optimistic. You're alarmed and annoyed with what you view as your lover's pushiness and bossiness -- you may even be concerned about a certain tendency towards physical aggression. It's scary, huh? Particularly to one like you, who can see the forces at work so clearly but can't make the jump to understanding what your lover's so worked up over. You can be the soothing balm that will calm your lover's rattled soul. Stop pointing out problems and poking at weak spots. Instead, treat your lover with kindness, as you would like to be treated. Don't expect a mirror of yourself. Your lover has a unique personality and outlook; you can't just paper over your differences. Some flexibility and understanding will go far.
Mercury opposite Pluto
At times you feel like a lab rat. Is it your imagination, or does your partner kinda enjoy pushing your buttons? Your limits are tested, your reactions gravely noted. And when you finally fall into a towering rage, your lover turns off, cutting off the interaction as swiftly as a knife blow. It's all left you feeling confused and tender. But don't try seeking soft comfort in the arms of your lover, who'll despise you for what'll be viewed as weakness. If it's any comfort, the problems you see in your coupling aren't your imagination. Your lover really does have a rather cruel and secretive side, controlling and withholding. The thing you have to accept is that there's a huge part of you that digs the semi-abuse. You like the challenge of trying to tame your powerful lover. You like having a partner who won't let you walk all over them. And the very fact that affection is doled out in such small doses makes it so heady that you're addicted. Don't fight it. Submit. Go along, get along. This could be quite a ride if you could stop chafing under the saddle.
Mars opposite Neptune
Pity your poor lover, because you can be awfully hard to live with. You're constantly annoyed with your sweetie, viewing your lover's dreamy, drifting nature as lazy and unmotivated. You demand changes, effective yesterday. But what you're asking for is both unreasonable and unkind. You simply didn't chose a lover that is able to keep up with you intellectually and physically. Your lover isn't the mover and shaker type. Instead, you chose yourself a sweet, well-meaning, lovable person who just happens to be a little spacey and emotional. The shame is that you chose with your eyes open, and now you're demanding that things be different.Papering over the problems you've created will be a lot easier if you accept reality and stop wishing for something else. Your lover will always be a little out-there -- and that's part of the charm of your pairing, because it gives you permission to slow down a little. So why don't you? Just relax and allow yourself an idyll. Your lover has much to teach you if you could stop blustering and demanding what you think you want. Embrace the calm. Embrace the dreaminess. Just let go; there's a sweet release awaiting you.
Sun opposite Uranus
Let's start with the bad news, shall we? Ultimately, you may want more from this relationship than your lover does. You're so very attracted, it's true; your lover is possessed of an original point of view, and a stylish way of doing things that impresses you. You're charmed, dazzled, turned on your head. So that's led you to ignore some of the warning signs you should have been heeding. Ask yourself some difficult questions. When the subject of permanence comes up, does your sweetie offer up plans of growing old with you in some rocker somewhere? Or does a strange silence suddenly fall? Better to have such conversations sooner rather than later, you know, when you're laying your heart on the line. If you want this thing to work, you simply have to scale back your expectations. C'mon, rustle up a little of that confidence that's always been yours to command. Don't expect your lover to be the cuddle-by-the-fire type. Instead, revel in a connection that's less constant, but more passionate. After all, who needs to snooze on a sofa when you can have long, hot sleepless nights instead?
Saturn opposite Neptune
Misunderstandings crop up frequently between you and your lover, don't they? It seems as if you always end up bewildered, apologizing for something when you don't always know what you did. Meanwhile, your lover pouts and sulks, wrapped in suspicion. Much of the problem lies in the fact that you don't communicate well. You are distanced from your emotions, wishing to bury yourself in work and your goals instead. And your lover imagines the worst of you, makes up scenarios and then treats you as if you'd erred somehow, or as if you'd made promises that you didn't keep.The two of you are simply going to have to learn to see eye to eye, and you won't do it by ignoring your problems. Gather your courage and start talking. Reveal your feelings. It's uncomfortable for you, but you must begin, since your partner tends to invent information to fill the gaps you left. Though you don't know it, your partner's feelings and desires are much the same as yours and a comfortable familiarity will fill your lives once you break through your block. Go for it -- warmth is a lot more fun than ice.
Mercury quincunx Uranus
Are you willing to pay the price for this one? Because this is one love relationship that's neither free nor easy. Let's start by sweating the small stuff, shall we? It feels like you and your lover don't speak the same language. You have difficulty understanding each other's issues and respecting each other's limits. Worse, both of you allow your love of variety and novelty to get the better of you. The relationship feels fleeting and unstable, as if either of you could choose to flit off with another at almost any given moment. Which one of you has your foot out the door this time? Not very restful on either side, is it?If you're going to stay where you are, you're going to have to make some concessions and compromises. First of all, tame your rampaging libido. Flirting with others isn't going to get you what you want from your current amour, even if it is fun to tweak your lover's insecurities. Second, you're going to have to figure out a way to live with the occasional instability. This relationship may never settle into contentment. But you were never one for calm anyway. Accept the relationship with flaws intact and you're well-placed for the future.
Saturn quincunx Uranus
The tension between you and your lover can be thick enough to cut with a knife, painful enough to make you want to scream. The problems you're experiencing can be laid handily at the doors of your very different natures. You want structure and stability -- you want to know where your relationship is going, you want to know you can count on a date for the movies and quiet dinners at home. But the mate you've chosen is anything but the stay-by-the-fire type. Instead, your sweetie wants to socialize eight days a week. You lack substantive time alone enjoying your pairing, and are either dragged along to events you'd rather not patronize or left at home, wondering what's going on when you're not around to supervise.The answer is to let go a little. What was that old saying about if you love something, set it free? Love is not a puppy you can squeeze or a document you can pore over. It is unpredictable and fierce, by turns sweet and biting. Savor both sides of your love relationship. Do not ask for more than your lover can give, and ironically, you'll find you get a lot more.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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