The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: remember how perfect things seemed back in the beginning?
Or maybe you can't even recall those glorious early days, when the future looked rosy and the possibilities for your relationship seemed limitless.
What was it that broke the two of you up, anyway?
The answer to that question is complex and multilayered, to be sure.
Had you known what your relationship trouble spots were, then you could have been better prepared to take one of three routes; avoid them as best as you could, worked through them as a team, or decided it just wasn’t worth the trouble and move on.
Your Friction, Differences and Karma meters give you a quick, at-a-glance view of the strife in your previous relationship -- all the sources of irritation, stress and hostility that ultimately led to that final goodbye.
This information can help you come to terms with your breakup, but also make you aware of pitfalls you may encounter in the future.
7-10: Ouch -- you might still be bitter
4-6: You both knew which buttons to push
0-3: The Problem? A lack of passion.
7-10: You never got each other from day one.
4-6: Your differences were eye-opening... until they got annoying!
0-3: You could still be friends
7-10: It was doomed from the start.
4-6: Unconsciously, you both acted out old issues.
0-3: At least you made new mistakes instead of repeating old ones.
Of course your relationship had issues! This meeting of two such powerful personalities was bound to strike sparks. Your lover likely excited you like no other. This force of nature tended to be impulsive and fearless, lusty and straightforward, with a confidence that rivaled your own. Tog...
Green really didn't suit you. You became so jealous of your sweetie -- you demanded every bit of free time, you didn't approve of your lover's friends. And around the edges of your consciousness snuck the suspicion that you weren't the only one your lover had on a string. It was only natur...
You and your sweetie had a problem: You were both hotheaded. Easy to insult and quick to criticize, you fought over the silliest things, and pursued each battle to the death. Afterwards you turned the cold shoulder to your partner. The problem dynamics were at the very root of your pairing...
You landed in one of those fairy tale relationships, but not in the good way. You bought the myth of Love at First Sight; hook, line and sinker. But there was no room for reality in your dream world. You were in love with love, not with your lover at all. In fact, you barely had an idea of...
Both of you viewed the other as rather pompous and arrogant. The irony? You saw your lover's delusions of grandeur but didn't recognize your own. You were every bit as stuck on yourself as your lover was. Why was it you couldn't see that you despised the parts of your lover that mirrored y...
There was so much you admired about your lover. There was a studiousness to your sweetie, a certain drive and appreciation for hard work that the scholar in you responded to. But you longed for more lightness, more fun. Everything was a slog. Each detail had to be nailed down, and planned....
You grabbed a live wire when you found this lover, and you felt the effects the entire time you were together; you were electrified, yet stunned. You worried that you couldn't trust your sweetie. You wondered what they were up to when you were not there to watch. You may even have caught y...