The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
Your relationship looks so good on paper! You both have a relaxed, sensual way about you, a zest for life, an appealing joie de vivre. But on the other hand, your values are dissonant, as are your tastes. One of you goes for the quiet and elegant, the other for the raucous and brash, a difference that's particularly acute around the expression of public affection -- which one of you is all over the other in public? It feels like you can't relax together; all the while little bursts of friction keep bubbling up and disturbing the peace. You view your lover as impossibly vain -- and surprise, that's the exact same complaint you hear back! And it's a small thing, but you really can't abide the way it takes your sweetie hours and hours to get ready to go to just about any social event. Luckily, all is not lost. These problems are really fairly unimportant in the grand scheme of things. You two like each other, right? So stop rubbing each other the wrong way. Make like a second grader and cooperate. Share more. Don't do the stuff that drives your lover mad. There's a lot here to love.
Is it hot in here? No, it's just you two. Mmm, everyone's wanting some of what you have between you: sweaty, sticky, lovely lust. Your connection got physical fast, simply because neither of you could resist each other. Opposites attract, so they say, and in your case they're absolutely right, with one's receptive energy meeting the other's force with explosive results. But there is (or should be) life outside the bedroom, and you two haven't had very much of it. It could be that one of you is using the other merely to slake a physical urge -- not a problem if both of you are in on the agreement, but nasty and painful if one of you is looking for love and the other just lust. One of you may also be very jealous and possessive of the other as well. The solution lies in extending your compatibility beyond the bedroom. Do you share interests in common? If not, better develop some soon. Talk about your values, your hopes, your dreams. Being close on one level does not an emotional connection make; you need to spend more time bonding and less time smooching.
Do you smell smoke? Because you and your lover are a potent -- some would say dangerous -- combination. At best you are partners in crime, both blessed with a verve and drive that propels you through life with the force of a bullet shot out of a gun. At worst, you're deadly enemies. You irritate each other, egg each other on to new heights of ego and unreason. Both of you perform for each other -- I'm the most powerful! No, me! There is constant friction between you as both of you fight for the upper hand. Even something as simple as choosing what to eat for dinner or what movie to see becomes a battle. Your friends dread being around the pair of you at times because you're so warlike. At worst, one or both of you can be abusive. The answer lies in dialing down your competitive streak. Don't bait your lover, or rise to bait. Consciously try to calm down and consider your words and actions. Don't react impulsively. Instead, slow down and think carefully about your ultimate goals, not just your emotions at a particular moment. With a little more care and attention, your relationship can swing from a constant battle to a sparkling idyll.
Nervous intensity is at the center of your relationship, and it's an awfully shaky ground to build upon: emotional quicksand instead of solid, dependable rock. You often find yourself furious with your lover, who blurts out the worst things at the most inopportune moments (and like as not in front of the worst people -- best to keep this lover away from your boss!). Too often have you been wounded with the unvarnished truth. Now, tragically, you're apt to discount what your lover says instead of taking helpful hints on board. The smallest issues seem to erupt into big arguments; the two of you misunderstand each other's intentions and actions. But it's not all bad news. The reason your relationship has lasted this long is because you can bring out the best in each other. The competitiveness simmering under the surface keeps things interesting, sparkling. There's an energy between you that can't be denied. Try approaching each situation with calm. Talk slowly. Listen more. If a little cool breeze can blow into your relationship, it might make it easier to relax rather than reacting impulsively.
You're mystified with the problems plaguing your relationship, and there's a reason why: Your buttons are getting pushed. Remember: You've been a great communicator, blessed with a silver tongue and an ease with words. Never one to keep your feelings bottled up inside, you've always been able to work out problems by talking them out. But sometimes it's like you and your lover are speaking a different language. You start out trying to have a productive discussion about your issues, and suddenly it turns into a fight. You begin shouting at each other, and then you're not speaking at all. The silence stretches out as both of you refuse to give in. And as soon as it's over the cycle starts all over again. Yet if you only knew what you'd be giving up if you walked away, you'd think twice about abandoning your mate. Though you're both making a mess of things, you and your sweetie could be bringing out the best of each other. Tackle your issues head on -- put aside time to calmly talk through things. Be the peacemaker; tell your lover how much your relationship is worth to you. Giving in feels so good when you get so much in return.
The problem with the two of you is that you're both so busy papering over your problems with sweetness and lightness that you can't see the great big chasms between you. Chances are that you hold widely varying opinions of some kind -- they could be connected with your careers, or moral philosophies. Whatever the great divide is, it's something you're refusing to face. You keep your eyes closed, preferring to focus on the warmth between you and your lover. Day-to-day life is uncomplicated and easy since the two of you get along so well. So that's where you live, in the day-to-day, letting things drift along pleasantly without knowing exactly where you're going.That's all fine and well, but there's going to be a wake-up call sooner or later, and sooner is better than later. Talk about the differing issues between you. It may well be that you can find a compromise. But you'll never get there without some hard work. You're going to have to bend, a little or a lot, and accept something you never thought you could. Find a middle ground -- if there's a solution that leaves you and your partner both feeling bittersweet, you've probably found it.
At your best, you're a pair of cooing lovebirds: sweet, adoring, inclined towards generosity, good times and cheer. It sounds so positive, does it not? It generally is. Except, for the pair of you, there is no restraint. Neither of you knows how to hold back, how to stop yourself before you say too much, how to discipline yourselves. You indulge all your appetites -- for food, for passion, for drink, for fun. You encourage each other in your excesses, and inevitably the bill for all this high living comes due. And that's when the friction starts between you, as each blames the other for money problems, weight issues, problems stemming from not taking care of responsibilities.Luckily, the problem are not that tough to iron out. Seek out professional help in your problem areas. Hire someone to help you make a budget, engage a professional trainer, or otherwise find a pro who'll spur you into some kind of action. Let loose on the world. You're a force to be reckoned with -- all you have to do is ensure your energy's being channeled into positive areas. With a little more discipline on both your parts, your life will come back into balance.
Misunderstandings crop up frequently between you and your lover, don't they? It seems as if you always end up bewildered, apologizing for something when you don't always know what you did. Meanwhile, your lover pouts and sulks, wrapped in suspicion. Much of the problem lies in the fact that you don't communicate well. You are distanced from your emotions, wishing to bury yourself in work and your goals instead. And your lover imagines the worst of you, makes up scenarios and then treats you as if you'd erred somehow, or as if you'd made promises that you didn't keep.The two of you are simply going to have to learn to see eye to eye, and you won't do it by ignoring your problems. Gather your courage and start talking. Reveal your feelings. It's uncomfortable for you, but you must begin, since your partner tends to invent information to fill the gaps you left. Though you don't know it, your partner's feelings and desires are much the same as yours and a comfortable familiarity will fill your lives once you break through your block. Go for it -- warmth is a lot more fun than ice.
Other people envy you and your lover, because the two of you are equally lively and bright and seem so well-matched. You're a sparkling power couple, both blessed with magnetism and drive. But those jealous of your pairing aren't on the inside and thus don't see the problems. In truth, you and your sweetie have trouble finding common ground. Though you stimulate each other mentally, sometimes all the stimulation turns into irritation. You find it difficult to relax with each other, to go easily into that good night. You may have a lot of friction, or just a lot of awkward silences. The key lies in de-emphasizing your differences and playing up what you share in common. You both have an interest in politics, current events, debating controversial issues. Try to focus on these types of topics when you're with your sweetie, rather than devolving into discussions into what's wrong with your relationship, which have a way of turning sour fast. Oddly enough, even as you ignore your problems in favor of just enjoying one another's company, the problems will dwindle, and eventually disappear. Nice!
Alone, in your most private of moments, you and your lover are quite a match. Your hearts beat as one, your touch makes your mate melt, etc. etc. But out of the bedroom things are not so rosy. There is much dissension between you and your mate, likely centered either on your social lives or careers. You are sensual and expansive, attractive to others and often surrounded by a crowd. Your mate, on the other hand, tends to be more reserved and conservative, needs more alone time, and is a bit punishing. Together you have a tendency to play parent-child, with the one playing the parent switching off from time to time.Both of you must learn to temper your tendencies towards extremism. You actually have much to learn from each other if you can stop fighting each other's influences and instead learn what you can from your differences. You could stand to be more directed; your sweetie could certainly lighten up a bit. Why not call a truce? Let the sweet harmony you feel physically radiate out to the other areas of your relationship as you learn to treat each other with more consideration and kindness.
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