The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
Mercury square Venus
You certainly chose a partner who's a match for you, and that's a good thing, ultimately -- it just drives you nuts is all. It feels like you and your lover have difficulty understanding each other, particularly around emotional issues. And it's funny how a lot of things -- dishes, who's buying dinner, where you're going on vacation -- turn into an emotional issue with the pair of you. You plow through life with acumen and logic, determined to make sense of the world in front of you. Your partner, on the other hand, is more of a feeler than a thinker, and tends to overindulge your moods and notions. The result? You sometimes view your partner with something more akin to contempt than adoration, and neither one of you feels an easy connection with each other. The cure is better communication, and since you are the Great Communicator, you're well-placed for the task. If you want to stay in this relationship, it's up to you to bridge the gap. Stop finding fault with your partner; instead, find things to love and admire. The more you give the more you'll get.
Jupiter square Venus
You can be a real pain in the butt, and we wouldn't blame your sweetie for booting you right out the door. Lucky for you, things haven't gotten that bad yet -- but you're pushing your luck. The fact of the matter is that you chose a lover who doesn't harmonize with you naturally. They tend towards the indulgent: fine food, good wine (and plenty of it!), and abundant socializing while your more discerning, intellectual nature cries out for weightier stimulation. You crave a lover who can talk and argue and analyze as well as experience and enjoy. So, feeling stifled in your relationship, you take it out on the one person who loves you more than any other, which just isn't fair.If you can squash your desire to lecture and hector, you can make it past this rough period. Though you refuse to see it, your lover and you actually bring out the best in each other -- you're drawn out of your stolid funk, while your lover's self-indulgent tendencies are curbed in your presence, whether you realize it or not. Try to give your lover a break. Stop trying to control and change them. Ultimately, the love you want is already in your hands.
Saturn square Sun
You bagged yourself one great big trophy of a lover, but it doesn't mean your mate's easy to live with. Intense and compelling, magnetic and driven, your sweetie's a star but requires special handling. The two of you are often at odds. There's tension between you. Frictio. Fights. You want things defined and taped down; your lover's more of a 'If it feels good, do it' type. And that makes you feel insecure. So you say too much, demand reassurance, embarrass yourself. Here's a tip: When you ask if you're loved or adored, you suddenly become a lot less lovable and adorable.Much of the problem is related to your past. Think carefully -- are you unconsciously repeating patterns? Are you treating your lover more like a parent than a partner? If so, you'll find your attitude causes problems galore, not the least because a lover's supposed to be a friend and an equal, not an authority figure to rebel against. Examine your actions in light of your childhood. Seeing some familiar patterns now? It's time to move forward. What's done is done, and you can't mar your future in futile attempts to change history.
Saturn square Pluto
When your relationship is on, it's so on. You're passionate and intense, attracted to each other beyond all reason, which is probably why you've been acting like one possessed. But on the other hand, when your pairing's gone sour, it's very, very nasty. Arguments erupt over things large and small: paying the bills, where to go to dinner, where your relationship is headed. You whine and sulk; your partner regards you with unsympathetic distaste. You've never been one to carry on emotionally, but something about this partnership brings out your weak, cringing, easily-wounded side. It feels as if your mate has all the power, and all you can do is cause irritation like a small stinging insect.If this partnership is to last you simply must learn to give yourself the same respect you give your partner. Stop seeing yourself as unimportant and useless. Demand equal time, and equal rights. You may think you're throwing everything away by standing up to your lover, but paradoxically you'll win the love and respect you crave, the love and respect you never could and never will win by begging.
Saturn square Jupiter
You and your sweetie are an unusual match. There are ways that it's working for you, as well as ways you're bugged by the differences between you. Most of your problems are connected with the schism between your personalities. You see your lover as rather egotistic and indulgent, while you're seen as stingy and pessimistic. You're both right, to an extent. But there's another side to your differences; mainly that they complement each other. Your lover's presence causes you to open up and laugh more, while you act as a stabilizing reality check on your sweetie's worst impulses. Even so, knowing that doesn't help you get along better in your day-to-day interactions.One of the biggest problems you face is your own insecurities. You view your lover as somehow more important or special than you. It makes you feel like you don't have the right to expect an equal voice in the relationship. But your mate desires a partner, not a child to nourish and scold. You are every bit as worthy as your sweetie -- start asking for what you want, and putting in as much time on your own goals as your partner's. A little energy put in these directions will yield great rewards.
Mercury square Uranus
There's an old Chinese proverb that goes like this: 'May you live in interesting times.' On the surface it seems like a blessing. But you of all people can confirm that it can also be a curse. The one who's claimed your heart is exciting all right -- and completely unpredictable. You could come home at night to find your lover's changed the curtains in the living room or oh, changed careers and made plans to move to Antarctica. You like excitement as much as the next person, but this is ridiculous. You're having a lot of trouble managing the day-to-day problems, because who has time to figure out what day to visit Uncle Fred in the hospital when you're arguing over giant life-changing issues.But you're going to have to roll with it if you're going to make this thing work. Don't ask for stability from a live wire. Instead, enjoy the passion and intensity that's the silver lining of the rather dramatic life you've chosen. You may not have quiet nights snuggling on the sofa, but you will have the kind of love relationship that makes for great stories -- and great highs.
Jupiter square Uranus
What was the old Chinese proverb? May you live in exciting times, or something like that? What can you tell of exciting times, what with that great, frantic, scary sweetie you've grabbed hold of? The passion is something else, yes, oh yes, but the side-effects are brutal. You can't find your footing here, you're too well-aware of your lover's propensity for sudden upheaval. Life-changing decisions are made in an instant, and you're along for the ride, for good or for bad. It has all left you feeling pretty insecure -- and perhaps even fearful that your lover may have eyes for another. It could be that you've already had fidelity issues, and promises to do better next time don't help you when your lover's so darn unpredictable.You're in for a wild ride with this one, but it's not without its pleasures. You're never bored, always wide awake and present for whatever you're handed. Trust in one thing: Your lover's never anywhere merely for duty's sake. If you're getting plenty of attention, there's a reason why. Don't question. Don't worry. Just lay back and enjoy the goodies; this is one time it's better to feel than to think.
Venus opposite Sun
You've got a pretty good thing going here, but it's not perfect by a long shot. For one thing, your lover tends to run all over you -- or at least try to -- and it leaves you feeling a bit bruised. Who wants to be scolded and ordered around like a kid? You should be equals and partners, not parent and naughty child. But you're no champ at standing up for yourself, preferring to live your high life rather than work on anything serious and complex. Meanwhile, you get even in passive aggressive ways: sulks, leaving little messes around the house, initiating long, circular discussions about your relationship. You don't want to hear this, but on one level your partner views you as rather lazy and touchy. Now, all that being said, you still have a sweet hookup. You and your lover truly dig being together -- you have fun together. You want the same things out of life. You're harmonious more than dissonant. Try doing the things your sweetie likes more often, and the less popular stuff less often. There's no need for a major overhaul here, just some fine-tuning.
Sun opposite Mars
What a pair you and your lover make -- both vital and driven, passionate and forceful. You impressed each other from the beginning, and as time has gone on you remain no less dazzled by your mate's confidence and boldness. The bad news? All that energy is too often directed at tearing each other down rather than building each other up. You bicker over things large and small, each of you determined to win at any cost. Tempers flare easily -- you may even have heard from friends or loved ones that being around the pair of you makes others nervous, as they never know when sparks will strike. The answer in is accepting the polarities between you. You share many attributes, including a certain daring. But you will never agree on everything. Figure out ways to reduce your exposure to your lover's least-admirable qualities, and offer compromises rather than issuing demands. You'll soon see that you can sing in harmony. Don't think of the compromise as losing the battle that always seems to rage between you -- think of it as winning the ultimate war to keep it together.
Venus opposite Jupiter
You and your partner have a lot of fun together. Both intelligent, expansive, cheerful, you have many interests in common, and that's a good thing. Together you are a warm, dynamic couple that other people want to be around, just so they can bask on your glow. However, what outsiders don't see is the somewhat hollow middle beneath your gleaming exterior. You're so busy having fun together, so immersed in enjoying yourselves, that you haven't bothered to dig deep. Have you even discussed what each of you wants from this relationship? What direction you hope to go in, and when? Have you thought about potential conflicts in the way you deal with money, family, faith?You and your sweetie are well placed to move ahead into a fulfilling and lasting relationship. But in order to get there, you're going to have to do some work. Talk about what you want, and listen to what your lover is looking for. Do not ignore what you hear in order to gloss over any potential conflicts; instead, seek compromises. The longevity you seek can be yours provided you are willing to bend just a little.
Mars opposite Uranus
Your lover says you're paranoid. That you're imagining things, you're irrational, crazy, overreacting. But the plain truth is that everything you fear is actually the case. Your lover isn't as trustworthy as you'd like them to be. Clandestine flirtations, or worse, outright infidelities, are a distinct possibility. You know it in your heart, but try to deny it. The result is a war between your heart and mind that has you quite perplexed and upset. But you didn't set this one up right from the very start, did you? You got involved too quickly -- you certainly got physical without thinking first. Frequently you get in a situation where you and your lover are quibbling nonstop, both of you unwilling to compromise and cooperate. The answer lies within yourself. The lover you chose will never be one of those cozy, sit-by-the-fire-and-purr types. You will never get a calm, content connection with this one. But who wants calm when you can have fire and excitement? Embrace the tumult. Let go of your desires to control. And you just may find that the excitement of your tempestuous love relationship is enough to tide you over during the rough times.
No quincunxes
With no quincunxes -- one type of stressful planetary connection -- between you, there's good news: It's safe to say that you two are together purely because you want to be. You aren't drawn to each other for some deep, unfathomable reason; your mutual attraction is bold and aboveboard -- and what a relief! After all, plenty of couples are pulled together by forces even they don't understand, forces like karma and unconscious, psychological urges that stem from their deep pasts.This doesn't mean that you two don't have relationship issues to work out; every couple has them. The previous chapters in this report will help you to clarify and understand the issues you face together, and how you can use these challenges for growth and positive transformation. For example, you each bring your own unique family conditioning and relationship history into your current pairing. But these are issues you can think about, talk about and work on together with great openness and awareness. And frankly, these types of problems are a lot easier to work through than karmic baggage that's been carried forward from previous lives that you can't even remember, much less articulate.One area of difficulty you two may experience together, however, concerns the issue of compromise. Every successful relationship requires that both partners learn the art of give-and-take. With no quincunxes forcing you to learn to adjust to each other's quirks, flexibility and compromise may not come easily for you two. But with practice, each of you can learn the cues that will let you know when it's time to back down from an issue or give your sweetie center stage for the good of the relationship.So, consider yourselves fortunate among couples. There's no heavy odor of karmic debt permeating the air of your relationship; the problems you face together are rooted in this lifetime, and can be worked through in this lifetime, too. You two can bring great awareness to each other, and if you can lear
No conjunctionsThere's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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