The Friction, Differences and Karma Meters: every couple faces a certain set of challenges, and the number and type of challenges determine whether your relationship will be merely interesting or out-and-out difficult. At The Astrologer, we've broken down these challenges into three sections: sources of friction, the major differences between you, and the karmic ties from past lives that draw you together today.
On the first two meters, Friction and Differences, a score somewhere in the middle is probably best. Friction can be a good thing -- after all, the same energy that makes you lust after each other also makes you fight. And we all know that a good argument, like good sex, clears the air and lets you know your passion is alive! The same goes for differences between you in the ways that you think and view the world: These contrasts keep the relationship dynamic.
Karma, on the other hand, isn't such a great thing, even if your past-life bonds were positive ones. This lifetime is... Read more
7-10: Open warfare
4-6: The occasional dispute
0-3: Whatever you have to say dear
7-10: Who the $#@% are you, again?
4-6: Some interesting contrasts
0-3: Two Peas in a pod
7-10: New love, same old story
4-6: Total deja-vu
0-3: No past life ties (whew!)
Mars square Venus
At its worst, your relationship is the emotional equivalent of junk food: good for some jollies, but with very little real meat to it. It is possible that one of you is in the relationship primarily because of your physical connection, while the other wants more of an emotional connection. If this describes your pairing, watch out, because such a mismatch of desires can lead to disaster. Jealousy is another area of trouble for the two of you, with both of you insecure that the other has a wandering eye. You may find yourself behaving in uncharacteristic ways: checking up on your partner, asking too many questions. In a weird way, the sexual heat of your relationship masks a rather cold center, and it can leave you feeling emotionally malnourished. Nonetheless, you are well-placed for growth if both of you are willing to work on the relationship. You need to shore up your confidence and learn to trust. Rather than demanding, learn to calm down and wait for what you want. You like action, but calm is what's needed here instead. Be kinder to each other and your love will grow in fertile soil.
Mars square Mars
You've finally met your match, a lover as brilliant and magnetic as you are. So why are you so pissed off? It seems like your lover's always trying to steal your thunder. If you have big news, your mate finds a way to top it; if you're getting attention, your mate steps all over it. You both tend to boss each other around; there are constant arguments over how to do every little thing. You pick fights over the stupidest things, and other people may have told you that your simmering anger makes you difficult to be around.This kind of conflict dims your light. When you're constantly using your powers to block your partner, you're shifting your energies away from your own goals. That's a mistake. What to do? Be the bigger person. If you freely give your lover more attention and credit, your mate will stop agitating so fiercely. The ego flare-ups will die down and you'll feel that 'us against the world, honey' feeling again. When your dueling energies are conserved, even joined, the pair of you can accomplish great things together. It'll take energy to get the ball rolling -- but what exactly do you think it takes to keep the eternal battle between you going?
Mars square Sun
Do you smell smoke? Because you and your lover are a potent -- some would say dangerous -- combination. At best you are partners in crime, both blessed with a verve and drive that propels you through life with the force of a bullet shot out of a gun. At worst, you're deadly enemies. You irritate each other, egg each other on to new heights of ego and unreason. Both of you perform for each other -- I'm the most powerful! No, me! There is constant friction between you as both of you fight for the upper hand. Even something as simple as choosing what to eat for dinner or what movie to see becomes a battle. Your friends dread being around the pair of you at times because you're so warlike. At worst, one or both of you can be abusive. The answer lies in dialing down your competitive streak. Don't bait your lover, or rise to bait. Consciously try to calm down and consider your words and actions. Don't react impulsively. Instead, slow down and think carefully about your ultimate goals, not just your emotions at a particular moment. With a little more care and attention, your relationship can swing from a constant battle to a sparkling idyll.
Jupiter square Venus
You can be a real pain in the butt, and we wouldn't blame your sweetie for booting you right out the door. Lucky for you, things haven't gotten that bad yet -- but you're pushing your luck. The fact of the matter is that you chose a lover who doesn't harmonize with you naturally. They tend towards the indulgent: fine food, good wine (and plenty of it!), and abundant socializing while your more discerning, intellectual nature cries out for weightier stimulation. You crave a lover who can talk and argue and analyze as well as experience and enjoy. So, feeling stifled in your relationship, you take it out on the one person who loves you more than any other, which just isn't fair.If you can squash your desire to lecture and hector, you can make it past this rough period. Though you refuse to see it, your lover and you actually bring out the best in each other -- you're drawn out of your stolid funk, while your lover's self-indulgent tendencies are curbed in your presence, whether you realize it or not. Try to give your lover a break. Stop trying to control and change them. Ultimately, the love you want is already in your hands.
Mars square Pluto
Green really doesn't suit you. You've become so jealous of your sweetie -- you demand every bit of free time, you don't approve of your lover's friends. And around the edges of your consciousness sneaks the suspicion that you aren't the only one your lover has on a string. It's only natural that you feel this way. You picked yourself a lover with strength: powerful and intense, willful and secretive. Even if there is not something unsavory going on, your lover is apt to withhold information, affection, and reassurance. You're left dangling on a string, wondering if you're the only one madly in love. But buck up. Part of the reason you picked the lover you did is because you're turned on by the challenge. While other lovers will fall under your spell and allow themselves to be wrapped around your little finger, this lover is a much harder nut to crack. You won't be able to control this situation -- but its burning, passionate intensity is what you crave. Tone down your jealous streak. Be a little more savvy when revealing your emotions. An ability to keep your cool is what's going to keep this love relationship on track -- and you're a lot more attractive with a little mystery around you, anyway.
Venus square Neptune
You've landed in one of those fairy tale relationships, but not in the good way. You bought the myth of love at first sight; hook, line and sinker. But there's no room for reality in your dream world. You're in love with love, not with your lover at all. In fact, you barely have an idea of who your lover really is. You've projected your dreams and fantasies onto a blank surface; what you think you love is only your own false vision. Somewhere in the back of your mind you know that you're living in a fantasy, but you've got your eyes closed. You think that if you just keep on dancing, maybe the music will never stop. Sorry, but it's not that easy, and in fact, cracks have already appeared in the facade. You're starting to have arguments more often, big and little. And you're often blindsided by what your lover says and does. However, the news isn't all bad. You and your partner are actually a beautiful match for each other, with much potential for growth within the relationship and as individuals. It's just going to take a lot more work before you hit the promised land.
Jupiter square Sun
What a couple of strutting peacocks you and your lover are! And like peacocks, you are magnificent, impressive, admired -- and rather disagreeable at times. Both you and your lover tend towards the big and bold. More is more for the pair of you, as you spend exorbitant amounts of money, time, and energy on the good life. The pair of you do everything in a big way, creating a display that's dazzling, but death on your inner lives. You spend too much time trying to impress each other and outsiders, and the result is the Yorkshire pudding of relationships -- all gorgeous and golden on the outside, just hot air on the inside.What will bring balance back to this relationship is more attention paid to life's bread-and-butter. Make sure responsibilities are taken care of before the fun starts. Don't take each other for granted; instead, check in with each other often to make sure everything's on track. Curb your tendencies for extravagance and indulgence, and turn your energies towards what really matters: family, friends, a happy home life, and each other. There's a lot of warmth and energy between you. All you need is time to appreciate it.
Sun square Neptune
You find this love so difficult to grab onto, do you not? There were other lovers you managed to wrap around your little finger, blessed as you are with a magnetism and confidence that convinces others you're always in control. But for some reason you feel you've lost your way with your current lover. You can't seem to understand each other; it's like you don't speak the same language. You may even be finding your lover harder to pin down in the day-to-day sense. Has your phone been ringing less and less? Are you spending more time at home alone waiting for something to happen? It's time to take a good hard look at your love relationship. You chose yourself a sweetie who's creative and sweet, tender and dreamy. So don't expect a partner with a fiery drive to match your own. Your lover may be trying to tell you something that you're not willing to hear. Don't expect every message to be in words -- sometimes actions can tell you much more. Learn to listen to what your lover is not saying, and you have a better chance of hanging on to this shifty, drifting love.
Mercury square Neptune
You're losing your temper with your love, and it's hardly attractive. Clearly you were taking orders from your heart and not your brain when you hooked up with your current amour, because you chose someone rather ill-suited for you on paper. While you are all power and force, drive and demand, your lover is a bit, well, wishy-washy. You want to get up and go and make and do; your lover is happier sitting in a quiet corner dreaming the day away. You think you've made plans and formulated goals, but when you turn around to check that your lover's on the same page as you, suddenly all your control's slipped away. It confuses you, and that makes you both furious and difficult to live with. The answer lies in confronting your patterns. Haven't you been having the same conversations, the same tedious arguments, over and over again? Stop repeating yourself, and stop imagining that simply confronting your lover one more time will make things change. The time has come for creative thinking, new ways of tackling the problems between you. Try something new, because what you have been doing so far certainly isn't working.
Sun opposite Jupiter
It's time for you to slow down. You've been racing along with too little thought to where you'll ultimately end up. You're so involved with the here and now that you're not thinking enough about things to come. And you're apt to be ruled by your emotions rather than your intellect, an impetuousness that's affecting your love relationship. You've been mighty hard to live with, haven't you? You're difficult to please, you sulk when you could be making nice, you find fault with your lover when things should be going just fine. Yep, you've really been putting your relationship and your lover under a microscope, but what you really should be examining is yourself. Unresolved issues are what's keeping you dissatisfied. You're repeating a psychodrama from your past, and you're casting your lover in a role of your choosing. It's time to unbend a little. Cast yourself free from your old ways and look at your lover anew. Could be there's a lot there to love if you can just lay off a little.
Sun opposite Saturn
In your heart of hearts, what you really want is a relationship that will last. You want to grow with someone, to have the freedom to keep changing across the continuum of your life and be assured that you have a partner that will roll with the punches. So isn't it nice for you that you chose the lover you did? Your sweetie is the strong solid type, a person who can make lasting connections and be loyal for life. You're both set up to make something beautiful -- so why are you stomping all over it?Stupid fights will wreck what you've got. You know it, don't you? Yet if asked for an explanation of the friction between you, the two of you would probably blame each other. Your lover's intentionally pricking your sore spots, kicking you when you're down. Wrong! Oh, so wrong! The real story is that your sweetie won't let you rest on your laurels. The very best, and nothing less, is demanded of you. If you learn how to start delivering instead of complaining, you'll find that you and your special someone have an easier path.
Venus quincunx Pluto
Your partner walks through life oozing power and intensity; a potent combination that leaves you helpless in its wake. Notice the choice of words: helpless. You're dazzled and impressed by your lover, to be sure, but most of all you feel curiously weak. You let your lover make all the decisions. You can't stand up for yourself. You feel more like a wuss than you ever have before, and you can't see any way out. Even worse, your lover seems to delight in having the upper hand. You've always been the one to choose when, where and how you'll see those enchanted by your charms, but in this relationship you're the one waiting by the phone. You're so confused about your partner's feelings and intentions that you've even started uttering those dreaded four words: what are you thinking? If you want to sustain your connection, you're going to have to go about it more cleverly. Your partner is committed to head games, so play a few yourself. Stop reacting to your lover's obvious manipulations. Stay cool. Just enjoy yourself. Your lover will be irresistibly attracted by your confidence, and you'll stop feeling like an also-ran.
Sun quincunx Pluto
Your love isn't always pretty. What was once a delicious attachment has collapsed in on itself. What happened? One of you forgot the old maxim about the need to let the things you love roam free. Insecurity leads to jealousy, jealousy into attempts to control each other. Intense arguments flare, marked by middle-of-the-night discussions, slammed doors, raised voices. Remember when you used to have fun together? It seems but a distant memory now. But take heart, all is not lost. What's needed is a little balance and flexibility. You didn't choose a lover you could wrap up in a tidy little box. No, your lover is passionate and powerful; someone you can admire but not someone who's easy to live with. So don't expect every aspect of your lives together to go just exactly as you'd like all the time. Your lover surprises you, and though that can be disconcerting, with the right mindset it's exhilarating. You're never bored, and that counts for a lot. Enjoy your intense connection, because without it your life would be a lot more gray.
Mercury quincunx Pluto
Your powerful, intense lover turns you on, all right. So much so that you wonder who else has hot pants for your One. Where does your lover go when away from you? What are all those numbers programmed into your sweetie's cell phone, anyway? Who else has their greedy little eyeballs on your special someone? Thus runs your paranoia, and your secretive lover doesn't give you a whole lot of reassurance, either. When you screw up the courage to question, you're made to feel ridiculous. Or worse, your lover splits, vowing to return when you're acting rationally. But how can you act rationally in the face of your overwhelming jealousy? This is a tough nut to crack, because your insecurities melded with your lover's tendency to withhold both information and affection makes for a sticky sitch. And your own tendency to want to talk things out won't work. Instead, try marshaling your independent streak. Your lover's partial to head games, so play a few yourself. Act like you're calm and collected, and soon not only will you feel that way but your lover will behave better too.
No conjunctions
There's glue, and then there's glue. Elmer's versus epoxy, Velcro versus nails. Fortunately, with no difficult conjunctions between you, your relationship is bound by the easy-to-separate type of togetherness, not the wild-horses-couldn't-drag-us-apart variety. Now, don't misunderstand: This is not to say that there's not a strong connection between you. But it's nice, isn't it, to be able to take the occasional separate vacation; to enjoy your own interests without your partner feeling threatened; to be two distinct individuals who choose to hang out together. Compare this to the joined-at-the-hip, can't-bear-to-be-apart couple. Don't you always wonder about them? What do they think will happen if they're not together for an entire evening, much less a day or even a week?Separation is not a problem for you two; in fact, you may do it by choice on a regular basis. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this is surely true of you and your partner. You take great joy in sharing your individual experiences, as well as in spending time together. If anything, you might have to make it a point to schedule in time to be together! You may each be so wrapped up in your own orbit that you suddenly realize that days or even weeks have gone by without you two sharing a full day together.Don't let that happen. Use the previous sections of this report to discover the challenges of your relationship, which so often turn out to be opportunities for growth and development. You two have chosen to be together, and likewise, you can choose to grow together.
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