The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Saturn square Venus
There was a crucial imbalance in your relationship, and it tore your partnership to shreds. Sorry to break the news to you, but most of the problems could be laid at your door. You held out on your lover, emotionally and physically. It wasn't that you were repelled by your mate -- you chose yourself this sensual social butterfly, after all. That physical attraction and emotional bond was what got you into this relationship. But something went awry. You grew colder. You saw your sweetie as begging for crumbs of affection, which you selfishly withheld. What made you so haughty and dismissive?If you were truly dissatisfied with your pairing, it's good that you tallied up your bills and moved on. But had there still been a spark, you should have investigated why you turned so chilly. Was it fear -- of being vulnerable, of letting someone know you completely -- that held you back? Was it connected to past experiences in which you got the short end of the stick? A little navel-gazing was in order; once you healed your own old wounds you'd have had more to give to your yearning significant other. It's never too later for self examination, and doing it now will improve your relationships later.
Sun square Pluto
Color you green, because you were possessive and ill-tempered in this relationship. You landed yourself a big fish that time: powerful, magnetic, impressive. Every head turned when you walked in the room with this special someone on your arm, and you liked it. You basked in the reflected glow of your sweetheart, no less so because you gave off a vibrant, confident sparkle of your own. Truly you were a power couple, a pair others envy. But behind the scenes all was not so sweet. Both you and your sweetie tended to be imperious, fractious, spiteful. Worse, your usual confidence was shaken by your lover's secretive ways. You couldn't seem to get your mojo working, you felt out-of-sorts and angry. You may even have viewed your partner's behavior as abusive. If you had really wanted this to work out, the secret to managing this difficult love relationship would have been to exhibit a little more patience, and a lot more equanimity. Your partner wouldn't have pulled away if you hadn't demanded so much reassurance. If you'd been the person you'd like to come home to, your mate might have been home more often.
Venus square Uranus
Yours was the kind of romance that makes for great stories later -- in other words, it wasn't always easy. You and your lover were drawn to each other right from the start. It all happened so fast. One minute you were on your first date, the next you were on the phone to your best friend saying 'This is the ONE!' You fell into love so quickly that you didn't look where you were headed, and therein lay the problem. It's just that you chose yourself such a darned tricky, unstable sweetie; full of electric excitement, of drama and blistering, little-hairs-standing-up-on-the-back-of-your-neck passion. But as you no doubt found out, they also signified upheaval, disruption, a heaping helping of the wrong kind of excitement.Well, if nothing else, you had yourself one heck of a ride. If you were willing to hang on, accepting all the bumps and jolts that were sure to come your way, more thrills would have been yours. One thing you could say for your relationship -- it was absolutely never boring. You may decide that next time you want a little smoother ride.
Mercury square Jupiter
It's not that you didn't love and adore your precious one with every ounce of your being. It's just that if you had to listen to that superior tone of voice for one more second, you were going to put your fist through a wall. Your matchups had a way of turning into mismatches -- with your expansive, confident partner running roughshod over playful little you. It's possible that your lover was significantly older than you, or in some way more worldly -- better educated? more advanced careerwise? Certainly you felt at a disadvantage next to your sweetie, more like a student listening to a teacher's discourse, or a kid being lectured by a parent than a true partner. On the other hand, there was a lot your lover could have taught you if you were able to walk the fine line between willing acolyte and bullied wretch. If you had wanted to make this work, you needed to demand respect from your partner. A polite tone of voice was a must, and snide remarks would not be tolerated by you. Once you began standing up for yourself, the balance of power in the relationship would have shifted, and you could have both start enjoying the pleasant buzz of your stimulating love relationship.
Jupiter square Jupiter
Both of you viewed the other as rather pompous and arrogant. The irony? You saw your lover's delusions of grandeur but didn't recognize your own. You were every bit as stuck on yourself as your lover was. Why was it you couldn't see that you despised the parts of your lover that mirrored your own? Was it too painful to face? Or did you simply believe your way was the way and anyone who disagreed must be a fool? It was likely that you and your lover had widely disparate views on moral issues and ethics, and that you were both somewhat foolish with money. Credit card debt may have plagued you, as may a certain lack of motivation. You both meant well, but you egged each other's unrealistic dreams on, instead of pushing each other to perform.But underneath all the bickering, you two were well-matched. If you could have mustered a little tolerance (instead of demanding your lover toe your line), you could even have learned a lot from each other. By accepting each other, you could have expanded your world view and gotten along better with people in general. It required flexibility, sacrifice, and patience, but the work you put in would have paid off, and quickly too.
Mercury square Saturn
You were never a model of serene stability, but in this relationship your jitters were near-constant. Were you sleeping poorly? Eating junk food, or almost nothing at all? Craving cigarettes and other illicit substances? And hey, how were those dreams? Deep inside, you knew; Your love life had been going downhill for some time, and there was a reason. You chose yourself a lover who could meet you eye-to-eye intellectually, but who was a bit chilly. Whereas you reached out to the world with a rather playful and impish warmth, your lover was rather stern. If you were in a sitcom, you would have been the bratty little brother and your sweetie would have been the grouchy dad in the La-Z-Boy.On the plus side, your lover provided you with plenty of stimulation on every level. Much was demanded of you, and you had to work hard to deliver. This polished you, like a rock eroded by a powerful river. No one ever said growth was fun! And grow you did, though you remained insecure as to where your relationship was going. You were well-placed for the future if you could have engaged in meaningful communication.
Sun opposite Sun
You pushed and your partner pulled, you zigged and your lover zagged. It seemed like balance was hard won in this clash of wills. You may have felt as if you were doing all the giving while your so-called sweetie was taking you for all you were worth, sucking up the dinners you cooked and the lovin' you doled out with nary a thought to reciprocation. Or you could have been on the other end entirely, getting more than you gave, which gratified your ego but never resulted in a serene and long-lasting love.On the other hand, all this turmoil probably won you two some pretty hot canoodling. Opposites attract, they say, and you lived it. You may have found yourself angry and passionate by turn, each emotion inflaming the other. So what might have been the secret to hanging on to the good stuff while eliminating the vicious battle of wills? Mutual respect was key. You each had to be prepared to give a little -- and remember that compromise didn't mean giving in, it meant granting your relationship the oxygen it needed to survive. What was worth more to you, getting your way or keeping your squeeze around? Yeah...thought so. You should have thought about that in the heat of battle.
Mars opposite Pluto
Hey, jealous lover! You assumed the role of a punitive first-grade teacher: standing over your lover, shaking your finger at naughty behavior, hectoring and blustering. Unfortunately, in order to avoid your lectures, your lover turned off. They weren't listening, so why were you bothering to express yourself so forcefully and frequently? You two were at odds, bickering over small things to avoid talking about the Great Big Thing neither of you wanted to face. But hiding your head in the sand got you exactly nowhere. You two really needed to face facts and look at obstacles truthfully. You and your lover weren't particularly well-matched, it is true. While you were all speed and action and energy, your lover was dark, secretive, maybe even a bit cruel. But something in you craved the abuse and invited the ill-treatment. If you had really wanted to make this work, you needed to find a balance. You needed to get as much as you gave -- so if you found you were not receiving as much affection and attention, you needed to put your energies elsewhere and dial down your emotions a bit. Your lover would have appreciated the break, and you would have gotten back into balance. But given your mismatch, you are probably better off apart.
Jupiter opposite Mars
How does the old song go? One is the loneliest number but two can be as bad as one? This love relationship was sometimes a lonely place. The two of you didn't always see eye to eye. There was friction. Fighting. Uncomfortable silences, and a big space between you in bed. The problem lay in your disparate natures. Your partner was passionate, aggressive, forceful; you were more thoughtful and optimistic. You were alarmed and annoyed with what you viewed as your lover's pushiness and bossiness -- you may even have been concerned about a certain tendency towards physical aggression. It was scary, huh? Particularly to one like you, who could see the forces at work so clearly but couldn't make the jump to understanding what your lover was so worked up over. If you had really wanted this relationship to survive, you could have been the soothing balm that calmed your lover's rattled soul. You needed to stop pointing out problems and poking at weak spots. Instead, you needed to treat your lover with kindness, as you would like to be treated. You couldn't expect a mirror of yourself. Your lover had a unique personality and outlook; you couldn't just paper over your differences. Some flexibility and understanding would have gone far, so when your next lover suggests it, keep that in mind.
Mercury opposite MercuryBicker bicker bicker, bitch bitch bitch -- it was a good thing you and your sweetie had each other, because no one else could stand you. The pair of you were quick to pick fights, even quicker to find fault, or blame each other for what was going wrong. And then both of you laboriously explained your point of view, blissfully unaware that your partner was just waiting for you to shut up so they could get a word in. You may have found you had many arguments related to time, or agreed-upon details: How many times did your lover botch a plan to meet up somewhere? And how furious were you each time it happened? Your endless minor disagreements delivered zilch in the way of furthering your relationship. In fact, they served to drive you apart, since both of you were apt to say any old thing that came into your head when you were angry, turning a fight about dishes into a full-scale war. However, the news didn't have to be all dire. You and your dearest did have quite the stimulating relationship. You were never bored. You could even have been happy together, if you had learned to give each other equal time on the microphone. If you had started listening as much as you talked, you'd have seen the friction dial down.
Jupiter opposite Mercury
At your best, you were a pair of cooing lovebirds: sweet, adoring, inclined towards generosity and good times and cheer. It sounds so positive, does it not? And it generally was, except that for the pair of you there was no restraint. Neither of you knew how to hold back, how to stop yourself before you said too much, how to discipline yourselves. You indulged all your appetites -- for food, for passion, for drink, for fun. You encouraged each other in your excesses, and inevitably the bill for all this high living came due. And that's when the friction started between you, as each blamed the other for money problems, weight issues, consequences stemming from not taking care of responsibilities.The problem did not have to be that tough to iron out. You could have sought out professional help in your problem areas. Hired someone to help you make a budget for you, engaged a professional trainer, or otherwise found a pro who would have spurred you to some kind of action. Let loose on the world, you're a force to be reckoned with -- all you have to do is ensure your energy is being channeled into positive areas. With a little more discipline on your part, your love life will come back into balance.
Saturn opposite Uranus
People probably told you that you and your lover were an 'interesting' couple. You two didn't add up on paper. You were the solid and reliable one, who held down a good job and trotted through life's paces staunchly. Your sweetie, on the other hand, was a mover-and-shaker, given to dramatic (and nerve-wrackingly sudden!) life-changing moves, glamour, and indulgence. But something about the two of you worked, at least for a while. It was not all sunshine and roses, though. One of you -- likely you -- was quite jealous and possessive, a quality the other found particularly unappealing. The jealous partner demanded too much information, and wanted the relationship moving in a defined direction, now. This left the other partner feeling stifled, rebellious -- and ironically, in the mindframe to stray.If the jealousy could have been conquered, there was plenty to recommend your pairing. You enjoyed each other's company; your conversation sparkled and snapped. The jealous partner had to vow to lighten up a little -- and then actually do it. This stimulating relationship might have been well worth the effort, and giving up those negative emotions would have removed the anchor that weighed you both down.
Sun quincunx Mars
Oh, you poor thing. You tried so hard, didn't you? You strived to improve yourself, tune up your relationship, make yourself clear. You were convinced that if your lover would only understand your point of view, if you could find the right words, that all the awkwardness between you would disappear. Sorry, but it was not going to be that easy. Think of it like this: You were a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. You and your mate had much in common: verve, drive, a zest for life. But there were many other things you disagreed on. You, in particular, exhibited signs of arrogance, jealousy, insecurity; all things you knew made you less attractive to your dazzling catch of a mate. There were others who wanted to take your place and you knew it. But you couldn't seem to stop trying to explain yourself once and for all and clear things up between you. Nothing you said did the trick, though. The key was in your behavior instead of your speech. Were you delightful to come home to, loving, interested in what your mate said and did? No? If not, nothing you could say would have taken the place of that lack and maybe you are better off apart.
Venus quincunx Jupiter
Both of you were such warm and loving people -- so why was there such a distance between you? As hard as you tried, you weren't able to get close and comfy with your lover. You admired your sweetie's wide-open mind and earthy sense of humor, while in return you were admired for your easy way with people and your vast capacity to love. Yet somehow things didn't hang together. You still got nervous around your sweetie. Conversation didn't flow. You tended to show each other your social smiles rather than melding together easily. Time and attention could have melted the frost between you, had both of you cared enough to weather your difficulties. You shared many things in common, including a passion for the arts and a desire to improve yourselves. If you'd have learned to travel together down life's path, you would have brought out the best in each other and gone further than either of you could alone. And it could have been done -- two people with such generous spirits should certainly have been able to find it in themselves to bend enough to accommodate the needs and desires of each other. You'll know better next time.
Venus quincunx Saturn
The problem within your relationship might not have been a problem for everyone. Unfortunately, given your makeup, it was for you. You lacked heat together. Lusty, sensual being that you are, you've felt the zing of a hot physical connection before, and this wasn't it. When you kissed you didn't feel butterflies, in fact, you had to work to feel anything at all. Worse, your lover tended to be somewhat cold, withholding the easy affection and cuddles that might have made up for a lack of ardor elsewhere. The answer lay, surprisingly, in your past. Why were you so intent on showing your love physically? What did it mean to you to have a lover who yearns for an erotic connection with you? What insecurities of yours were tweaked by a lover who could resist your wiles -- and just who in your past did this attraction/repulsion, push/pull scenario remind you of? If you had decided this relationship was otherwise worth it, and were able to rid yourself of your emotional baggage (as well as your knee-jerk desire to wrap your lover around your little finger), this relationship could have been blessed with lasting stability. The power was within you.
Jupiter quincunx Sun
On paper, you and your love had so much in common -- why couldn't you seem to make it work? Both of you were big-hearted and loving, willing to give as well as to take. You had a mutual interest in high living; a love of the best in food and furnishings and fashion. Your friends got along, and even your family members pulled you aside to compliment you on your significant other. So why couldn't you find a comfortable place? Conversation didn't flow easily between you. There was awkwardness. Neither one of you was sure of the other and you couldn't let go or trust.The answer was in your ability to remain flexible. Yes, there was a certain way you wanted things to go, but because you were not able to bend, your love relationship shattered. You could have asked your lover for a wish-list and shared your own; allowed your whole soul to be viewed and not held back. If there were things you wanted from your lover you had to ask for them, and be willing to give what was asked in return. These conversations are never easy, but you needed to break through the obstacles between you if you two were to progress.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
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