The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
If the two of you were pieces of clothing, you'd be a brilliant silk scarf, and your lover a heavy wool muffler. Each has their place in a wardrobe, but they're not so great worn together. Get the picture? You and your sweetie are an odd pair. You're a social butterfly, a gleeful hedonist, an appreciator of the finer things in life. Your sweetie is more attuned to the intellectual, as well as tangible signposts of financial success. You view your lover as rather stodgy and too wrapped up in matters of the mind, while your lover sees you as impractical and self-indulgent. Who's right? You both are! However, the mismatch in values and interests isn't as difficult to bridge as it seems. The asset you have going for you is that you each temper the other. You help your lover to lighten up and enjoy life, while your lover teaches you how to set goals and reach them. Together, you are each not as one-sided as you are apart; though you must plow through some friction to meet in the middle it is well worth the effort. By learning from each other you will both become better people.
There's a crucial imbalance in your relationship, and it's tearing your partnership to shreds. Sorry to break it to you, but most of the problems can be laid at your door. You've been holding out on your lover, emotionally and physically. It's not that you're not attracted to your mate -- you chose yourself this sensual social butterfly. That physical attraction and emotional bond was what got you into this relationship. But something's gone awry. You've grown colder. You see your sweetie as begging for crumbs of affection, which you selfishly withhold. What's made you so haughty and dismissive?If you're truly dissatisfied with your pairing, it may be time to tally up your bills and move on. But if there's still a spark there, it's time to investigate why you've turned so chilly. Is it fear -- of being vulnerable, of letting someone know you completely -- that's holding you back? Is it connected to past experiences in which you got the short end of the stick? A little navel-gazing is in order; once you heal your own old wounds you'll have more to give to your yearning significant other.
You find this love so difficult to grab onto, do you not? There were other lovers you managed to wrap around your little finger, blessed as you are with a magnetism and confidence that convinces others you're always in control. But for some reason you feel you've lost your way with your current lover. You can't seem to understand each other; it's like you don't speak the same language. You may even be finding your lover harder to pin down in the day-to-day sense. Has your phone been ringing less and less? Are you spending more time at home alone waiting for something to happen? It's time to take a good hard look at your love relationship. You chose yourself a sweetie who's creative and sweet, tender and dreamy. So don't expect a partner with a fiery drive to match your own. Your lover may be trying to tell you something that you're not willing to hear. Don't expect every message to be in words -- sometimes actions can tell you much more. Learn to listen to what your lover is not saying, and you have a better chance of hanging on to this shifty, drifting love.
You can barely keep your eyes off your lover. Does everyone see it? That grace, that elegance, that smoldering sexiness that makes the little hairs on the back of your neck stand up? Such is the lusciousness of your love, a lusty, steamy physical connection that others envy. But there are downsides aplenty, are there not? Neither one of you can stand to let the other off your leash. Jealous conflicts arise often; if you go to a party you're as likely as not to spend the whole car ride home talking about who was flirting with whom and how and where and why. You often view your partner as rather aggro and inconsiderate, while you may be viewed as ultra-sensitive and whiny. Both of you sometimes feel as if you're only being used. But who cares about that when what you've got is so hot, hot, hot? While other relationships are tepid and tame, you two are bubbling with fun and ardor. Enjoy all the conflict -- it's just a warm-up to another kind of wrestling match altogether. Put a lid on your jealous side and give your lover so much satisfaction that there's simply no urge to stray.
Ouch, must you be so callous? You've turned your confident lover into a whipped puppy with your here-today, gone-tomorrow affections. One minute you're passionately connected, the next you're itching to get out there and flirt, always with one question tickling your brain: Could I do better? Sure you could, you could always do better, but how many relationships are you going to chew through with your noncommittal attitude? It's fun to fall in love all right, but if you keep whipping through partners every time you get a little bored, you're going to find you've been feeding yourself junk food of the heart.What's needed is some frank and honest communication. Just what is it you're looking for in this relationship? How much time are you willing to dedicate to your mate? What level of fidelity do you expect, and are you willing to give? These are the kinds of issues that need to be faced squarely if you are to move on. Just hoping that things will work out on their own won't cut it anymore if you ever hope to iron out the disparity between your desires and your lover's expectations.
Pity your poor lover, because you can be awfully hard to live with. You're constantly annoyed with your sweetie, viewing your lover's dreamy, drifting nature as lazy and unmotivated. You demand changes, effective yesterday. But what you're asking for is both unreasonable and unkind. You simply didn't chose a lover that is able to keep up with you intellectually and physically. Your lover isn't the mover and shaker type. Instead, you chose yourself a sweet, well-meaning, lovable person who just happens to be a little spacey and emotional. The shame is that you chose with your eyes open, and now you're demanding that things be different.Papering over the problems you've created will be a lot easier if you accept reality and stop wishing for something else. Your lover will always be a little out-there -- and that's part of the charm of your pairing, because it gives you permission to slow down a little. So why don't you? Just relax and allow yourself an idyll. Your lover has much to teach you if you could stop blustering and demanding what you think you want. Embrace the calm. Embrace the dreaminess. Just let go; there's a sweet release awaiting you.
Bicker bicker bicker, bitch bitch bitch -- it's a good thing you and your sweetie have each other, because no one else could stand you. The pair of you are quick to pick fights, even quicker to find fault, or blame each other for what's going wrong. And then both of you laboriously explain your point of view, blissfully unaware that your partner is just waiting for you to shut up so they can get a word in. You may find you have may arguments related to time, or agreed-upon details: How many times has your lover botched a plan to meet up somewhere? And how furious are you each time it happens? The bad news: Your endless minor disagreements deliver zilch in the way of furthering your relationship. In fact, they serve to drive you apart, since both of you are apt to say any old thing that comes into your head when you're angry, turning a fight about dishes into a full-scale war. However, the news isn't all dire. You and your dearest do have quite the stimulating relationship. You're never bored. You could even be happy together, if you'd learn to give each other equal time on the microphone. Start listening as much as you talk, and you'll see the friction dial down.
You're at odds with your lover, and it's easy to see why. You're the sensual hedonist of the astrological signs, while they're a mover and shaker. You want to drop bucks on vintage champagne and throw parties, while your sweetie wants to network and take night classes. Sometimes it seems like you have nothing in common, and as if understanding each other will mean you must bridge a huge gap between you. And you, always with an eye on alluring new prospects, aren't entirely sure you want to stick around to work it all out.That's your prerogative, but don't go revving up to hit the road just yet. You bagged yourself a rare bird this time, and it's worth a bit of thought before you go after some new bit of fluff. Think about it: What's really important in a relationship compared to what your ego demands? Your sweetie can be a tad self-important and righteous, to be sure, and you find all those rigid morals rather a bother. But there's something so solid about your sweetie, so special and unique. Don't walk out the door before you think carefully about where you're going.
It feels like you and your partner are out of sync. Casually tossed-off remarks turn into major fights; small issues loom between you as if they were large ones. The problem at the root of it all is that you and your lover have a hard time communicating with each other. You aren't a big fan of long, rambling talks about your relationship. You'd rather spend your time relaxing and having fun, letting the chips fall where they may. But your partner is keen on analyzing your problems, pinning them down, discussing them (to death, in your opinion). You often feel trapped by all the chatter. Why can't you just enjoy yourselves?But there's a method to your partner's madness -- don't let childish petulance keep you from advancing in your relationship. No, it's no fun to have long, meaningful talks about your differences, but through them you'll learn to make compromises. Luckily, both you and your sweetie have each other's best interests in mind. Work from that standpoint and you'll soon see eye-to-eye.
Why have you assigned yourself the lowest rung on the ladder? While it's true that your lover is somewhat intimidating, all passion and fire and aggression, you're a star in your own right, albeit a somewhat less showy one. You humbly hope that others will see your worth, but you hide your own light. Don't play the part of a shrinking violet, afraid to ask for (or even demand!) what you want. Your mate will never respect quiet submission. Instead, stand up to your sweetie. Speak your mind. You have a right to an equal say in your lives together, even though you feel somewhat timid when faced with your mate's firm convictions and aggressive ways of getting things done.Being this upfront may make you uncomfortable for a time. But work through this discomfort, for it is only temporary. In the meantime, your partner will gradually grow to respect you more, appreciate your connection more fully. Right now you are viewed as something of a pushover. Wouldn't you rather be a peer and an equal? Stand up and take your due. There's no reason to feel like second best for one moment longer.
Does your lover have the roaming eye? Are those butterflies of suspicion in your belly? Or are you just all worked up over what you imagine to be the truth? The main problem in your relationship is that you, in your haste to activate your attraction, have chosen to grab on to a live wire. Your partner has a history of tumult, of disruptions, of passionate but unreliable love affairs. You've got excitement to spare, but you're missing the security and calm you gave up to follow your lover thither. You may feel as if you're doing all the giving while your lover does all the taking, or as if you're far more attached to this relationship than your sweetie is. Sorry: Even with all your force and drive and might, you can't harness this hurricane. Your lover will continue to shake things up, to be quicksilver rather than a rock. You may have to worry about infidelities, and you certainly won't be getting any balm for your insecurities. So what do you have? A hot, hot lover who's so enthralling that it's worth the shaking-up. Stop demanding what you cannot have, and just hang on and enjoy the ride -- it's a stunner.
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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