The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Mars square Venus
At its worst, your relationship was the emotional equivalent of junk food: good for some jollies, but with very little real meat to it. It is possible that one of you was in the relationship primarily because of your physical connection, while the other wanted more of an emotional bond. If this describes your pairing, caution was needed, because such a mismatch of desires may have been what led to disaster. Jealousy was another area of trouble for the two of you, with both of you insecure that the other had a wandering eye. You may have found yourself behaving in uncharacteristic ways: checking up on your partner, asking too many questions. In a weird way, the sexual heat of your relationship masked a rather cold center, and it may have left you feeling emotionally malnourished. Nonetheless, you were well-placed for growth if both of you had been willing to work on the relationship. You need to learn to shore up your confidence and learn to trust. Rather than demanding, try to calm down and wait for what you want. You like action, but in relationships, calm is needed instead. Strive to be kind to future lovers,and your love will grown in fertile soil.
Saturn square Sun
You bagged yourself one great big trophy of a lover, but that did not mean your mate was easy to live with. Intense and confident, magnetic and driven, your sweetie was a star but required special handling. The two of you were often at odds. There was tension between you. Friction. Fights. You wanted things defined and taped down; your lover was more of a 'If it feels good, do it' type. And that made you feel insecure. So you said too much, demanded reassurance, embarrassed yourself. Here's a tip for future reference: When you have to ask if you're loved or adored, you suddenly become a lot less lovable and adorable.Much of the problem was related to your past. Think carefully -- were you unconsciously repeating patterns? Were you treating your lover more like a burden than a partner? If so, you found your attitude caused problems galore, not the least because a lover's supposed to be a friend and an equal, not a prima donna needing a bodyguard. Examine your actions in light of your childhood. Seeing some familiar patterns now? It was time to move forward. What's done is done, and you can't mar your future in futile attempts to change history.
Mercury square Jupiter
It's not that you didn't love and adore your precious one with every ounce of your being. It's just that if you had to listen to that superior tone of voice for one more second, you were going to put your fist through a wall. Your matchups had a way of turning into mismatches -- with your expansive, confident partner running roughshod over playful little you. It's possible that your lover was significantly older than you, or in some way more worldly -- better educated? more advanced careerwise? Certainly you felt at a disadvantage next to your sweetie, more like a student listening to a teacher's discourse, or a kid being lectured by a parent than a true partner. On the other hand, there was a lot your lover could have taught you if you were able to walk the fine line between willing acolyte and bullied wretch. If you had wanted to make this work, you needed to demand respect from your partner. A polite tone of voice was a must, and snide remarks would not be tolerated by you. Once you began standing up for yourself, the balance of power in the relationship would have shifted, and you could have both start enjoying the pleasant buzz of your stimulating love relationship.
Jupiter square Jupiter
Both of you viewed the other as rather pompous and arrogant. The irony? You saw your lover's delusions of grandeur but didn't recognize your own. You were every bit as stuck on yourself as your lover was. Why was it you couldn't see that you despised the parts of your lover that mirrored your own? Was it too painful to face? Or did you simply believe your way was the way and anyone who disagreed must be a fool? It was likely that you and your lover had widely disparate views on moral issues and ethics, and that you were both somewhat foolish with money. Credit card debt may have plagued you, as may a certain lack of motivation. You both meant well, but you egged each other's unrealistic dreams on, instead of pushing each other to perform.But underneath all the bickering, you two were well-matched. If you could have mustered a little tolerance (instead of demanding your lover toe your line), you could even have learned a lot from each other. By accepting each other, you could have expanded your world view and gotten along better with people in general. It required flexibility, sacrifice, and patience, but the work you put in would have paid off, and quickly too.
Mercury square Saturn
You were never a model of serene stability, but in this relationship your jitters were near-constant. Were you sleeping poorly? Eating junk food, or almost nothing at all? Craving cigarettes and other illicit substances? And hey, how were those dreams? Deep inside, you knew; Your love life had been going downhill for some time, and there was a reason. You chose yourself a lover who could meet you eye-to-eye intellectually, but who was a bit chilly. Whereas you reached out to the world with a rather playful and impish warmth, your lover was rather stern. If you were in a sitcom, you would have been the bratty little brother and your sweetie would have been the grouchy dad in the La-Z-Boy.On the plus side, your lover provided you with plenty of stimulation on every level. Much was demanded of you, and you had to work hard to deliver. This polished you, like a rock eroded by a powerful river. No one ever said growth was fun! And grow you did, though you remained insecure as to where your relationship was going. You were well-placed for the future if you could have engaged in meaningful communication.
Jupiter square Saturn
There was so much you admired about your lover. There was a studiousness to your sweetie, a certain drive and appreciation for hard work that the scholar in you responded to. But you longed for more lightness, more fun. Everything was a slog. Each detail had to be nailed down, and planned. Nothing was spontaneous or romantic or breathless; it was all work and no play. It's not that you didn't appreciate finding a solid, stable love-mate after all the losers you'd been through. Just that you'd have appreciated a little more levity. There may also have been family problems -- one of you was on the outs with a father, or another male relative? The problem threw more bad energy in the mix. Action was the key to smoothing the path for you two. Your relationship stagnated because you didn't put real work into it. You needed to arrange for more productive time together -- take a class? Get involved with a sport? Less time spent in serious discussions, and more time spent just enjoying each other's company, could have started some good habits. But it was up to you to get the ball rolling. After all, you were the one who wanted change.
Saturn square Uranus
You grabbed a live wire when you found this lover, and you felt the effects the entire time you were together; you were electrified, yet stunned. You worried that you couldn't trust your sweetie. You wondered what they were up to when you were not there to watch. You may even have caught yourself doing a little more snooping than you felt really comfortable with. The problem, of course, lay in the time when you were together, not when you were apart. If things were really great between you, you'd have had nothing to worry about. So...were they? Or was your jealousy and insecurity tearing you apart? Did you demand to hear 'I love you' when your mate wasn't in the mood to say it? Did you ask for promises that, unwillingly given, could never be given?You could have buckled yourself in and enjoyed the ride. Your lover was always going to shake things up. You could never have had the calm security that you thought you wanted. But another name for security is boredom, and you didn't want that either. This lover didn't settle for anything less than passion and zing, and if you had chosen to hang around, that's just what you'd have gotten. Sometimes you have to make hard choices.
Jupiter opposite Mars
How does the old song go? One is the loneliest number but two can be as bad as one? This love relationship was sometimes a lonely place. The two of you didn't always see eye to eye. There was friction. Fighting. Uncomfortable silences, and a big space between you in bed. The problem lay in your disparate natures. Your partner was passionate, aggressive, forceful; you were more thoughtful and optimistic. You were alarmed and annoyed with what you viewed as your lover's pushiness and bossiness -- you may even have been concerned about a certain tendency towards physical aggression. It was scary, huh? Particularly to one like you, who could see the forces at work so clearly but couldn't make the jump to understanding what your lover was so worked up over. If you had really wanted this relationship to survive, you could have been the soothing balm that calmed your lover's rattled soul. You needed to stop pointing out problems and poking at weak spots. Instead, you needed to treat your lover with kindness, as you would like to be treated. You couldn't expect a mirror of yourself. Your lover had a unique personality and outlook; you couldn't just paper over your differences. Some flexibility and understanding would have gone far, so when your next lover suggests it, keep that in mind.
Jupiter quincunx Sun
On paper, you and your love had so much in common -- why couldn't you seem to make it work? Both of you were big-hearted and loving, willing to give as well as to take. You had a mutual interest in high living; a love of the best in food and furnishings and fashion. Your friends got along, and even your family members pulled you aside to compliment you on your significant other. So why couldn't you find a comfortable place? Conversation didn't flow easily between you. There was awkwardness. Neither one of you was sure of the other and you couldn't let go or trust.The answer was in your ability to remain flexible. Yes, there was a certain way you wanted things to go, but because you were not able to bend, your love relationship shattered. You could have asked your lover for a wish-list and shared your own; allowed your whole soul to be viewed and not held back. If there were things you wanted from your lover you had to ask for them, and be willing to give what was asked in return. These conversations are never easy, but you needed to break through the obstacles between you if you two were to progress.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Your relationship was bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there was not a strong connection between you. But you were able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who chose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Didn't you always wonder about them? What did they think would happen if they weren't together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation was not a problem for you two; in fact, you may have done it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this was surely true of you and your partner. You took great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have had to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each have been involved in your own orbits that you suddenly realized that days or even weeks had gone by without you two sharing a full day together.You shouldn't have let that happen. You needed to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often can turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two had chosen to be together, and likewise, you could have chosen to grow together.
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