The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
At its worst, your relationship is the emotional equivalent of junk food: good for some jollies, but with very little real meat to it. It is possible that one of you is in the relationship primarily because of your physical connection, while the other wants more of an emotional connection. If this describes your pairing, watch out, because such a mismatch of desires can lead to disaster. Jealousy is another area of trouble for the two of you, with both of you insecure that the other has a wandering eye. You may find yourself behaving in uncharacteristic ways: checking up on your partner, asking too many questions. In a weird way, the sexual heat of your relationship masks a rather cold center, and it can leave you feeling emotionally malnourished. Nonetheless, you are well-placed for growth if both of you are willing to work on the relationship. You need to shore up your confidence and learn to trust. Rather than demanding, learn to calm down and wait for what you want. You like action, but calm is what's needed here instead. Be kinder to each other and your love will grow in fertile soil.
If the two of you were pieces of clothing, you'd be a brilliant silk scarf, and your lover a heavy wool muffler. Each has their place in a wardrobe, but they're not so great worn together. Get the picture? You and your sweetie are an odd pair. You're a social butterfly, a gleeful hedonist, an appreciator of the finer things in life. Your sweetie is more attuned to the intellectual, as well as tangible signposts of financial success. You view your lover as rather stodgy and too wrapped up in matters of the mind, while your lover sees you as impractical and self-indulgent. Who's right? You both are! However, the mismatch in values and interests isn't as difficult to bridge as it seems. The asset you have going for you is that you each temper the other. You help your lover to lighten up and enjoy life, while your lover teaches you how to set goals and reach them. Together, you are each not as one-sided as you are apart; though you must plow through some friction to meet in the middle it is well worth the effort. By learning from each other you will both become better people.
You're having that sick feeling in your gut again, aren't you? Your lover is slipping away, fading out, losing interest in you. You may even be checking for signs of infidelity -- you know, going through pockets, calling your lover at odd times hoping you won't find out something underhanded's been going on. But you knew you'd be here when you started, didn't you? Isn't this the same old pattern for you? You always choose inconstant lovers who keep you on your toes, probably because at some level you don't want to find someone who'll really hang around and challenge you. But buck up. All is not lost. You can still pull this thing out, depending on your willingness to bite a few bullets. You won't ever find ease and contentment with your sweetie, but you can still have something lasting -- not to mention a lusty connection so hot that it makes up for a great number of deficiencies. Learn to play it a little cooler. Confidence is sexy, so display some. The more you learn to draw your lover hither fearlessly rather than leading with your insecure side, the less you'll have to worry about abandonment.
Both of you view the other as rather pompous and arrogant. The irony? You see your lover's delusions of grandeur but don't recognize your own. You're every bit as stuck on yourself as your lover is on him/herself. You can't see that you despise the parts of your lover that mirror you? Is it too painful to face? Or do you simply believe your way is the right way and anyone who disagrees must be a fool? It is likely that you and your lover have widely disparate views on moral issues and ethics, and that you're both somewhat foolish with money. Credit card debt may plague you, as may a certain lack of motivation. You both mean well. But instead of pushing each other to perform, you egg each on in unrealistic dreams.But underneath all the bickering, you two are well-matched. If you can muster a little tolerance (instead of demanding your lover toe your line), you could learn a lot from each other. By accepting each other, you can expand your world view and get along better with people in general. It requires flexibility, sacrifice, and patience/ But the work you put in will pay off, and darned soon, too.
Ouch, must you be so callous? You've turned your confident lover into a whipped puppy with your here-today, gone-tomorrow affections. One minute you're passionately connected, the next you're itching to get out there and flirt, always with one question tickling your brain: Could I do better? Sure you could, you could always do better, but how many relationships are you going to chew through with your noncommittal attitude? It's fun to fall in love all right, but if you keep whipping through partners every time you get a little bored, you're going to find you've been feeding yourself junk food of the heart.What's needed is some frank and honest communication. Just what is it you're looking for in this relationship? How much time are you willing to dedicate to your mate? What level of fidelity do you expect, and are you willing to give? These are the kinds of issues that need to be faced squarely if you are to move on. Just hoping that things will work out on their own won't cut it anymore if you ever hope to iron out the disparity between your desires and your lover's expectations.
Pity your poor lover, because you can be awfully hard to live with. You're constantly annoyed with your sweetie, viewing your lover's dreamy, drifting nature as lazy and unmotivated. You demand changes, effective yesterday. But what you're asking for is both unreasonable and unkind. You simply didn't chose a lover that is able to keep up with you intellectually and physically. Your lover isn't the mover and shaker type. Instead, you chose yourself a sweet, well-meaning, lovable person who just happens to be a little spacey and emotional. The shame is that you chose with your eyes open, and now you're demanding that things be different.Papering over the problems you've created will be a lot easier if you accept reality and stop wishing for something else. Your lover will always be a little out-there -- and that's part of the charm of your pairing, because it gives you permission to slow down a little. So why don't you? Just relax and allow yourself an idyll. Your lover has much to teach you if you could stop blustering and demanding what you think you want. Embrace the calm. Embrace the dreaminess. Just let go; there's a sweet release awaiting you.
Bicker bicker bicker, bitch bitch bitch -- it's a good thing you and your sweetie have each other, because no one else could stand you. The pair of you are quick to pick fights, even quicker to find fault, or blame each other for what's going wrong. And then both of you laboriously explain your point of view, blissfully unaware that your partner is just waiting for you to shut up so they can get a word in. You may find you have may arguments related to time, or agreed-upon details: How many times has your lover botched a plan to meet up somewhere? And how furious are you each time it happens? The bad news: Your endless minor disagreements deliver zilch in the way of furthering your relationship. In fact, they serve to drive you apart, since both of you are apt to say any old thing that comes into your head when you're angry, turning a fight about dishes into a full-scale war. However, the news isn't all dire. You and your dearest do have quite the stimulating relationship. You're never bored. You could even be happy together, if you'd learn to give each other equal time on the microphone. Start listening as much as you talk, and you'll see the friction dial down.
A fly on the wall of your love relationship would have no idea why either of you continue on. You view your lover as lazy, arrogant and self-indulgent; your lover looks at you as a negative ol' kill-joy. Neither of you are shy about sharing those viewpoints, either. Each of you tries to play the part of the stern adult, chastising the wayward child. It's fun to feel so above it all, but you're both so busy criticizing each other that you can't see your own role in your problems. You complain and you kvetch, but nothing gets solved. Aren't you sick of being stuck in the same old rut?If so, you're going to have to make some changes. If you keep banging on the same doors, you're going to get the same answer. Try shaking things up instead. Change your attitudes and try taking some direction from your mate. Loosen up. Laugh. Put work off and just have fun. You may be surprised at how much you enjoy yourself -- and how that enjoyment translates into a sweeter, more harmonious connection between you and your mate. You have the power to get things started -- don't let foolish pride stand in your way.
You've been hearing a laundry list of your failures, have you not? You're stiff. Serious. Absolutely no fun. A pain in the tush. And depressing to boot. It would all be unforgivable, if it weren't true. But your partner's no prize pig either, cursed with the knack of always saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, embarrassing you in front of friends and coworkers. What's interesting about the pair of you is that you hate in each other what you fear in yourselves. Your mate is well aware of a certain tendency towards sloth and slack, and hates the way your drive and stick-to-itiveness points up those failings. Meanwhile, you recognize in yourself a lack of lightness and fun.Instead of criticizing each other for what you lack, why not pass on your strengths? If you can bend a little, you can take on a few of your partner's quick, easy ways, be a little easier to approach. You could have more fun, in many areas of your life. Your mate, on the other hand, could stand a little more discipline and responsibility. Stop resisting. Relax. There's nothing that'll harm you here.
Does your lover have the roaming eye? Are those butterflies of suspicion in your belly? Or are you just all worked up over what you imagine to be the truth? The main problem in your relationship is that you, in your haste to activate your attraction, have chosen to grab on to a live wire. Your partner has a history of tumult, of disruptions, of passionate but unreliable love affairs. You've got excitement to spare, but you're missing the security and calm you gave up to follow your lover thither. You may feel as if you're doing all the giving while your lover does all the taking, or as if you're far more attached to this relationship than your sweetie is. Sorry: Even with all your force and drive and might, you can't harness this hurricane. Your lover will continue to shake things up, to be quicksilver rather than a rock. You may have to worry about infidelities, and you certainly won't be getting any balm for your insecurities. So what do you have? A hot, hot lover who's so enthralling that it's worth the shaking-up. Stop demanding what you cannot have, and just hang on and enjoy the ride -- it's a stunner.
You've always been the kind of lover your mates have bragged about to their moms -- reliable, sensible, stable, loyal. But something about your current amour has turned your usual style upside down. You feel burdened by what you view as your obligation to your mate. You also carry guilt from bad choices you've made in the past, and that guilt carries over into your current relationship, causing you to take on more responsibility and commitment than you really feel ready for.But why are you blaming your mate for your own bad choices? Obligations aren't placed upon you. You take them on yourself. If you don't want to be burdened, just learn how to say 'no.' Seek the advice of friends, who can help you clarify what you want and what you should reject. Then pick and choose what you want to say yes or no to. Give in to your lover on some matters, but insist on your own way in others. It's not comfortable for you, speaking your mind. It may bring on a difficult transitional period, but at the end of it your lover will know -- and adore -- the real you.
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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