The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Oooh, was your lover ever hot. Your friends were all so jealous of you. How ever did you bag such a magnetic, sexy specimen? You were in awe yourself, so attracted that you could barely think -- and there was the rub. All your life you had been able to wrap lovers around your little finger with your sultry and seductive power, but this time you found a sweetie who wouldn't let you have the upper hand. You were the one waiting around for phone calls. You let your lover decide where to go, and when, and how. You even kept silent rather than expressing any negative feelings, for fear your lover would run the other direction. Ouch! Didn't it feel awful to be so squelched?Here's a little secret -- as much as your lover seemed to want to control you, giving all your power away made your sweetie view you with contempt, not adoration. You needed to marshal your confidence and fight back. Ask for what you wanted. Demand equal time and equal power. Winning a few battles, in this case, was the only way you could ultimately have won the war. And next time, don't cave in so fast. You've plenty to offer a partner, and you demand respect.
You and your sweetie had a problem: You were both hotheaded. Easy to insult and quick to criticize, you fought over the silliest things, and pursued each battle to the death. Afterwards you turned the cold shoulder to your partner. The problem dynamics were at the very root of your pairing. Though your connection was passionate and intense, it was also inclined to tumult, since both of you tended to view a difference of opinion as a threat to your egos. In addition, you may have found yourself cursed with a curious compulsion to blurt out the most inappropriate things -- or a habit of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. You both needed to work at it if you wanted this one to be a go. You never melded together smoothly because you didn't put the time in. You should have scheduled regular appointments to sit down calmly and work on your issues. If the urge struck to have a rager, it would have been better to table the issue until your next meeting instead. If you could have gotten a little distance, gained a little perspective, you both could have learned to appreciate what the other had to give.
There was a crucial imbalance in your relationship, and it tore your partnership to shreds. Sorry to break the news to you, but most of the problems could be laid at your door. You held out on your lover, emotionally and physically. It wasn't that you were repelled by your mate -- you chose yourself this sensual social butterfly, after all. That physical attraction and emotional bond was what got you into this relationship. But something went awry. You grew colder. You saw your sweetie as begging for crumbs of affection, which you selfishly withheld. What made you so haughty and dismissive?If you were truly dissatisfied with your pairing, it's good that you tallied up your bills and moved on. But had there still been a spark, you should have investigated why you turned so chilly. Was it fear -- of being vulnerable, of letting someone know you completely -- that held you back? Was it connected to past experiences in which you got the short end of the stick? A little navel-gazing was in order; once you healed your own old wounds you'd have had more to give to your yearning significant other. It's never too later for self examination, and doing it now will improve your relationships later.
There's an old Chinese proverb that goes like this: 'May you live in interesting times.' On the surface it seems like a blessing. But you of all people could confirm that it can also be a curse. This partner who claimed your heart was exciting all right -- and completely unpredictable. You would come home at night to find that your lover changed the curtains in the living room or, oh, changed careers and made plans to move to Antarctica. You like excitement as much as the next person, but that was ridiculous. You two had a lot of trouble managing the day-to-day problems, because who had time to figure out what day to visit Uncle Fred in the hospital when you were arguing over giant life-changing issues?But you needed to roll with it if you wanted to make this thing work. You couldn't ask for stability from a live wire. Instead, you could have just enjoyed the passion and intensity that was the silver lining of the rather dramatic life you chose. You may not have had quiet nights snuggling on the sofa, but you would have had the kind of love relationship that made for great stories -- and great highs.
When you first met your lover you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. Here was a lover who would let you steer the ship, deciding where you went and with whom. Someone who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams. You loved all that, but somehow it wasn't enough. Your partner was loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You felt like you couldn't trust them to always be there for you -- your lover meant well but found it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You felt like you needed something more solid and stable.It is true you faced many challenges in this relationship, but had your love been strong enough you could have conquered your difficulties. You didn't tackle your issues squarely or learn the art of compromise. If your lover bent to meet you halfway, you would have needed to bend likewise. You had to decide how you would keep your patterns from repeating. It would have taken discipline on both your parts, but with some time and practice these new patterns would have come more naturally. With this experience under your belt you'll have a better ideal of how to do it next time.
If you two had been a personal ad, you'd have been the one awash in verbiage about cozy cuddles by the fire and sunset walks on the beach. You snuggled and cooed -- I love you hunny-bunny! Not half as much as I love you, cutsie-wootsie! All that warm-puppy love was sweet, but you were making everyone else at the table sick, particularly since they saw through the act. The truth was that you two were much more in love with love than you were with each other, and that you spent so much time polishing your adoring-lovers act that you didn't truly get to know each other. Had you two wanted to make this work out, you needed to drop the syrup, and start doing some real work. You guys liked each other, right? Well, right? If you had to pause before answering that question, there was a reason why. Did you share values? Where did you see this relationship going? A few discussions should have gotten things started. It would have been difficult, to be sure, to puncture the sweet pink balloon you were living in, but it was a dream world, one that should have been replaced with something solid and dependable.
You needed to slow down. You were racing along with too little thought to where you would ultimately end up. You were so involved with the here and now that you were not thinking enough about things to come. And you were apt to be ruled by your emotions rather than your intellect, an impetuousness that affected your love relationship. You were mighty hard to live with, weren't you? Difficult to please, you sulked when you could have been making nice, you found fault with your lover when things should have been going just fine. Yep, you really put your relationship and your lover under a microscope, but what you should have been doing was some self-examination. Unresolved issues kept you dissatisfied. You were repeating a psychodrama from your past, and you cast your lover in a role of your choosing. There could have been a lot there to love if you could have just laid off a little. It is time to unbend. Cast yourself free from your old ways and look at your relationships anew, and your good fortune will return.
Friends didn't seem so friendly for the pair of you -- it's likely you had a lot of friction around the issue of pals. You would have liked to spend evenings at home or spend your spare time in pursuits that broadened the mind; your lover, on the other hand, just seemed to want to hang out. All the time. With just about anyone. With people, in fact, who's friendship you would have preferred not to spend one iota of free time cultivating. Both of you wished the other would bend, and what's worse is that neither of you seemed to communicate your feelings about such matters in a way the other understood. What you needed to make this work was more alone time together, and your sweet companion was more than willing to schedule special dates for you. You could have taken up an activity together that you'd both have enjoyed -- perhaps something like a dance class, or a course in sensual massage for couples, anything that would have gotten you to slow down long enough to enjoy yourself as well as book a slot in your lover's busy schedule. More harmony more of the time would have helped you both to sing in tune.
It felt like you and your partner were out of sync. Casually tossed-off remarks turned into major fights; small issues loomed between you as if they were large ones. The problem at the root of it all was that you and your lover had a hard time communicating with each other. You weren't a big fan of long, rambling talks about your relationship. You preferred to spend your time relaxing and having fun, letting the chips fall where they may. But your partner was keen on analyzing your problems, pinning them down, discussing them (to death, in your opinion). You often felt trapped by all the chatter. Why couldn't you just enjoy yourselves?But there was a method to your partner's madness -- you shouldn't have let childish petulance keep you from advancing in your relationship. No, it was not fun to have long, meaningful talks about your differences, but through them you would have learned to make compromises. Both you and your sweetie could have had each other's best interests in mind. Working from that standpoint you soon would have seen eye-to-eye; a good reminder for the future.
Why did you assign yourself the lowest rung on the ladder? While it was true that your lover was somewhat intimidating, all passion and fire and aggression, you were a star in your own right, albeit a somewhat less showy one. You humbly hoped that others would see your worth, but you hid your own light. You shouldn't have played the part of a shrinking violet, afraid to ask for (or even demand!) what you wanted. Your mate could never have respected quiet submission. Instead, you needed to stand up to your sweetie. Speak your mind. You had a right to an equal say in your lives together, even though you felt somewhat timid when faced with your mate's firm convictions and aggressive ways of getting things done.Being this upfront may have made you uncomfortable for a time, but it's a learning process. If you'd worked through this discomfort, it would only have been temporary. In the meantime, your partner would have gradually grown to respect you more, appreciate your connection more fully. Instead you were viewed as something of a pushover. Wouldn't you rather have been a peer and an equal? You needed to stand up and take your due. There was no reason to feel like second best. Claim your place in the next relationship.
This was an intense connection, but not an easy one. You shared a certain power and magnetism, but it manifested itself in different ways. You were the overt one, forcefully reaching for what you wanted. Your partner was more secretive and controlled, a Machiavellian schemer if truth be told. This mismatch between you always seemed to put you on the disadvantage; while you were honest about your aims and feelings, your mate seemed to comply with you until the moment when you realized you had played right into your lover's hands and were being controlled like a puppet. That's when you turned on your mate with snarls, perhaps even violence -- this was an explosive combination!But you couldn't ask your partner to be any different. This was just their nature. Instead, if you had wanted this to work, you were going to have to be a little more savvy about always wearing your heart on your sleeve. Maybe it was time for you to learn how to play it cool a little. Your lover wouldn't have been able to tweak your insecurities so expertly if you didn't display them. You had to tune into your own goals, shift your energies towards taking care of yourself. Your partner would have appreciated you more when you were a little less available. But if playing this type of game wasn't for you, then you are better off apart. Hopefully your next hookup won't be quite so stressful.
Lust was the hidden spark that energized your relationship; a delightful, vital part of your pairing was the animal magnetism between the two of you. But it was not all heated kisses and breathy sighs. You and your lover were as a fractious as a pair of cats: circling each other suspiciously, then pouncing for the kill. Each of you was battling for control. Who had it? Who wanted it? It was likely that you had the overt upper hand. Your lover appeared to comply with your wishes. But secretively your sweetie rebelled, doing things that would curl your hair if only you knew.But you shouldn't have hit the road so quickly. You remain far too fascinated and frustrated with your oddball amour to make any kind of split stick. You would have done best to abandon your habitual attempts to boss your lover around. You had found one who simply wouldn't be caged or pinned down. You had to stop trying. Instead, you could have just enjoyed the interesting (and sometimes insane!) existence you found with your dear, darling, dizzying mate. Both of you needed your independence like you needed air to breathe. If you'd granted your sweetie some, you'd have had the space you craved as well.
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